i need a servant of GOD to answer this question.....?

Question

hey everyone.... i need some advice and i want a person of GOD to as this question.... about a month and half ago, i had my husband arrested for domestic violence.... since then i have gone to court and even put a permanet restraining order against him.... the day he was arrested i told them that he slapped me but it wasn't true.... the reason i had called the cops was because he was threatening me and he had slapped me the week before that... i felt so emtionally destressed.... i have to go back to court next month, what should i do? should i tell the judge the truth that he didn't slap me on the day i said he did.... do u think the judge will understand me on why i did it.... or do u think i shouldn't do that..... after everything that happened me and my husband reunited... and now i feel stuck in this stituation.... do u think i can do jail time for telling the truth? how do u think GOD is looking at this stituation......?

Answer 1

You should talk to your attorney.



And woman to woman, God fearing sisters... God doesn't want you to be in an abusive situation. You CAN divorce on grounds of abuse. Legally.



You need counseling. Find a Christian woman's support group or talk to your pastor for guidance. I know it may not seem so bad now, but if he hit you once, he might do it again - you don't want to take that chance.



No one loves you more than God does. Remember that.

Answer 2

God always honors honesty. I strongly recommend you tell the truth in court. This is a messy situation but not beyond repair.



First, what your husband did was wrong. He has no right threatening you, let alone hitting you. God is clear on a husbands role - to lay down his life for his wife. To love and serve and honor and protect you at his own personal sacrifice.



Second, what you did was wrong. You lied to the police. You should have called the police the minute he hit you. That way he'd see the connection between action and consequence. By waiting you've not only lied but harmed your credibility.



I would tell the judge the truth. The judge has probably seen his share of domestic abuse victims and will understand your desperation. Hopefully the judge will order him to get anger management and you both to get counseling. Bottom line, though, the judge will probably have to drop the charges against him because it's a prosecution based on a lie. He also has the option to have you charged and pay for court fees but hopefully he'll be compassionate. Even though you may get fined, it's short term pain for long term gain.



Your relationship with God is harmed by lying. You're better off telling the truth and strengthening your relationship with God than taking the easy path here and distancing yourself from the God that loves you intensely and protects you fiercely.

Answer 3

Did you do it out of retaliation or did you do it because you could not think straight because you were distressed.



First of all, God does forgive anything, and so, I would tell God you are sorry for this and ask for his guidance.



Then, I would carefully write down the real details including the date and time the incident occurred. It did happen, but just on a different date. After that, I would go to the prosecuting attorney and explain the truth. You will feel better and stop feeling guilty.



But I also am concerned about something, You say he slapped you before then and was threatening you. Has he truly changed HIS behavior or is he making promises to you? Please be careful and I hope that he will seek out some counseling. Both of you need to talk with someone who can help you find better ways of dealing with this situation.



I'm by far no perfect Christian, but I do care and I'd like for you to pray about this as well. Then I would ask, do you have a church or someone who attends church you could trust. Get involved with some other people. Perhaps if nothing else, find a discussion group online to talk with other Christian women. I do that and they have been a great source of comfort for me.



I won't say good luck, but I will say that I am thinking about you and hope you can come to peace about this situation.

Answer 4

First, I must say that over 30 years ago I was in this exact situation. I didn't tell the truth and I almost went to jail for perjury. No matter how hard and painful the truth is TRUTH will win out. Explain that there has been repeated abuse and perhaps you were fearful that day in question. While it may be great that you have reunited it is imperative that you both seek marriage counseling. There is some very deep and unsettling issues that are causing the violence. Saying sorry and forgive me just aren't enough. Because of LOVE you would want to get some healing

Answer 5

i am a humble servant of God and also a jail guard so i can give you some advice from a unique perspective.



isn't it written in the Bible; do not bear false witness against your neighbour? it is up to us to do the right thing and not worry about the conciquences.



i see many men in jail who are accused of rap but then the victim keeps coming in every week to visit him which makes me question whether it's true or not. these women by their accusations have destroyed someone elses life.



yes you may go to jail yourself for fasifying your statement to the police. a selfish person would stick to their lie and make the other person suffer. a person who has good morals and character would do the time.



on the day of the trial i would tell the judge what happened that day. it's the right thing to do. you can explain that he hit you the week before and that you were so emotional at the time that you were making rational discisions.



