Christians, why do you think being gay is a choice?

Question

I just don't understand why you think it's a choice. You can't control your feelings. You're straight, so you're just not attracted to the same sex, no matter how hard you try, you just can't feel attracted to them. SAME WITH GAYS.

I'm sure you've had a crush, right? I'm sure you've tried to get over someone, but you can't, no matter how hard you try.

Some of you may even be in love, which is great. But now think about if a large majority of the world were determined to split you up because they thought you were sick and disgusting and they were saying hateful things all because you fell in love, which you couldn't control. All you wanted was to be left alone and be happy with your partner, but people were making that extremely hard. How would you feel? Be honest with yourself.

Unfortunately, it's people like bitter Christians and other homophobics that may even lead the person to commit suicide cause they're sick of everyone's hurtful comments and they get no support. Guess what, it's a growing problem that many adolescents are facing, and it's getting worse. It may even end up being a problem your own kid has to face, and when they see that their parents can't accept them for who they are, well that's just asking for problems, isn't it?

WHY CAN'T YOU LEAVE THEM BE?? They were born that way, they can't control their feelings. What does their relationship have to do with you anyway, it does not affect you in any way. It's disgraceful that you try to split these perfectly happy couples up, all because of your own SELFISH ways. It's time Christian's started to get their head out the Bible, and FACE THE REAL WORLD.

Also, if it was a choice, who the hell would openly be gay anyway knowing all the criticism they get and they could just easily be straight.

PS: Don't turn this around and come up with some questions about killers and pedo's, cause that is a choice or it can be a serious psychological problem. So don't even bother comparing them.

Answer 1

I was always taught you can't help who you love...I agree with that. Mostly since I see women stay with mean that beat the crap out of them because they fully believe he loves them, and they love him.



Love is blind, a shame hate and bigotry are not as well .

Answer 2

I hate to say it, largely because I hate the fact it can honestly be said, but most people aren't very good at thinking things through. Christians tend to believe it's a choice because they get as far as "two plus two equals" and think they've solved the problem, and then scoff at you and say "four? It doesn't say four anywhere in that problem" if you point out the answer to them.



I don't know why, but people seem very hampered by an innate failure to grasp that you usually have to move beyond the simple terms contained within the problem in order to find the answer.



The Bible says being gay is a sin, and sin is a choice. Ergo, homosexuality must be a choice and not something that is part of someone's nature. Mind you, even if that were true, it means there is still something in the nature of those who are homosexual that leads them to choose differently than heterosexuals, but like I said...

Answer 3

Not all Christians think it's a choice, in fact there are many openly gay Christians. Some Christians believe that God makes people gay so as to call them to a life of celibacy. Why he would give you sexual desires if he wanted you to be celibate is beyond me, but anyway. Other Christians believe homosexuality is a sin, just like the common sins that every other Christian commits, and is therefore covered under the "Jesus died on the cross for us" thing. For them, as long as Gays are in a loving monogamous relationship, and accept Jesus as their savior, they are saved. These types of Christians are in the minority, but they are more numerous than most people think.



The rest of the Christian world just can't let go of their prejudice and when the Bible supports it, that's really a hard thing to git rid of. Just like it was hard getting rights for women because of what the Bible says about woman being subservient to man and other stuff. Same is true of slavery, the people that supported it used the Bible to back it up because it's condoned in the Bible. Also, antisemitism was a big problem for Christians in the past, because it was the Jewish leaders in the Bible that were responsible for Jesus' death. It's hard to get rid of prejudice, but even harder, when you think that God is telling you to be that way.

Answer 4

That has to be the funniest P.S. I've seen in a long time!



I tried reading your rant but it was just that - a rant. You do not want to hear my opinion, you want to change it. Your question is therefore not genuine. I am not one of those Christians that doesn't want to hear your opinion ... but to assume you know what I believe is just as ignorant as what you are pre-accusing me of.



Some right-wing Christians have obviously got under your skin so you judge every single person that believes in Christ ... no matter what their beliefs ... with the experience you've had with a handful of people.



