Question:
What have you learned from the women in your life?
Eds
2009-03-05 15:07:07 UTC
My mother was one of the strongest women that I ever met. She left home and began supporting herself at age 13. She began working in restaurants and worked as hard as any woman that ever lived. She had Rheumatoid and Osteo Arthritis beginning about age 14 and died this morning. She was pronounced terminal about four years ago and had Hospice called to care for her on three separate times. She scrubbed floors on her hands and knees when most people would not have been able to get out of bed. She was told to get off of her feet years before she actually did and eventually became bed-fast. Many people were blessed by knowing my mom. I had two brothers, two sisters, three children and many nieces and nephews among that number. She always loved children and would give anything to spend time with them. She taught me the meaning of love when I was growing up and I hope that I have shared those feelings with others in my life. PLEASE SHARE your story of a women or of women who have taught you lessons that needed to be learned.
Thank You,
Eds
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I will not be online Friday evening or Saturday afternoon as a result of her viewing and funeral but I will return to read responses as I am able.
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49 answers:
?
2009-03-05 15:13:44 UTC
I'm so sorry, Dale. My thoughts and prayers (yes, I pray for those that I love) will be with you, now and always.



Your mother must have been a remarkable woman to raise the kind, loving son that is *you.* Your tribute to her is just so beautiful. Please accept my condolences.



((((((((((Dale))))))))
ÂŅŦĬ ĂĈǾŖŇ
2009-03-05 23:43:37 UTC
I read every answer and many of them are beautiful. I am also sorry for your loss. I dread when my mom goes, but also hope for it, as she has early Alzheimer's. It is a very tough road to hoe to think of physical or mental decline into the last stages of life and the new beginning.

Women are very strong and beautiful. My mother tried to show me how, but I was stronger, from a young age. What I saw while I cared for her until it became impossible was the love and total forgiveness which she bestowed on most anyone. It was something I missed as a girl. She and I were both Tomboys, so that makes a pair.

God Bless you and your family. Your mother is in a better place. The good memories will help carry you through, along with the support from everyone who loved her.
I can't find jesus
2009-03-05 15:17:09 UTC
Your mother sounds like she was a very strong, loving, caring person and I am honestly moved by what you wrote. You sound like she has raised you with some sense and I'm sure was very proud of you. I can relate to your story because my mother has scoliosis. She shouldnt be working either but she does, 2 jobs. I left her back in Germany 4 years ago so I can come to the U.S and finish school so she wouldnt have to do this much longer. Everything that inspires me is because of my mother. She is the most positive person I know and the most optimistic although she may not be one of the most fortunate. I have 4 siblings and each of us love our mother over anything. She has taught me to love everyone, forgive everyone, and have faith in all those around me because at the end of the day we are all the same.



Take care friend and remember your mother is not really gone. She has left an impression on you that you have just left on me, and this will continue throughout eternity. We are all alot closer than we think.
xenypoo
2009-03-06 01:08:45 UTC
I saw mostly cowardice and weakness from my Mother, I saw financial success, achievement and intellect from my grandmother, but she was cold emotionally, yes she lived a hard life, survived the Great Depression, 4 bad marriages, and when she passed away, left a quarter of a million dollars, which my mother squandered in less than 1 year.



I am the opposite of my Mother, by literally, mindfully stopping any actions I took in my life to insure I would not grow to be the wretched person she was, and is. I raised my child oppositely than she did, as well, for no child deserves what she did.



Margaret Thatcher, and Golda Meier I greatly admire, although I never knew them personally, and was not effected by their strength until adulthood, so I guess I learnedthe most about personal values, a true love for country through my hero since I laid eyes on him at 9 years old. Ronald Reagan. I am a woman by the way, and up until I understood Mr. Reagans convictions, I can only give complete and absolute credit for my decisions in life to ALWAYS try and do the right thing, no matter what, to Jesus Christ, who came everytime I cried His name, comforted me out of my fears, and pain, and held me tight when I wanted to die, since I knew how to pray, at the age of 3. I knew Jesus, before everything, or anyone including my mother.



