Question:
how can i fix my relationship wit god?
cassanova
2008-12-07 21:10:01 UTC
i should know this by now, my parents are pastors but im almost 18 and they want me to knwo how to fix things on my own and to know god more.. i have been sturggling with my relationship with god since september.. im a senior in high school and this is my first year in a public school, since frosh year ive been in a christian school so this hasnt been a problem but since september i have noticed myself slip.. ive been trying to figure out what to do.. alot of things have been going on in my life that have caused my slipping mainly in change in enviornment and my family.. i need to know how to get back or what to do.. if you can please pray for me.. thank you.. any suggestions or upliftingness is very welcome..
Sixteen answers:
Jim
2008-12-07 21:31:03 UTC
You are in charge. You are choosing, electing and deciding. Nobody out here can do for you what you can do for yourself and must do for yourself. You see, it all has to do with HOW you decide to react to what is happening to you. You are the one who decides. So if what is happening to you, you find you do not like, then change how you react to it. Choose to see things differently.



You are your own power. Others are not. You have all the tools necessary in your life to live it just exactly as you choose to. You were created by God in perfection, not in imperfection, because God creates no thing which is not perfect, ever! Believe in yourself, and all things will be provided to you.



God is always there for you, and you are never EVER alone. But more importantly, if you want to know God better, if you really desire to know God, then go within yourself. God is NEVER found "out there" somewhere else. There is no such thing as ELSE. You have thought the world is out there (outside of you), but instead, the world is inside of YOU. So this means, God is inside of YOU.



If you want to know God, then stop telling your story to God - instead, LISTEN. God cannot speak to you if you are not listening. Jesus frequently brought this up in his teachings - people were not listening (they were not "hearing."). So if you want to hear God, then LISTEN. Go within yourself and trust yourself. This is the first step. Trust. Trust what you hear about your feelings, for feelings are your direct connection with God. Feelings have meanings to you that words can never describe. And God, ever always the clarifier, speaks to you in a way that you get the meaning - the clear meaning of things. Listen to your HEART because your heart (not your mind) but instead, your HEART, is the gateway to God. What you feel about something is your truest knowing.



Ask God to help you FEEL about something. What is it that you are feeling? Listen to that feeling and honor it. That is God speaking to you.



What is it that you are experiencing in life? Nothing happens by chance. There is no such thing as luck. And the word FATE means: From All Things Everywhere. You are creating everything you are experiencing, so if what you are experiencing is something you do not want, then THINK DIFFERENTLY. Use thought, which is your creative force, to create a new reality for you, a new way to understand what is happening. You are more powerful than you think. So when God does not communicate by feeling, God communicates by experience. To change your experience about something, change your thought about it! How do you think about something? This requires you to become aware of your every thought.



And don't discount imagination, for there is nothing (NO THING) which God will not use, to get messages through to you. Imagination means to IMAGE-IT. So imagination are the pictures you see in your mind, they are the formed images of your thoughts and these formed images are your reality (notice that everything you know comes from the images you perceive in your mind). Imagination is just as much of an effective tool of communication as any other. Imagination does NOT mean hallucination!



The challenge in life is to see God everywhere and in all things, to not believe in separation or exclusion, for these things do NOT exist. God is never separate from you and you are never separate from the Creator. In fact, you are a minature God yourself, having been created in God's image and likeness, you have been given all the powers that God has to create - and you are doing this every moment of your life. You may not know you are doing it, but you are. You are the creator of your own experiences, your own thoughts - your own reality.