if he gets out of jail i would suggest that you seperate from him before you end up dead. pray for him and insist that he goes to councilling before you get back together. if he doesn't go to councilling then he probably does care about you.



i was in an abusive relationship once which is funny to hear that from a man but it's true and i never hit back or fought back. i can tell you that it doesn't matter what you do, he will never change and the abuse will never stop. your only hope is to go to councilling.



the reason he can hit is because he doesn't value you. if you don't value something like a pet then you will get mad at it. just like someone who will value a car and treat it like gold. or they disvalue their car and treat it poorly. their should be no hierchy in a relationship. it doesn't matter how sorry he is he still doesn't value you as a person (assumedly).



so tell the truth instead of making him do time for your lies. you may go to jail yourself but it's not likely. and even if you do go to jail at least you will have peace with God.



repent of your sin. the word means to turn away from your sin.



but also tell the judge that he did hit you a week ago and also why you lied.



i'll pray that things work out.

Answer 6

the truth is that your husband became violent with you and now you need protection, so the restraining order is warranted. technically he did not hit you that day but you stopped it before it became a pattern of abuse. that is a courageous step and you should be proud of yourself. many women stay in violent relationships and dont seek help or protection out of fear. if you have a lawyer consult this issue with that person. they are required to keep your information private and will not tell the judge the issue. my worry is that if you come clean now, the judge will not only toss the restraining order but may find that you lied in the court of law and sentence you for a crime. the other concern is that if he thinks you lied to the courts, they will be reluctant to draw up a new restraining order or press additional charges if a more serious assault takes place. the God question is tough. i think the most important thing is that God wants to make sure you and your family are safe. you lied about the date - and not about what happened. go to church, speak with a clergy person if you are having doubts. pray for your husband. your the victim here, not him. if it weighs heavily on you try to get a free consultation with a lawyer or visit your local legal aide office that can provide free or low-cost legal assistance.

Answer 7

I am a servant of God and I prayed before answering this question. You should ALWAYS tell the truth. I think if you explain just like you did on here that they will understand. They may fuss at you for lying at the time but they will know that you have a conscience. I do not see you getting jail time for that. The most important thing is that you are honoring God by telling the truth and by getting back with your husband. I have been in a similar situation and it is not easy. You both may need counseling to prevent this from happening again because stress makes you do things sometimes and you need to learn how to deal with it in a better way. I think....I KNOW that God is honored when trying to make your marriage work! He is the one who created marriage. If you put God FIRST in your marriage and in your own life...everything else will fall into place. I would like to recommend a book I just read.. "Love and Respect". We are using this in our marriage and it is helping. Best of luck to you. God bless your marriage!

Answer 8

Definately tell the truth. Make sure you explain why. Having him removed because you fear harm from him is relevant. The fact that he slapped you the week before backs that up. If he is being abusive it will show. Weaving webs now will hurt you in long run. Of course God sees all. You should be more concerned with his thoughts of this than the judges. He is the only real judge anyway. You should pray about this situation and see what your father says you should do, he is all wisdom.

Answer 9

You technically were not lying, he did slap you, however it just was not on the day in question. I come from a family of law officals and judges. Go and drop the charges, it is already in the court system so you may not be allowed. If you refuse to testifiy against you husband they have no case. And law states a husband cannot be forced to testify against her husband. Or go to the DA, explain you worked it out and want to drop the case. You need not go into detail why you are dropping you just want to. I think God wants husbands and wifes to work all things out marriage is not to be taken lightly. If God can forgive HE expects us to. But me as a women I say no hitting for any reason, pray for your husband to have patience, and for God to show him ,that a man should treat his wife like Christ treats his church. If you signed a statement, and lyed that is perjury, so you can say you signed the statement under duress. If you did not sign a statement, their is nothing anyone can do. But Most people who have clean and clear records do not go to 'jail' for perjury, they are given a warning by the court. The court would rather get the case out of the system- then deal with it any how.

Answer 10

I do not even know where to begin. The way your email is reading, I feel as though your husband has been abusive to you before, which makes me want to ask WHY you have decided to reconcile with him. You seem like a relativley smart woman. You know that if has been abusive before, he will be abusinve again. You may reconcile, but the abuse will not stop. You must, must, must, must, get help and get away from him. Please believe me when I tell you, please take it from me, he WILL NOT, WILL NOT, WILL NOT, change. Please, understand that. As for your current problem, yes you can get into trouble for lying, and the judge can throw the book at you for lying, although he probably will understand. DO NOT feel guilty though. He has hit you before and you were in fear, you wanted to cops to take him so that he would not hurt you. There is nothing wrong with that.