He personally kept me fighting for right, even though most people in power over us, like politicians don't care about right, and wrong, and I alone feel helpless to change it, I just keep fighting even though victories are few. I just keep fighting. He has never left my side in 39 years.
Annie
2009-03-05 19:54:33 UTC
My mother is or was a character and then some..... She was the picture of a lady, wife and mother few get to see.. She never gossiped or thought or talked bad about any one, and she also LOVED them babies !!! She would walk up to a stranger and if they had a baby she would *snatch* that baby and love and cuddle and kiss..... rofl..... she was, like I said, a mess..... and just so sweet and gentle.... NEVER raised her voice or fussed..... A real Southern Lady and a faithful Child of God...... I use the word *was* because : come July 4th it will be 4 years since I watched them lock her behind glass doors in a home, she suffers with Alzheimer's...... I have not seen her or my family in almost 2 years now..... The last time I saw Mother, it was my Mother from a distance, looked the same, but up close ? A child who did not know me.... A mother who does not know her own baby is a hard thing to face....... But, the memories of pure LOVE carry me, my sister and my brother and even my dad through.... but most of all , God gets us through it all !!!!! go in peace...... God bless

PS..... you know how much I love you my beloved friend !!!!
2009-03-06 09:00:36 UTC
Dale, my brother, my friend, Cheryl and I are both saddened at the loss of your mom, yet we are happy to know she suffers no longer. How is your diabetes doing?



I also have been extremely fortunate to have several wonderful women in my life. Two of the most incredible women in the world are my mom and my wife, they are very much alike. Although my mom did not raise us as Christians, she did raise us with great morals, values and a very christian like home. My mom had her hands full with us five boys and one girl, we were all troublemakers in different ways. Mom worked part time, went to all our extracurricular activities. My mom is the one who every kid in town calls mom, they loved to hang out at our house and mom would never turn people away. At 44 I am still learning volumes from my mom all the time.

I had the great privilege of leading my mom to Jesus about 10 years ago.

Please know that you and your family are always in our prayers.

Bill
2009-03-05 15:26:52 UTC
Eds if there is anything I can do even if it is only to listen just let me know . I know how it is to lose a parent and it is never easy even when you weren't particularly close . I know it must be even more difficult for you having been so close to your mother . I never really have had much luck in relationships other than friendships with women so I think I will pass on the lessons I learned . I am always around if you need me so just whistle ok son ? My sincere condolences and my thoughts and well wishes will be with you .
Niente
2009-03-05 18:06:59 UTC
I am truly sorry for the loss of your mother.

I know how painful it must be.

I lost my mother one year ago March 3, 2008.



She was a beautiful women, admired by all for her faith in God.



She and I were very close, we were always together.

One day I began to notice a change in her behavior and it was not good.

She started with Alzheimer. She battled with the disease for 10 ten years. The last 3 she was totally paralyzed. My sister and I took care of her at home, at my sisters house.



She touched so many lives even through her disease.

Her house was always open and ready receive who ever needed help or encouragement, prayer, food, clothing.



I can still feel the warmth of her gentle hands when she would come and pray over me, she always knew when I needed it.



I miss her touch, her warmth, her gentleness.



May God comfort you in this of sorrow.
2009-03-05 16:29:41 UTC
I am very sorry to hear that. My Mom passed away in January. I worked in the Hospital where she lived for the past 9 yrs. I worked there so I could give her extra attention. But she just got tired. She was 94yrs. I can`t tell you that it get`s easier as time goes by cause it doesn`t. So just hang in there and you will see her again one day. I have although meet a beautiful friend that listens to me and treats me like a Sister. I hope you have Family and Friends that will support you.
†ℱαìtℎ7♥
2009-03-05 16:43:20 UTC
I am so sorry for your loss brother, my prayers are with you, I pray that the Lord will give you the peace and comfort that only He can give.

My husband and I both lost our Moms in 2008, within 8 months of each other. Two very strong, beautiful women of Faith in our Lord Jesus Christ. No matter what my Mom was going through she always praised the Lord, I have been inspired by her many times. I miss her so very much, she was my best friend on earth. She is home now with my Dad, who passed away 5 years ago, I love them and miss them both very much. Take comfort in knowing dear brother.....



"Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live



And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?"



