My life is a mess need help....

Question

First of just let me say that I don't want to give the impression that I'm just looking for attention or trying to spill my problems on anyone, everyones got their problems and there own story but I just want to see if anyone can help clear some things for me I'm just really confused there are just a lot of things going on right now and I kinda wanted to see if anyone could help me :( If your still reading I really appreciate anything kind of help you can give me thank you so much for taking the time to listen :) thank you.

Let me just start off with a breif description to how i got to where i am, im 16 and I had dealt with a lot of family issues with an alcholic father and bi-polar brother at this point i dont even feel i have a child hood i made myself forget everything and i cooped with eating. I had a mental break down this past year everything in my family had final got better and all the issues i had pushed out of my mind had hit me like a brick wall and I didnt know what to do with it. so i had a mental break down and i ended up on anti-depressants "effexor"

Now as I write I this is what im feeling and have felt first off everything feels like a painting to me nothing feels real alot of the time it just looks 2d i feel that i live in my mind insted of my body I know it sounds werid but i do i live in my thoughts what does this mean :( . second i feel alot of the time like a flat line my emotion never really rises or falls its just there im just there a mono-tone its hard to get happy. One thing that has penatrated it was i watched this anime and it was really sad and it just made me feel so alive and different it was amazing and when i finished it i feel horrible i cant barely breath if i see that name of it. so all i want to do is like be in that show it was just so different and amazing i wanna feel it again but i cant, i dont even feel human anymore but one thing u have to know is Im an expert at covering it up wearing a mask no-one knows and i dont want anyone to idk why either i dont want to talk to anyone about it, thats why i had to ask here because its anonymous. If anyone can explain anything to me or help me in anyway please, there are good people in this world i just pray that one of them reads this. thank you for anything, maybe there is hope...

Answer 1

I was on effexor and I was just like you said you are- not really caring one way or another and just blah...



I belive it is not the right medication for you, as it wasn't for me.



There are many different options to try and maybe that is a good thing to check out.



I think once you get the proper dosage / medication you will feel better.

Answer 2

alot of the things your feeling sound like side affects of your meds hun.



I too am an expert at covering up, and then when things get too hard and I take that mask off....people wonder what the f*ck happened!!!



its important for you to talk to your doctor about the feelings your having, he may change your meds are advise you its normal.



Id also suggest finding someone you can talk to in confidence. Its important to have somewhere to vent your feelings, maybe an online blog would help if you dont feel comfortable talking to someones face?



Things get tough, and some people cope better than others. I lost my brother a few weeks ago to alcoholism, and I have no family left that i talk to now - i feel very alone. But venting my feelings takes the pressure off a little, even though the feelings will never go away.



Good luck to you, I hope you find the direction in life your looking for. Here for you if you want to chat xxx

Answer 3

Sometimes friends or family members recognize that someone is depressed. They may respond with love, kindness, or support, hoping that the sadness will soon pass. They may offer to listen if the person wants to talk. If the depressed feeling doesn't pass with a little time, friends or loved ones may encourage the person to get help from a doctor, therapist, or counselor.



But not everyone recognizes depression when it happens to someone they know.



Some people don't really understand about depression. For example, they may react to a depressed person's low energy with criticism, yelling at the person for acting lazy or not trying harder. Some people mistakenly believe that depression is just an attitude or a mood that a person can shake off. It's not that easy.



Sometimes even people who are depressed don't take their condition seriously enough. Some people feel that they are weak in some way because they are depressed. This is wrong — and it can even be harmful if it causes people to hide their depression and avoid getting help.



Occasionally, when depression causes physical symptoms (things like headaches or other stress-related problems), a person may see a doctor. Once in a while, even a well-meaning doctor may not realize a person is depressed, and just treat the physical symptoms.



Talk therapy with a mental health professional is very effective in treating depression. Therapy sessions can help people understand more about why they feel depressed, and ways to combat it.



You should always tell at least some of your friends. Someone you can count on. Friends can really help out. Someone you can trust and someone who is always there.



I know how you feel... I've gone through depression before..



