How can Indian Hindu Boy Marry a Pakistani Muslim Girl ?

Question

I am an Indian HinDu Boy (27 years) and i m very deeply in Love with Pakistani Muslim gal (23 years) residing in Rawalpindi and she loves me equally and starts running into depression whenever i talk of our prospects of union and marriage :(

Now going by that it would be obvious to you that in such a situation none of our parents would be agree to solemnize our marriage :(((
though my parents can be convinced if i make sure that i dont convert and stay in Hinduism fold. however i also want ma girlfriend to stay as Muslim as she too does not want to convert. We both want to practice the faith we have been following since birth..

but maybe that would be unacceptable to her parents as u no her family would have so much of issues in marrying her to a HINDU..something out of abrahmic faith also (Jews,Christians) which is considered illegal and sin in Islam :(

Now they would only accept me if i turn Muslim, by doing what ma family,ma friends all who would have supported me wud Disown me.
N that b a very complicated situation for me too to live in India by converting to Islam and marrying a Pakistani Muslim girl.

(Kindly also let me know what can be the complications i may have to face in his case too.... if i convert and stay wid Pakistani Muslim girl..Will that affect my career and social life in India ? though i know ma family n frnd circle wud disown me in dat case :( But what can be the other implications we both may have to face in this case ?? )

Now complications for me are :

1. Marriage under special marriage act without letting her parents know. is it possible? Will it work in Pakistani resident too? can Indian Pakistani resident can marry?

2. if there is a provision of 30 days prior notice to be given in this case..then can it be done without her presence in India and she may come after the completion of 30 days or 1-2 days prior to that ? As Visa for 30 days seems improbable and once she comes, she wont be able 2 go back. So i have to marry her within the Visa period.

3. How good are the prospects of her is getting visa..and for how many days?? under tourist visa or if i get some 5-10 guaranties for her then ?

4. Is it necessary dat notice for Spcl Marriage act has to be send to her Home address? Wont her Office address do some trick for us? Is it really required? can i give some other address for the same? Should I get her in India first and then file for marriage and if yes, then notice can be sent to some temporary address here or not ?

5. Once i marry her she would automatically become the resident of India. Right? N how Good her academic and Job qualification will be in getting her decent job in India? I m a Manager in International firm and She is a Software Engineer at her place in reputed organization.

6. How Long would be Special marriage act procedures? How long can it go?

7. can it happen that either I or Her convert to each oder fold (for eg she converts into Hindu or me into Muslim for sumtym to get married) and once get married by the concerned law act, one of us who has changed can revert back to her/his old Religion and den again get married as per special marriage act ??

It is so if i turn Muslim, den maybe her parents wud get us married and by the time i return to India, i can revert back 2 Hinduism and den file a marriage as per Special marriage act and den get married as per it. Is it Possible?

otherwise..she turns Hindu for sum tym and we get married as per Hindu Law or Arya samaj and den aftr sum tym wen she gets the indian citizenship on account of marrying me, she can revert bk to Islam and den again final marriage as per Special Marriage act is possible?

I know I have put forth a very complicated situation before You..but we cant live without each other..we wont survive if we get separated..our love was not for afffair sake, it was for living together for ever.

Kindly Help...

Answer 1

""she loves me equally and starts running into depression whenever i talk of our prospects of union and marriage :(""



That's your clue that her parents WILL NOT approve of this union. And you might be placing her life in danger.



You young people over there in your countries with your marriage laws have it so bad with religion and culture. I feel for you. You should be able to marry whomever you love and vice-a-versa, but it's hard over there where you kids are at.



I wish you all the best and hope things work out.

Answer 2

Your situation is very difficult but not impossible... I have had a intercaste marriage hindu muslim but we haven't converted we both follow out own faith and are happy. Well think hard if u are sure u want to marry. Will u be fine if she prays namaz and keeps roza will you support her and stand by her for good. For pakistani to marry an indian is very difficult why not consider getting married in another country and settling in USA where every second person has a intercaste marriage. India or Pakistan either place u guys stay u won't be able to live at peace consider settling in another country take the citizenship of that country and visit family in India n Pakistan for holidays. If u are thinking u want to live with your parents in India I assure u will be a bad idea. U love the girl u accept her your parents don't there will be added stress for u.

Answer 3

What a pity M.K. Gandhi isn't around any more. I'm sure he'd have plenty of positive advice to give you.



If 2 people love each other, they should be able to marry, whatever their background, beliefs, etc.

Answer 4

either you must convert or she must run away with you but you would have to live in hiding for a long time.

Answer 5

looong story with sad situation

my aim is you: how you got into this???

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there is only 1 way out

Answer 6

Well, buddy it looks like you don't have much of a choice.

Answer 7

Ask her this: Assalaam swallamacum?

Answer 8

if she is so much rigid abt her religion.....then why d hell u wan 2 convert .......what a shame

Answer 9

Have you ever met her ?

Answer 10

if you love her, marry her!