Love & Prayers :)

Blessed Be The Name of The LORD

HE Reigns
thankyou "iana"
2009-03-05 15:44:19 UTC
Eds my friend I offer my condolences on the loss of your mother. On the other hand, I extend the hope that she is now at her true home!



My mom was an amazing woman. She taught me so much but probably one thing which my husband most appreciates is "Do not be a nag."
?
2009-03-05 16:15:24 UTC
Dearest Dale. So sorry for your loss as I know from how you speak of your dear mother she was a tremendous Saint of God and a blessing to your family...It is wondrous how a virtuous mother can give so sacrificially for her family. I know the Lord must have given her extra Spirit as when I see you I see the fine person you are and I know this is because of her love and grace!



My mother too was a Saint of God, and she is with the Lord. She was much as your mother was too. I cried for years over this loss and finally one day I released her completely over to the Lord . Prior to that at any given moment when by myself I would just start weeping, and even now as I type tears flood my eyes and heart as I am reminded of her wonderful beauty. I so miss her still. Thank you Dale for sharing brother and may God be with you and your loved ones carrying you in his tender arms in the coming days and years ahead! God bless!
Semp-listic!
2009-03-05 16:13:56 UTC
May the Lord Bless You and your family. You have been greatly blessed to have such a strong woman as a mother. You have honored her well, by the character of your persona. I give you my heartfelt condolences.



Eds Mom

By Semper Fi Rebirth



Every flower leaves a seed that grows

Death is not the end of life...

So, take comfort in her love for you



May her voice stay alive in your head

Outwardly on your face

Making a light in your heart always....
wider scope
2009-03-06 03:40:05 UTC
My oldest sister was my shining light in many ways. She taught me to value my femininity, act with grace and exude class under all circumstances. She showed me perfection in love and gave me the warmth and comfort of a proper family.



I loss her much too soon. She was only 40yo. I have missed her for many years already and know I always will.
2009-03-05 15:17:46 UTC
I am so sorry for your loss.



My best friend Peggy is the most amazing woman I have ever known. Many think she is crazy, boisterous, wild, annoying...and all of these things are true. But she has been a mother to me, as well as a sister, a kindred spirit, and a best friend. She was there for me when our other best friend (it used to be the three of us) was killed in a car wreck. She was there for me when I had nowhere to go because my fiance at home was a drunk wifebeater. She was there for me when I decided to follow my heart to California. And she'll continue to be there for me no matter what happens next.
Depoetic
2009-03-05 16:31:28 UTC
I am weeping for your loss, precious one. May God send the Holy Spirit to comfort you even now.



My maternal Grandmother passed away - and we all joined together to go through her belongings.



There was not one item found that would have brought her any shame for someone to see.



She WAS Proverbs 31:10-31.



She taught me to LIVE what I believed.



I am mourning for your loss, dear one.



Peace.
Marie
2009-03-05 15:28:20 UTC
((((((((Eds))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear about your mom! She sounds like a remarkable woman!



Yes, my life was filled with extraordinary women too! My two grandmothers were both remarkable and the backbone of their families.They taught us about God and how to honor Him in all situations. They taught us how to give to others without ever expecting anything back. How to treat all people with respect and kindness. My mom was the first lesson I ever had on unconditional love. No matter how much mischief I got into, she always loved me. It never changed. She always had faith in me. My grandmother explained that we love because God first loved us. They are the people I learned about God from. Not only with their words, but by their examples. I also remember my great aunt Ophelia. With her brilliant blue eyes. She was the kindest lady I ever met in my life. Never had a bad word to say about anyone......ever. Never a curse word from her lips. The most gentle sweet soul. These ladies were not only moral and kind. They were the strength of our family. They kept us all together. They gave us a sense of who we were. Like steel magnolias. Beautiful and fragile, but strong as steel.



My heart goes out to you for your loss!

May the Lord walk with you and comfort you!
Laptop Jesus Second Coming ~P3D~
2009-03-05 15:21:00 UTC
As an Atheist I can't pray for you at this time. The only way I know how to honor your mother and you is to do something. Can you please share something that your mother loved, her favorite book, a passtime, something along those lines. I would love to do something in her honor.