If you are asking how I think God is looking at this situation, I can tell you that it is against God's law to physically harm another human being, so your husband is in violation. God loves you and wants you to be happy, he wants you to be safe, he wants you to be able to enjoy this gift he has given you. The gift of life! You cannot enjoy his gifts if you are fearing a beating every 5 min.



You've already gotten an order of protection, and had him arrested. Did it ever occur to you that your snake in the grass husband decided it was n his best interests to reconcile with you so you would drop the charges? Maybe he wants to see YOU go to jail? How can you trust someone who hits you. Love is not supposed to hurt, at least not physically.

Answer 11

I can answer this only by putting myself in your situation. If you and your husband are on good terms have you spoken with him about telling the truth? If I were you- I would. I would tell them the absolute truth: your husband has hit you before, you were emotionally distressed- the two of you were having problems, and on that day he did not really hit you. Tell the judge that the two of you are looking into marriage counseling (which I suggest) and ask if their is some sort of spousal/domestic abuse support group you could join.



I am sure that you love your husband, and he could even be a nice man who happens to have control/anger issues. I think you should work things out with your husband with his emotional issues and be his strongest supporter.

If he hits you hard enough to cause any sort of damage to you Please Leave Him.



But tell the truth. Because if you dont he might not be able to trust you, which will cause more problems between you.

Good luck hon. God bless.

Answer 12

Your husband hit you a week prior to his making a threat. It is scary to have someone you trusted hit you. It is also understandable and reasonable that you lied about the day he actually hit you. There is a history of prior violence in your marriage. You need to be truthful about when he really hit you, let the court know that you are in fear. If you start out in court with dishonesty you will loose all credit later if you need help. And, don't even think about going back to a man who hit you. They NEVER change, once they cross that line it is so easy to cross it again.

I don't know how God is looking at your situation. If you do not have a relationship with Him, He might be using your situation to get your attention so you can have a relationship with Him.

Answer 13

The Husband was arrested on your word.You followed up with

A permanet Restraing Order/Now you are living together.I would

get alone with God although Your prayer will be hindered/If you

haven"t asked for forgivness/ There appears to be more going on

in this situation/The Devel will use this against you/

Your concious that inner voice has told you what to do.



That being said Your Husband has a Record that will hinder .



You don"t have to stay with a Husband that beats you.

Answer 14

Wow, this is a tough jam that you are in. I truly sympathize with what you are going through. In the book of Genesis, it talks about how Rebekah tricked her husband Issac into giving the younger son Jacob the blessing rather than the firstborn son Esau. She KNEW that this is what God wanted but she didn't trust God to handle it and she took matters into her own hands. as a result Jacob did get the blessing, but Rebekah never saw he beloved son again (he was her favorite).

I think the first thing that you need to do is to repent to the Lord and get this monkey off of your back.

Pray and ask the Lord for forgiveness in your lack judgement and discernment. Humility is the key. Jesus KNOWS you are hurting and in a miserable situation. He's with you right now and wants you to recommit your life to Him. He wants us to confess not because He wants to rub it in our face, but he knows that by confessing it and turning it over to Him, it allows Him to cleanse us. Remember the parable of the woman at the well? He spoke to her and just touched her in such a powerful way. STart going to to a bible believing church, you need fellowship with other Christians.

Lastly, seek counsel on what you should do legally. Tell you what Pastors don't lay hands on the pipe when the plumbing is out. They call a plumber. They call a mechanic. They pray for everything and then the Lord directs them to the right people. Please do the same. AND DON'T listen to the lies of the enemy. Trust in Jesus, CALL on Jesus and go to church, He will guide your steps and He is the only one that can save your marriage. God Bless

Answer 15

I would say that you speak up and let the Judge know that it wasn't that exact day he hit you but just days before and that you were scared that he would again that day. I would ask him to send your hubby to an anger management class and seek some help with spousal abuse yourself. You need to make sure he is SORRY that he hit you before and that he will never do it again. A spiritual book about Family Life would be very helpful to go over together you and your husband and you can get one by contacting Jehovah's Witnesses.

A husband is to be loving his wife as himself and he certainly wouldn't go around hitting on himself.

God does NOT approve of your husbands conduct and He also doesn't approve of lying.

