"Speak softly, and carry a big stick."
(a little lol for your awesome question!)
This goes a little further in the Elias transcript that the first responder posted the paragraph from. It tells how to play the No Conflict game.
"In this, each time you are engaging any action, any event, any encounter that is creating of any element of conflict within you ... which you hold the ability to identify immediately. You know within you in those moments when you are experiencing uncomfortableness, distress, confusion, anxiety, irritation. You always hold awareness of these responses within yourself, and each time you experience this type of effect within yourself, the exercise is to stop within that moment – allow yourself to be in the moment, in the now – identify what you are experiencing in confusion or conflict in any manner or any form, and express the question to yourself: What shall offer you in that moment no conflict?"
"Now; the tricky area of this game is not to analyze the situation, but to merely offer yourself a clear and simple response of what offers you no conflict." - Elias
My dear Chameleon, this reminds me of elements of the STEP parenting program. There is huge value finding a no-conflict resolution, and the I-message works well, not only in dealing with children, but with everyone. With life, in general.
From the website:
"STEP parents know the value of using I-messages in communicating with their children. The I-message focuses on the parent instead of the child. It doesn't label or blame. When you use an I-message, you are simply describing how you feel about a particular behavior or problem situation. Hearing respectful words not only encourages positive behavior, but also teaches the child a valuable lesson in relating to others... I-messages should be preceded by reflective listening. Combine both to create the 'two way street' of effective communication."
There is so much more on the subject, and I hope people will investigate, if only to learn how to communicate with others in a more accepting manner.
Personally, simply, out of love of peace, I offer you this in our interactions: Respect, consideration, active listening, kindness, an open mind, unconditional love. As a child, I witnessed such conflict, between family members, almost every day of my life; so much so that I had to escape. Finding a way to avoid conflict and resolve problem situations has opened up a whole new world for me, so to speak. I wish...
Well, if wishes were spaceships, we all have a Millenium Falcon.