I hope this can help you. If not... I'm very sorry. But you can always tell me whats going on... I love to help people. I'm always here to listen to people's problems. I dont have anything negative about it. I just want every one to be happy.. but sometimes things like can never happen. This world has to many problems.. and I for myself... want ot help change it.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that you are not very happy at the moment in life. The only comfort I can try to offer you on here is some sympathy and old cliches. I do know exactly what you mean about feeling like you have no emotions and feel like you are wearing a mask. If you want to talk further say so and I will give you my email address. You don't have to go through this alone, even if it is just the sympathetic ear of a stranger

Answer 5

I've have pretty horrible things happen to me too, i was born with a loss , i am adopted , my step dad sexually abused me , the people i lived with seems okay at the time but as i got older and understand the world a little better , all of them betrayed me real bad ,family and well as my first love,My parents are useless and i live my life doing everything on my own.Enough about me, my point is i don't know what your going tru but i do know what being depressed is like in my own situation.



the good thing is that you are taking the first step into dealing with this in a way that might help you , which is talking about it , you don't have a fancy life ..take the time to accept it !! spend time talking to people that can benefit you in your life , stop thinking about your family and your childhood.I didn't had a good childhood either .Find things to do now in your life that will make you feel like u know what ..im worth so damn much , try to make progress in anything , school , a hobby ..anything of interest ..keep your focus on those sorts of things , when you make progress you will start to feel happy after getting a kick outa it . If you sit and do nothing , negative taught s will only have more time to flow in your mind.

All of this is ways to start to love yourself , if you don't love yourself , u cant begin to see beauty in things or in life.I had to learn life the hard way , a pretty family wasn't given to me .I had to stop myself from negative thinking and DO EVERYTHING FOR MYSELF.you are very well capable of doing things according to your free will , all you have to do is tell your self you can do it , think positive that tomorrow will be a better day and you allready know that others will screw it up , you need to stop letting them get to you and just focus on YOU ..

Answer 6

I'm experienced with family addiction problems. You have stated that you have come from an alcoholic family. Have you or are you, receiving any counselling for your current problems ? What you need to do, is contact an addictions' center in your province or state. Alcoholism is a family illness not just the drinker's problem - everyone is effected ! You require competent counselling for your family problem, and mainly, for yourself. Unless you recieve this counselling, you will go through life thinking you are insane. This is due to your perspective in part, of what your think is "normal" . Yes; there is hope ... hundreds of thousands have received the help necessary to obtain coping skills for living. You are not rare ... your problem is a way more common than you think. Look forward to living once, again !

Answer 7

First I want to say that I'm sorry about your family. That must be incredibly difficult and lonely.

Second, you said you spend most of your time living in your thoughts. That's not unusual. I'm no psychiatrist, but maybe you are trying to close yourself in your mind to keep pain away. Therefore, your emotions have gone and you are basically an empty shell. I think you need somebody to talk to. Do you have any friends or relatives you can trust? Is there anyone (especially a Christian) who wants to help you and actually can?

Look, keeping this to yourself is not going to solve anything. You NEED to get this out!

Also, you can turn to the One who created you and who loves you more than you will ever know. Jesus loves you and wants you to talk to him and to walk in His kingdom. Friends and relatives will help you, but God is the only one who can give you a fresh start.



Matthew 11:30 (New International Version)

30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."



Psalm 4:1

Answer me when I call to you,

O my righteous God.

Give me relief from my distress;

be merciful to me and hear my prayer.



Psalm 6:4

Turn, O LORD, and deliver me;

save me because of your unfailing love.



There are many more verses in the Bible that could probably help you; contact me and I'd be happy to look some more up. :)

God bless

Answer 8

First-go back to whoever prescribed the anti-depressant and explain these feelings. There are other medications you can try. Second, if you do not have a church, find one that teaches the Bible and has a good youth program. I know it will be hard, but you CAN'T isolate yourself - it's one of the worst things for you right now. God will help you through this-he helped me! If you want to e-mail me, I will be happy to be an encourager for you.

Answer 9

Talk therapy would be a good idea, with a psychologist who you can get along with. What you describe are depression, dissociation, and flattening of affect, things I know all too well myself. Seeing a decent therapist and trying to find an appropriate diagnosis and treatment could do wonders. I wish I had done so at your age, instead of the course I took.



Best wishes to you, and remember that time passing does make a difference.