I would say you would NOT get jail time for lying before but you do need to clear it up and say it was just days before. If they have any brains they will understand that you were scared and it did happen a few days before so it did happen just not that exact day.

I hope things work out for you.

Answer 16

Always be honest. Your always threatened by this man, tell the judge that. Apologize for the lie but make sure the judge understands about the abuse.



Why did you reunite with him honey? In the same sentence you say you've reunited and that you feel stuck.



Pray for guidance and strength and please, get out of this abusive relationship for your own sake. I too will pray for you.

Answer 17

Wow, you are in a bind, but nothing God can't and won't get you out of. You should tell the truth now, and tell the judge that he did slap you before. God promises to "work ALL things for good to those who love Him" even our errors and shortcomings. Trust in Him. He'll make everything work out good for you. He always does for me.

Answer 18

1) Don't lie, honesty is still the best policy.



2) I'm not a lawyer, but I highly doubt that a sane prosecutor would put you in jail for trying to protect yourself.



3) Most importantly, protect yourself from this man. If he gets violent again, have him arrested. You deserve better.

Answer 19

Go Ahead And Tell The Truth

Answer 20

You don't need a servant of God to deal with this -- we are dealing with the law here, and God is not involved. The fact that he threatened violence on the day in question constitutes assault, and is a crime, whether or not he actually struck you (which is battery, a separate crime). So, go to court, tell the truth, and hope for the best.

Answer 21

you deffinitly need to tell the truth,and yes maybe you will get jail time,but you should be honest,if your not happy then why are you with him?i know God does not believe in divorce but He also is very against abuse of any kind,ya know God makes everything come out good for those who love Him even when it is our own stupidity

Answer 22

well first of all i am not convinced this man is who G-D says is your husband. which could result in problems you are having. just because you say he is your husband is no guarentee G-D sees this as you do.



but to bear false wittness, against friend or foe, is a very serious offence. i would not recommend any further lying. even if you express you were afraid he was going to slap you again, as to your excuse.



i think you and who you call as your husband, need to do some real soul searching with G-D. as to wheather G-D actualy sees you as husband and wife or not. but without more info about the arguement. this is about as far as i dare advise you.



but if you disobeyed your husband in any way, that caused this situation to escalate, would still mean you were in error, for as long as you even consider this man as your husband. you are still bound by the edicts of G-D, for husband and spouse in this matter.

Answer 23

Better to admit your wrong-doings then to have others bring them to your attention. Deal with the courts honestly or you could be held for perjury.



Doing what's right is usually not the easiest path. If you know you're doing something wrong, don't continue in it. Set things straight and move forward from there. I'm glad you've gotten yourself away from that abusive relationship. Good luck.

Answer 24

Tell the truth! God is about honesty, you know that. I believe the reason you are feeling so bad about this is that God has convicted your heart and your conscious is making it difficult for you to hang on to the lie. I realize that it will be difficult, but how would you feel if the situation was reversed?

Answer 25

Whether he slapped u that day, last week or last month. He still slapped u and deserves to go down. If u tell them u lied he is most likely to get off and no justice delt. God would understand that a women beating man deserves to go behind bars.

Answer 26

If it was me, I would tell the truth. God wants you to tell the truth, and you have to suffer the consequence for your lie if anything does happen. God works in mysterious ways, and maybe something bad won't happen to you. Just pray about it and go from there.

Answer 27

God is not going to swoop in and rescue you when your violent husband physically or mentally abuses you again. You did the right thing and whether he indeed battered you physically on that particular day or not -- he is clearly an abuser and you should try to either see that he gets professional help or get away from him and remove yourself from that situation. God is looking at the situation saying: pull up your socks, Jobe, and get out of this relationship with such an abusive man. You should see your pastor or priest and get some counseling from them... not us.

Answer 28

i think that you should ask god forgiveness for lying about the slapping and forgive your self for lying. but if he really was threatening you and so on i would just leave it up to the judge.i don't think god wants any one to be in a abusive situation.good luck I'll say a pray for you.

Answer 29

Hmmm... this question would've been a tricky one. But the way i've been brought up influences the way i think. I am a muslim who DOES believe in a god. I therefore belive that lyying is not acceptable, but as a muslim i also believe in equility to all- male and female have equal rights.