I have a full answer, but will give you the short version as I don't think you'd listen anyway. Christianity is all about suppressing urges that we are born with. If you're against controlling urges that you're born with, then Christianity isn't for you.

Answer 5

They are just homophobes using their bible as an excuse for their bigotry and intolerance.



What is interesting is how much time some of them spend on this one subject. It seems to be like an obsession with them. Yet many of the other 'laws' in the bible are ignored, like not wearing clothing of mixed fibres (Leviticus 19:19). Or not getting a tattoo (Leviticus 19:28).



There is also the hypocrisy of them saying that we should not be obsessed with sex, but they won't shut up about homosexuality which is largely defined by sex.

Answer 6

I'm afraid some Christians will continue to persecute these people, because they see homosexuality as a sin. Instead of poking their noses into other peoples business, they should be working on their own salvation, which if they are not careful could lose it.

Answer 7

Most christians do not understand the concept. Here is the debate I use time and agian when dealing with those who do not get it for serial predators. Sorry, but the basic is the same premise.



Find out if they like tall and handsome or short and shy. From now on, they are to only find attractive the opposite of what they are thinking is. For instance if they think Edward from twilight is sexy, from now on they are to only crave Norm from Cheers. It works even better if you switch up the gender on them. If they love a certain color - from now on you love opposite. The fact remains what turns on a person cannot be changed..it is hardwired.

Answer 8

They are starting to accept that it is not a choice. But.. They expect us not to "act" on it..



So they would prefer I live my life in denial, repressed, loveless and sexless.



Fook that.



I've had the same partner for 17 years. Which is far longer than many married then divorced Christian fundies could say.

Answer 9

They're just admitting that they have sexual feelings towards members of their own sex. Not that that's a bad thing, but for them it is apparently...



Even if it is not genetic, and is based upon experience and enviroment, that doesn't make it a choice.

Answer 10

Because gay is simply an anchor used to describe the identity of some who behave in sexually abnormal ways. Some people give it identity by calling themselves gay leading themselves and others to assume it is a state of being when in fact it is only a transitional emotional event.

Answer 11

I leave homosexuals and gays alone . I did marry one who decided to be heterosexual but believe me they pursued me. Somewhere there has to be an admission that some people are able to make a choice not to be gay. Some people are not able to choose. Some people bonded to the first person who had sex with them and it happened to be of the same sex. Some were molested as children and decided they were homosexual. I have known all of these types. Sexuality may be very fluid and for some it may be very rigid.

Answer 12

Please don't degrade all Christians with such a generalization of us. The world likes to judge all Christians by those in name only and mostly what the world recognizes are the self righteous religious spirited who call themselves Christ followers but are not. "There but for the grace and mercy of God go I", is what the true believer in Jesus is made of in their hearts.

Answer 13

I don't think it's a choice and I'm Christian.

Answer 14

Were all born in sin, and by human nature we want to sin. So it isn't rare for someone to unwillingly be born with a strong homosexual attraction and there's nothing wrong with that, however acting upon the attraction is another matter entirely.



If someone is a kleptomaniac and can't control his urge to steal items, does that make stealing right? No, so why should homosexuality be right?



In any case if a homosexual sincerely asked God for His Holy Spirit to fill his life and purify his heart and mind, then his desires will vanish. It's a pretty simple process, yet people choose to act upon their desire rather than to follow God.



And if they don't want God, then there is nothing to stop them to continue in their actions.

Answer 15

I am Roman Catholic, and I fully agree with you.

Answer 16

Because anything that is scientific that disproves the Bible is false.



For example, science says homosexuality is not a choice.



Bible says it is a choice (?) ... "effeminate" men are sent to hell according to Corinthians. Therefore, if you where born and tend to have women characteristics you are going to hell.



Therefore, science is wrong.

Answer 17

Just like people choose to bee virgin nun married a whore slut whoremongrole pimp player fornicator homosexual beastyality have babies rase a family

Answer 18

Because you have a choice between being gay or straight!!