what exactly is God's plan for those who committed suicide?

Question

My late boyfriend was a believer. He was a Christian.
If God created him according to his own image, then God had a purpose for him, right?
So, my boyfriend committed suicide two months ago. What exactly was God's plan for him? When there is pain and suffering, where is God exactly. Who can answer me this?

Answer 1

If a Christian commits suicide, is he still forgiven?

This might seem like a perplexing question, but it does have an answer. Though the Christian who has committed suicide has committed a grave sin, he is still forgiven. But, in order to understand why a Christian who commits suicide is forgiven, we first need to understand what salvation is and what it is based upon.



Salvation is the state of being saved from God's judgment upon the sinner. The only way to be saved is to trust Jesus for the forgiveness of one's sins (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). All who do not trust Jesus alone, by faith (Rom. 5:1; Rom. 6:23; Eph. 2:8-9) are not forgiven and go to hell when they die (Matt. 25:46; John 3:18). When Jesus forgives someone, He forgives all their sins and gives them eternal life and they shall never perish (John 10:28). He does not give them temporary eternal life -- otherwise, it would not be eternal.



Salvation is not based upon what you do. In other words, you don't have to obey any Law of God in order to become saved. This is because no one is saved by keeping the Law of God (Gal. 2:21; Rom. 3:24-28). But that does not mean that you can go and sin all you want. Rom. 6:1-3 expressly condemns such action. Instead, we are saved for the purpose of purity (1 Thess. 4:7). Our salvation is strictly by God's: "By grace through faith you have been saved…" (Eph. 2:8). Other than acting by faith in trusting and accepting what Jesus did on the cross, you don't do a thing (John 1:12-3) in order to become saved. Since you did not get your salvation by what you did, you can not lose it by what you do.



What about the unforgivable sin? Is that suicide? No. Suicide is not the unforgivable sin. Jesus spoke of the unforgivable sin in Matt. 12:22-32. The context is when the Pharisees accused Jesus of casting out demons by the power of the devil. Therefore, suicide is not the unforgivable sin.

Answer 2

Well we are in the same boat. My boyfriend committed suicide a year ago March 30th. I guess it's irrelevant to say it was in front of me but that leads me to how your question comes in about God having a plan for him. I learned soooooo much from him doing that to himself. By me being there I was able to tell his parents and family what happened, what lead up to it, so they could have some sort of closer. If I hadn't been there and he was by himself no one would know what happened and how he felt. Personally God had a plan for him at least by helping me. My life was spiraling out of control in many horrible ways. By him doing this I got my act together not taking life for granted and treating others like the precious souls they are. Two months out from him doing so I was thinking the exact same thing. I questioned death and God and everyone actually. Just take it all in if you can, find the silver lining, take in the world and everything great it has to offer. If you can do this you will see the purpose he had.

Answer 3

I'm not sure exactly , I know that alot of ppl say that God has no place for them . But I haven't found anything in God's word that says that.



God knows that we have limits to what we can handle or deal with and I don't believe that our God is without compassion for those who just can't handle whatever it is that their going through .



I attend church , and bible studies and and study it for myself and in order to answer question's for others,and I've not heard or read anything in God's word that condemns ppl who've reached the point of suicide .



It seems that when ppl say that suicide is a ticket to hell that it's just their opinion and has to my knowledge no biblical basis or Godly validation.



I listen to the teachings on Calvary radio stations and the top teachers on the Q&A program have said on this subject basically the same thing that I've concluded on this subject.that God knows that we have limits and that He is the God of grace and mercy.



well I hope that this has been helpfull , I'm sorry that I don't have any scripture either way on this matter , I thank you for the thought provoking question and hope that God blesses your life.

Answer 4

For starters, Jesus isn't God, Jesus was the son of God. Get it right before you make up crazy things. Second, Jesus didn't tempt anyone, it was his mission to die for Christians' sins and to save them from going to hell. If you're not going to read the Bible go get some cliff notes or something. What Christians do you talk to? A Christian believes that by committing suicide they will go to hell for suicide is a sin. Please do everyone a favor and do some research before you go around making false accusations. So NO Jesus DID NOT commit suicide.