In this case your husband has been taking advantage of his sex, he has been physically harming you and therefore you have the right to report him to police. A man cannot go about bossing and ordering his wife, he must not harm a wife in anyway (in your case he was harming you in both ways- physically and mentally). You did the right thing reporting him to the police but this is the but were you went wrong, you lied! Now i am not sure exactly what you told the police but if you told them he slapped you then you weren't lyying- because he did! But if you told them he had slapped you just before they arrived, then i'm afraid youwere lyying...

Lyying (as my grandmother explained to me) is one of the worst sins you can commit, one should tell the truth even if his life depended on it- now i know (we as humans) we aren't perfect, everyone has lied atleast once in there life, but tryying to recover the lost truth is a thing quite a few people do- in islam you would get sawaab (rewards) for this, but if you're not a muslim and you don't believe in that you still get a great feeling when you feel proud and honest.

There is a story i was told when i was younger about a saint. This saint was 14-years-old at the time (then he wasn't a saint). He was uneducated and understood the power of knowledge, he wanted to learn and become educated.He asked his mother and his mother gave him the only money she had. She sewed a little pocket on the underarm of his shirt for the money, then the boy parted of to the city with a group of people (a caravan) to learn.

It was on their way they were stopped by theives and robbed. the leader of the 'gang' came to this boy and asked him "where is your money". The boy replied honeslty and gave he exact location of his money. At first the man looked in amazement then he laughed "you not meant to tell me little boy! yuou know very little of this world!" the boy replied back i was honest. The man looked back in amazement, then this child explained the power of truth and how you should always be honest- the man imediately converted to islam and with the saints help managed to give all stolen goods back to the original owners! The 'gang' leader now became one of the most respected...

So thats how the story goes... Eventually things get put back together properly and you get respect!

Now back to your case- You can work 'around' your situation you should just tell them that this man (your husband) was causing you mental and physical harm! not on the date you specified obviously, but you can explain how he had caused you emotional distress, remember it's best to tell the truth now or else you'll have to continue lyying (and for how long will you be able to keep it up?).

Telling the truth is not a sin, you should always tell the truth (and even if you do lie- remeber it's not the end of the world, you can put things right)

I believe your husband does not have the values and the decency to be a husband if he has done what you have stated. But men change, he may understand he was wrong and he had no right to slap you.



I shall pray for your matters to easen up

Answer 30

Tell the judge you are afraid of him- and that you did lie that day and you are sorry for it- but let the judge know he has slapped you and threatened you. Honesty is the key!

Answer 31

Regardless of how "GOD" is looking at it, you're within a court of law. You took an oath to tell "the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth".



I suggest you not break that oath. There are consequences for doing so.

Answer 32

If he has a history of hitting you, then the domestic abuse charges still stand. If you have any evidence (medical records) from his hitting you, bring those. You may have lied about the actual date, but if you can provide evidence that you had a reason to fear him, then you have a case.

Answer 33

Tell the truth no matter what the consequences God will make you face.

Answer 34

Yes, you should tell the truth so you can be free coz your conscience won't leave u alone untill u tell the truth.

Answer 35

You are CRAZY to go back to a man who would raise his hand against you. I don't care if it was just a slap, unless you hit him first (and then you have other problems!)



And no, you wouldn't serve jail time by telling the truth.

Answer 36

YOUR HUSBAND DID THREATEN YOU ON THAT DAY.IN THE PAST HE HAS SLAP YOU. TO THREAT IS JUST AS BAD AS SLAPPING. WHY DO YOU HAVE TO GO TO COURT SINCE YOU HAVE RECONCILED WITH YOUR HUSBAND, CAN YOU CAN'T DROP CHARGES

Answer 37

well you would ben Abel to get the restrining without lien .and are you telling the Truth know ?

Answer 38

slapping you once was enough

he did it once he would probably do it again



then again yahoo answers is not the proper forum for that question

thats what lawyers are for

not a servant of god

the servant might say turn the other cheek

Answer 39

Well you sort lie about him stabbing you that night but if he really did stabb you ... then u are okay.



But you do need to be trueful that's the only way you can receive a blessing

Answer 40

The Bible says you must obey your husband and be subservient to him.



I suggest you tell the judge the truth and then do what your husband says

Answer 41

tell the truth for now on and be honest in your daily life

Answer 42

there is no such thing as god.



stop looking elsewhere for the answer to your problems.

Answer 43

Ask your lawyer.

Answer 44

You should go with your gut

Answer 45

well then you're asking the wrong people