When you realize these are truths, that I have told you, then you will become empowered in your life - ACT the part that you are. Believe in yourself, never disempower yourself or think less of yourself. For whatever you think of yourself is how your reality forms and unfolds before you.
anonymous
2016-03-14 17:14:53 UTC
This may be hard to take as an answer. It sounds very much like you are trying to change him. You said from the outset of the relationship that he was "never an overly affectionate person". That, in essence, is the package you bought. Its like me looking at my 16 year old Dodge and wishing it were a Ferrari. I knew it was a Dodge and would run like crap when it aged but I bought it anyway. It runs like crap but I cant fault the car for not being what I want it to be when I knew full and well what it really was. It sounds like youve done all you can to entice him to change. As Dr. Phil says "How's that workin out for you"? Not so well, I'd say. So, your options are to leave him which doesn't sound like what you want to do (because you don't want to have an affair); or you can change the way you view him and your relationship. Not an easy thing to do, Im sure, but the only person you can change is you. Maybe that is why counseling was not helpful before. As a counselor, when people come in wanting me to change their spouse this is the exact thing I say: I cant and neither can you. But we can work on things you can do to get affection....which is what you are seeking. Just think about how you approach your relationship. It is what you agreed to in the beginning and it is exactly the relationship you have
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:17:59 UTC
as a fellow Christian, I would say that - from what I've seen - you never really reach a point where "you know how to fix things." And the minute you think you do, you're in a dangerous place. Continue to get advice and encouragement from people like your parents or other Christians you look up to.

And also, you can't define your faith by the environment around you - like your parents or your school. It has to be yours.

Good for you though for seeking to get close to God. He sees the intent of your heart and promises that if you seek Him, you will find Him. Seek Him in His Word, in prayer, and remove obstacles like sin in your life that you know you feel convicted about.

And be aware of who you have chosen as your closest friends. They can build you up or tear you down ....
themrmike
2008-12-07 21:25:59 UTC
GOD knows you if you want it right with him the ball is always in your court. i am not sure at 18 you have a course set for your life or relationship with God. we do pray for direction in many lives but your choices are the ones that matter. there are very few choices you can not recover from. GOD told me to tell you that he loves you and maybe so do i.tmm
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:13:57 UTC
Relationship counselling?



Harriet
Shell
2008-12-07 21:23:57 UTC
The main thing is to make sure you are saved - you've asked Jesus to forgive you of your sins and you've invited him into your heart. Just trust God to help you with your problems, pray about whatever is going on in your life. Read your Bible, go to church, find christian friends and try to put God first in your life. You've already taken the first step by realizing you want to be closer to God. I'll be praying for you.
anonymous
2014-08-11 06:55:02 UTC
You should really check out Michael Fiore's video on how to get your ex back in a matter of days through text messages. It's crazy but it works, I never believed I could get back with my ex wife in this life time but it did happened. I cheated on her a lot of times and still we are back together (won't do it again), unbelievable what some psychology can do.



Anyway, watch the video here: http://www.textyourexback.link - it will blow your mind. Good luck!
Astromazing!
2008-12-07 21:16:24 UTC
Well.... maybe you just aren't ready right now. Maybe you need to explore other religions and beliefs. Religion should be 'natural'. You shouldn't have to force it. Chances are if you feel uncomfortable or not into it... then you shouldn't push yourself. Let it come to you....



Remember, religion should have nothing to do with your own morals. Do good because you choose to and you know it's right, not because someone told you to.
supertop
2008-12-07 21:14:14 UTC
Pray to be renewed in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17.
jreamable
2008-12-07 21:14:57 UTC
There is nothing you can do to make God love you less, and nothing you can do to make him love you more. A life without prayer will ruin you, pray to the Lord and tell him all this from your heart.



2 Chronicles 7:14 says, if my people, who are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.



If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).



Might sound too simple, but expose your heart to God.
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:15:50 UTC
dont worry about god your problem is common and well known for persons trying to come out of religious schools and make it in the free world talk to your counciler they are familiar with this problem
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:16:10 UTC
eat 4-5 grams of dried psilocybin mushrooms
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:18:31 UTC
Be true to yourself and pray to god.He or she will help you get back on the path.Trust in the lord and you will be fine.May god bless you!!
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:13:44 UTC
Pray to god for the answer. For in prayer does one find peace.
Liser
2008-12-07 21:14:36 UTC
couple's counseling.
anonymous
2008-12-07 21:14:31 UTC
JUST STOP SINNING


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