God said, Leave now and don t look back. She left because she was told to, but she clearly didn't want to. Her action of looking back was evidence of what was in her heart. God judges the heart, not the actions. Her heart was regret for leaving an evil and depraved place.
Here s a woman who KNOWS that where she is isn t safe for her children, isn t safe for guests, isn t safe for her or her husband, as evinced by the mob pounding in their door. Their neighbors and townspeople didn t give a hang about them, just wanted what they wanted and were willing to be violent to get it, putting their own wants and desires fulfilled, even to the point of harming someone else to get it. Would you do that?
The place where they lived was SO depraved that God took special care to get those four people out before He blew it up -- AND Lot s wife was so depraved herself that she cared far more about her LIFESTYLE rather than her LIFE, period.
She was told, point blank, flat out, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. She was told do not look back. She couldn t help herself. Why? She was depraved. She was so far gone in her heart that she cared more about her the lifestyle that place provided than anything else.
Two angels were just in her house. Don t you think she should have taken them seriously? The men of the town basically broke in her door to have sex with her guests (angels), and God struck them with blindness for their wickedness, and her heart was SO depraved that she didn t even get THAT clue that maybe, just maybe, God was serious.
At that point, when your heart is that depraved that you have seen what God has done, know what He can do, know what God is getting ready to do, destroy the place where you live -- a place you shouldn t have been in the first place -- and your only regret is leaving Sodom & Gamorah (sp?) What was it there that she enjoyed MORE than the safety of her children? Makes you wonder. There s places that we all know and describe thus, and we stay out of those places for the sake and safety of ourselves and our children. She didn t care.
Let s put this in today s perspective: We have, all of us, read the stories in the paper of the woman who allowed her boyfriend to beat her child to death. Why? Was the sex that good? Was the money that plentiful? Were the gifts and prestige of being with him THAT splendid that you would sacrifice your child for your own gain? What do YOU say about such a person? Probably the same thing that I and everyone else with half a wit says. I'm not talking about someone who lives in a lousy neighborhood because that's what they can afford and that's all they can do. I'm talking about the woman who CHOOSES -- conscious choice -- to be with a man who harms her children for her own gain. The things you say about THAT woman is the same thing we say about Lot s wife.
Furthermore, at the point your heart is that depraved that your ONLY regret is leaving S&G, your heart condition is not such that you would have sought forgiveness in the first place; ergo, she never would have asked because she didn t see her longing for sin as sin.
As far as fair and just: I tell my son, Don't eat that cake. If you eat that cake I'm going to spank you. Now my son eats that cake. Knowing that he wasn't supposed to, knowing that there was going to be a consequence for that action, he CHOSE to do it anyway.
Now here I am as mom. Forget all the people who say, That's ridiculous that you should spank your boy over a cake. No, no, no, says I. I'm not spanking him over a cake. I'm spanking him for disobedience. He's old enough to know to obey. He knew what that cake was for. He knew it was for someone else. He knew it had a different purpose.
Now if I don't spank him, I also make myself a liar. Can you trust a liar? No. Can you trust someone who continually changes their mind? No. How does my son trust me and believe me if I don't follow through with what I said I was going to do? How does my daughter make the decision to obey me when she can't trust me to do what I said I was going to do? How is God any different?
If God says He's going to spank me for my disobedience and then doesn't, how do I trust Him when He says He's going to save me from this or that? I can't. The only way you believe someone, trust them, is when they show that they are trustworthy. And one shows his/her trustworthiness by ALWAYS keeping their word. Failing even once tells me you might just fail. God never fails, and I know this. Why? Because He keeps His word, always, without fail. Even when it's not nice. Even when I don't like it. Even when I cry and whine for something different -- which I have done. But because I know that God keeps His word, then I know to trust Him, respect Him, and believe Him.
We don't EARN redemption. It is given to us because our heart condition has turned from one of depravity -- or whatever word you would like to use -- to sorrow, contrition, regret for the things we've done. We all know that we have, all of us, done bad things. Hurt people. Made others cry. Damaged them. Lied. Cheated. Stolen. Hurt. Plotted destruction of our enemies, both perceived and real. And people have done so to us. No one is perfect. No man is righteous; no, not one. It is in recognizing this -- and that recognition comes from God -- that we turn our hearts to God (because they've been away from God), and seek forgiveness. Some of us never do. Like Lot's wife, who knew and didn't care. Was more interested in the lifestyle than the life. And we all know people like this.
And just in case anyone's wondering, the bit about my son and the cake is just an analogy.
And no, I'm not judging Lot's wife's salvation or lack thereof, just looking at the evidence and making a supposition, and educated guess. Only God knows, but the Book certainly does give us a clue.