Answer 10

Duuuuuuuuuuude, if you loved the anime so much then you should read the manga at onemanga.com

some cool anime/mangas are Bleach, D-Gray Man, and my fav. Naruto. In my religion, Only bad people go to hell. All the Christians, Jews, Wiccans, Muslims etc. will still be happy in the afterlife. I am confident that my religion is right (There's more proof of it thana lot of other regions combined!) so please don't worry about religion. You're gonna go to heaven or close to it. This world is a hell itself because it lacks fine vibrations.



Please take care and join the religion that makes you happy. Because no matter what, you're going to heaven.



I'm sure there's tons of people out there that would love to help you. Try Googling it.

Answer 11

Oh honey, you are still suffering from depression. The effexor isn't working as it should. Given all you have been through, it's no wonder you are having some difficulties right now. Be patient with yourself, it will get better I promise. See your physician right away about changing your med or changing the dosage. I have been where you are right now. Things improve, they will. Until they do, hang in there. Seek the advise of your pastor or school counselor. Good luck and I am sending the very best wishes to you!

Answer 12

you know... not all anti depressants work wonders and you just might need to have your medicine switched to something else because being in a funk like that on an antidepressant should not be so... it should help you to remain calm yes, but it should alos elevate your spirits somewat and not have that flat line feeling as much.....

first talk to your doctor and family





I am actually glad you rfamily got better so now you need to get better too



Have you ever tried drawing anime yourself? It might be a greta hobby to escape from these pressing issues at times...give it a whirl too and do not forget to tell your doctor about how the medication is effecting you

Answer 13

First of all, you need to let the doctor who prescribed the anti-depressant know about the side-effects you are experiencing.



You should not be living in a fog like you are. I realize that you may not want to talk to anyone about this, but there is really no other option if you want to get better.



You should speak to a counselor about your feelings. The doctor should have set you up with someone when he prescribed the medicine in the first place.



Feel free to e-mail me anytime.

Answer 14

The Spirit we call God is with you 24 hours a day. All human religions are made up by humans.

The Spirit is with you. 16 is a rough time of life. But soon you will be 20 and look back and say "Why was I like that"

Right now you must pray to the Spirit, and thing will get better for you. Pray each night before bed for help to get through this stage of your life.

Good luck. You will make it.

Answer 15

May I suggest you find a good church to go to. you may need to visit 3 or more before you find the one that suits your needs. by this, if you walk into the church, and it does not feel like home, then forget it. I have been in churches where the spirit was there, but i was not comfortable.



Start reading the Bible. Read 3-5 chapters a day. Pray for the Lord to guide you to scripture. You may dream about something that will not make sense to you, but in that dream you will be lead by the spirt to read a certain verse or chapter, or book in the bible. Make sure you do this. Don't just knock it off as a dream.



When you think about food, pray. you can still eat but try to eat more healthy rather than tv dinners which are loaded with salt and fat, Eat fresh fruits, vegetables, and diet sodas.



Just remember this GOD LOVES YOU, and HE is always with you. Just call upon HIS name.

Answer 16

I know the feeling, man.

Your not alone.

Your going through the motions of life without no dreams or goals whatsoever.

That is not OK.

But you haven't gone too far.

Value the fact that you are morally clean.(Or are you?)

Try reading. Try the Bible.

God's word is very helpful.(You don't have to start at Genesis, you can always skip to the most influential books like Proverbs or Psalms.

And excercise. Force yourself to wake up instead of staying in the couch all day long. Jogging. Set a goal/of laps. If you can try and reach your goal, you will gain more confidence. If you can run a goal of 9 laps, maybe you can learn how to set goals in real life. Maybe you can strive to finish those goals.--GOODLUCK--

Answer 17

Take life one step at a time, and no suicide is not the answer like someone said you should do (it never is) first of all state your personal space and make sure everyone knows its yours and you will not be pleased if they interrupt you in it. in that space read, study, play games, anything to put away the bad parts of your life for a while. Relax and live life to the fullest try to set some boundaries

Answer 18

Talk to your doctor, some times the symptoms of "being in a bubble or 2D" will pass when you get used to the drug. Sometimes you need a different one. Feeling better takes time. Things do get better. Keep active, exercise, eat healthy, have a good dialog with your doctor.

Answer 19

awh, well for having an alcoholic father and a bipolar brother i don't blame you for how you feel. sometimes other people bring on to your emotions. you need to go out in the world and start to experience things for yourself, yes i know its so hard to forget the past but I'm not saying you have to forget it though. find the things in life that seem exciting to you and go do it, and write down in a notebook book your feelings and thoughts. then if your ever feeling down read them. you only live once and so you should have fun. i probably wasn't much of a help, but i wish you a lot of luck with life.

