How do you practice not having attachment in your life?

Question

I find it easy to not be attached to material things and to not have desires to own things but I find its not so easy when it comes to having attachment to people and desiring a certain outcome in relationships with men. So much so that I often overlook the reality of the situation.

How do you not create attachment in your life?

Answer 1

you must not want to have attachments. How do we practice this? As you see with your lack of attachment to material things . . . we don't want what we don't need. So, then, the trick is not to need.

It is not easy to do (I am not capable of it for sure). The best I can come up with for myself is to remind me that we are born alone and we will die alone . . . anything, or anyone we know ("want" or "need") , at best will only be able to be with us tangentially, and not forever. We walk with people, side by side, and not on the same path, as we are meant to. Eventually our paths take different directions so we should prepare ourselves to that . . . . let it go when it happens.

Peace and light,



Further thought: Buddhism is ALL a bout practice by the way. It is a path or a way, not an end.

Answer 2

That's a difficult one... I consider individuals are routinely geared to companion and revel in companionship with different humans. Those matters result in attachment. Personally, I do not consider you would WANT not to have attachment. You do not get heartbroken, definite, however you do not get to like both. But when you consider that you are asking, I'm definite you could have suggestion it over. I am an excessively dating-orientated man or woman, so I have not definitely attempted this, however my wager might conveniently be placing it into train. If you're employed rough to ideal a transfer in basketball, you finally get well at it. Same for this- if you do not companion with humans, you will not emerge as hooked up.

Answer 3

Trying to be unattached in the way you suggest seems to indicate an attachment to being unattached. You can't "practice" such things, since any practice would be merely intellectual. Being without attachments is a product of enlightenment, not a path to it.