Answer 5

You probably will not be satisfied by any answers, but here are a few I have heard/came up with:



1.) God had a plan for him, but by choosing to go suicide, your boyfriend ended the finale of the actions in that plan



2.) Going suicide WAS part of God's plan (as cruel as it might seem...remember, I'm just throwing out possibilites here). God knew your boyfriend to be a good Christian, and going suicide helped the boyfriend's close people change in a good way (i.e. make them realize something)



3.) Your boyfriend was not a believer, not spiritually aware, and thus God and his plans meant nothing, therefore the plans were irrelevent.



Add. notes: Christians who commit suicide are NOT condemned to hell. yes, suicide is sin (murder), but if you die a Christian God forgives those who have lived for him

Answer 6

I am so very, very sorry to hear about your boyfriend. I think you might find some comfort in this article, "Have You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?" http://www.watchtower.org/e/20011022/diagram_03.htm



And also in this one, "Would You Like to Know the Truth?" http://www.watchtower.org/e/kt/article_01.htm



It takes you to the Bible's answer to the questions:

* Does God really care about us?

* Will war and suffering ever end?

* What happens to us when we die?

* Is there any hope for the dead?

* How can I pray and be heard by God?

* How can I find happiness in life?



This is another informative article: "A Sure Hope for the Dead" http://www.watchtower.org/e/we/article_05.htm



The Bible says that soon Jehovah God will do away with all pain and suffering, by means of his son Jesus Christ. Revelation 21:4 says: "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away."



The Bible also speaks in many places of a resurrection. The articles referenced above contain many scriptures about that which I hope will bring you some comfort.

Answer 7

I don't believe if there was a God "he" would eternally punish those who committed suicide because they had a mental illness or faced so much pain and sadness they preferred death. I'm very sorry you have to live with his resolution and I wish you peace in the meantime. I think if there is a God, "he" is a hands-off creator. We determine most of our own destiny.

Answer 8

I hate that your boyfriend died that way. pain and suffering are the result of sin in this messed up world.



I really wouldn't know for sure how God would handle that. I was taught that if you commit suicide you would automatically go to hell. I don't know if that's biblically true or not.

Answer 9

I'd hope he'd accept him in heaven like anybody else, people don't commit suicide for no reason, they do it because there's something going on for them. If god exists, he would care enough to invite the unwell into his kingdom of heaven.

Answer 10

My dear sister, if he knew the Lord then he is in Heaven with Him right now. Jesus said there is only one sin that will not be forgiven...

"And so I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven men, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven." -Matthew 12:31



How do we blaspheme the Spirit? By denying Christ, which it seems that your boyfriend didn't do. So, although only God truly knows, I believe he is in Heaven.



I lead a study called "Reasons" dealing with these very questions because I once asked them. There are answers, but instead of getting bashed on here by atheists I would ask that you email me. And most importantly... I'm praying for you.

Answer 11

This is what my church says about it and I completely agree





Although it is wrong to take one's own life, a person who commits suicide may not be responsible for his or her acts. Only God can judge such a matter. Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has said:



"Obviously, we do not know the full circumstances surrounding every suicide. Only the Lord knows all the details, and he it is who will judge our actions here on earth.



"When he does judge us, I feel he will take all things into consideration: our genetic and chemical makeup, our mental state, our intellectual capacity, the teachings we have received, the traditions of our fathers, our health, and so forth"

Answer 12

God has a plan for everyone and sometimes people choose the devil's plan for them maybe your bf got caught up in the moment and did what the devil told him to do. when there is pain and suffering God is still with u but he's testing your ability, making sure you're completely for him and making u stronger for the hardship that will be in the future

Answer 13

Suicide --rather than a true desire to end life-- is often really the only way a suicidal person can see available to stop their pain. Many are the cases where an attempted suicide was glad that they survived, as it was more of a call for help, than desire for death. http://watchtower.org/e/20000915



"The sins of suicide and murder need not be sins against the holy spirit, and, if not, would be forgivable. Sin is sin, regardless of what kind, and a resurrection for a suicide or a murderer ... would depend more ... on his ability to repent and be recovered from [whatever wrongdoing], than on the specific sin or sins committed previously". *