Answer 20

Having family issues can make you endlessly question your own mental state or ability. You seem like a very nice person who has developed a defense mechanism to get you through the hardships of your life. If you feel those medications aren't helping you, you need to tell them. Maybe you don't need meds. Maybe you need the Lord. Maybe you need a friend... a jolt in life. It will be a challenge but when you pass through it imagine all the other people you can help. Stay string and take care of yourself. You ARE human and you WILL survive!

Answer 21

Hi



You need to seek professional help. As the first answer shows... you are not going to get much help from the people on here!



Sounds to me like you are suffering from feelings of detachment and depression, but I could be wrong.



Speak to your doctor or a psychiatrist about this or it will just get worse!

Answer 22

You have had it hard, i will give you that, but don't give up hope, you seem lovely and you will be fine, find some people who can relate to you...go to a support group, they will help you find your feet, i feel for you, it must be hard, but you will be fine, just keep happy

hope that helps........ask again if you need anymore help



goodluck xxxx

Answer 23

This feeling of merely existing is due to a lack of love and affection. Love has not been made real to you yet. When one looses the ability (or never learns it) to love, life becomes meaningless. One hardens themselves emotionally to the world around them.

The answer is to build that love within yourself. It is not to look to others around you. Looking to others only gives you someone else to blame when you think they fail you. You yourself have forgotten (or never learned) how to love or to trust in love. This is not just a physical kind of love. I am speaking of genuinely loving and caring for someone for just who they are--not for what you think they should be.

Yes, your life, thus far, has been bad, but the rest of your life is ahead of you. You make your path. Don't let others destroy the love you have for others and this life. Only you can control that.

Answer 24

Well, just ask God for help, but he cannot do all of the work you will need to do some work as well. Don't commit suicide like the first poster said. If you ever need to talk just email me and I will listen to you.

Answer 25

Suicide isn't the answer. I suffered from the same thing, it was hard for me to open up to people, even the people i knew i could trust. It took a long time for me to open up about my feelings, but when i did my life progressivly got better. it wasnt instantanious but it got better. I finally opened up to my therapist and she gave me some of the best advice i had ever had. So my advice to you is try to open up to a therapist or a close family member or friend. That doesnt me go to that person and jut word vomit on them, its almost impossible to go from hiding everything to telling everything, slowly let out your feeelings day by day let out as much as you can, and in time it gets easier and easier to talk about to that person and you'll end up feeling so much better about yourself.



thats what i did to get through it.

Answer 26

First of all honey, make sure you ignore all these ignoramuses who are trying to be funny by suggesting suicide. They are nothing but a waste of oxygen.



I suggest you see a therapist. I too have problems in the past and tried to battle through them myself, and i did improve to an extent, but with therapy I healed. Don't be too proud to seek professional help.



You will feel down occasionally afterwards. I do sometimes. But I feel content most of the time now, find yourself a hobby or something to really interest yourself in too, it'll help.



I had serious issues for years but I now live a successful and happy life and I hope you will too.



BY THE WAY, I suggest you read some books of people who have recovered from bad childhoods and really made something of themselves, try Dave Pelzers book, they really helped me.



x

Answer 27

take a gun an shoot urself then think it all over and say to ur self damn it man i shouldnt have shot myself or, u could go to ur doc and talk to them about it.

Answer 28

Christianity.

Answer 29

only one solution...suicide : (

Answer 30

There's a difference between spirituality and religion, don't become religions... Since you are 16, see a school counselor, they may be able to help you...



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Answer 31

I think you would benefit from counseling or some sort of psychological therapy, if you're not already receiving any.

Answer 32

so many qustions.. STOP! take a look, you are as important as anyone-else...you need to take the time for you! ...so that you can give time for them...and if you need your time, then take it! because no-one will give it to you!

Answer 33

JESUS! read the bible sweetheart, the best thing you can ever do. go to church. im not kidding. personal experience here, jesus saved me, and can you too.

Answer 34

Put all of your worries into jesus he cares for you when you trust him he will know what to do what ALL of your worries. Never have not 1 doubt!

Answer 35

be open with how you feel .

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Answer 36

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