Have You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?

http://watchtower.org/e/20011022/diagram_03.htm



A Sure Hope for the Dead...

http://watchtower.org/e/we/article_05.htm



God Really Cares---How You Can Be Sure...

http://watchtower.org/e/20040701/article_02.htm



Why Does God Permit Suffering? :

- The Problem of Human Suffering

- God's Permission of Suffering Nears Its End

http://watchtower.org/e/20010515/article_01.htm



What Is God’s Purpose for the Earth [& Mankind]? http://watchtower.org/e/20060515/article_01.htm



"...Jehovah is a lover of justice, And he will not leave his loyal ones. To time indefinite they will certainly be guarded; But as for the offspring of the wicked ones, they will indeed be cut off. The righteous themselves will possess the earth, they will reside forever upon it, and they will indeed find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace.." --Psalm 37:28,29,11



My deepest condolences in your loss!

The following brochure is designed to help those who are grieving, & has helped me several times...



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Answer 14

I have known a handful of suicides. In some cases the fault lies with those who didn't give them the meaning for their life that they could have. But to blame God is senseless. Belief in a loving, caring, Almighty God has kept many a person from killing themselves.

Answer 15

God tests us in many ways. I'm not trying to sound harsh, but your boyfriend failed. Suicide is not God's will; it is the selfish act of the person who commits it.

Answer 16

It's all nonsense - there is no plan - sorry about your boyfriend!!! But he's just fine where ever he is.

Answer 17

You know I wished Jesus Christ was here personally to answer your question.



God created all life and nonliving things for his glory and purpose and will.



No man chose the day he is born. God decided these things for him. This could lead to this rhetorical question. If God decided my birth, gives me the right to choose the day of my death?



When one is a Christian then along with his daily fellowship with Jesus. He should study the word of God and to pray. And most importantly and what is lacking in many young people today in church is real fellowship. The Bible admonishes us all to share one another's burdens and to pray for one another. If all churches geared their worship with this kind of fellowship, then the services would be less about themselves and more about others in their relationship with God.



Your boyfriend was a Christian. But I know you wished that he could have shared his heart to you.



And if you think that is bad enough, just remember that he even thought that Jesus Christ who is God could not help him either. How badly do you think the saviours heart is as well.



No man can judge his actions. But a wise man wrote years ago, that we spend our life as a tale that is told. We all unwittingly become teachers to others in the way we talk and live. Whether we think we do or not. People watch those they are around and learn from them.



In my personal opinon God has no plan for sucide. God wants a living sacrafice, a life devoted to his will, and for his glory and love to share to his fellow man.



But then there are some who cannot see all and are blind to any option even from God.



Years ago there was a movie called Ordinary People that dealt with this issue. And the teenager realized that it was okay for him to be angry with his brother for not holding to life. That what happened was not his fault but that of his brothers. And since he learned it was not his fault he realized he could forgive himself for living.



God has a plan for your life. The Christian life is not by our might or by our power but by God's Spriit living in us. And when we see the world as he sees us. He sees the needs of many people that need help even if they do not say a thing. Use his life to challenge you to live more for God and not for self. And perhaps in this way you can redeem the memory and heal the pain of his loss. By doing so you are surrendering your life to god as he chooses to use you.



My prayers are with you. If this still bothers you, find a mature sister in the Lord or pastor that can help you with this. God bless you.



Edit. Take heart in soccerluv's post to you as well as others here.

Answer 18

Being a firm believer in Reincarnation and Karma... let's just say your boyfriend's next life will not be a happy one.

Pain and suffering exist to teach not only ourselves lessons, but our friends and family as well.

Answer 19

If there is a God, or was One, he obviously no longer cares what happens to people.



Your life and your BFs life is in your own hands, and you can only save yourself--no one can do that for you.

Answer 20

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Answer 21

don't you think you should prove God exist first?



video about a Christian discriminating against Atheists

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Answer 22

we have a God who suffers with us and experienced suffering



if your boyfriend trusted Christ for Salvation, he is with him in heaven now