She sounds like a wonderful person who made the world richer for being here. I only hope that I can leave behind a legacy as beautiful as this. You have my heartfelt condolances.



One of the most amazing women I know is my college-aged daughter, Laine. She is one of the most compassionate and thoughtful people I have known and I can't believe I parented this amazing being :)
No More
2009-03-05 15:20:41 UTC
I am so sorry for you. (((HUG)))



I have learned there are women like your mother who show us what hard work and determination can accomplish. I have learned that we are beaten, only if we give up. I have learned we can handle so much more than we think we can. I have learned that the best gift you can give someone is your time and love.

I learned these things from many women in my life. The most important one to teach me these things is my sister. She has shown me we are stronger than we think and will survive many things we didn't think we could.
2009-03-05 15:16:25 UTC
(((((((Eds))))))))



I am so very sorry. The woman I've learned the most from is, of course, my mother. I don't agree with her on many, many things. And she wasn't the perfect mother while I was growing up. But she did keep us clothed and fed, and the strength she has demonstrated after burying four of her children over the years has given me strength, I think, just because I know hers is there. (Not sure that makes sense.)



Eds, you're one of the finest and kindest Christians - and human beings - I've ever encountered. My heart is with you.



We all love you. I'm so sorry :(
2009-03-05 15:13:17 UTC
I am sorry for your loss, Eds.



I lost my mother back in Nov of last year. My mother was an angry, hateful alcoholic who blamed everyone else for her problems. I learned from her to take responsibility for my actions, rather than to weakly blame others. I learned that, despite fearing doctors, Im better off getting checked out early, rather than ignoring a lump that ends up ten years later being colon cancer that kills you within a year of diagnosis, because you were in denial. Ive learned that life is terribly short and shouldnt be wasted carry grudges against others. In short, Ive learned how not to end up just like my mother...



You are fortunate to have good memories of her. I honestly have very few happy memories of my mother.
God's Special Lady
2009-03-05 20:15:36 UTC
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Beautiful question!

My Mom allways taught me that I could be anything I wanted to be.

She really gave me the best I could have a education. She was allwasy here to encourage me. May God bless her and she come to know Him personally.
2009-03-05 15:22:21 UTC
Sorry about your Mom EDS. My Grandmother died a week ago last wednesday, and sounds like a very similar woman.



Know that complete strangers have empathy for you in this time of heartache.
2009-03-06 07:09:17 UTC
Hi Eds,

Well now we know why you are so awesome. While you have lost her in your life I believe that you have and will continue to spread her love because that is what she has taught you to do.

Take care sweet one.
john c
2009-03-06 05:21:35 UTC
i am very sorry to hear of your loss your mother sounds like a great person who im sure will be missed by many my thoughts and prayers go with you god bless
nosnod™
2009-03-05 22:41:06 UTC
you are in my thoughts and prayers sweet friend...you are so blessed to have the Lord in your life to help you through this valley of heartache...

know this, there is a God given love in my heart for you and that love brings tears to my eyes and morning to my soul that you must endure this loss...God Bless you...

always nosnod
2009-03-05 19:22:11 UTC
At eventide, between twilight and moonrise

I heard a cricket sing neath the new mown hay

And was thankful.





May you know peace



I'm so sorry for your loss



michael
2009-03-05 16:00:15 UTC
brother Dale you and your family are in my prayers,I am sorry for your loss.



my mother and grandmother were the ones who raised me,my mother is the one who taught me the love of Jesus,and she would sing to us a lot which was very comforting. she also taught me how to take care of my children,also my grandmother,but my grandmother was more of the disciplinarian,I get that from her,she knew how to keep the kids in line and we always respected her,but she was fair in dealing with us also,so she taught me to be tough but fair.

these were 2 very strong women,I lost my grandma in August of last year,but I rejoice in knowing that I will see her again in heaven.



(((((Dale)))))
rapturefuture
2009-03-05 17:31:38 UTC
Beautiful eulogy !!! I have learned that women think differently than men !!! A women will think in the framework of I FEEL, where as a man will think in the framework WHAT SHALL I DO ABOUT IT !!!



My mother impressed me with the idea to work work work !!!



She died on Labor Day !!! It seems like she underscored it for me !!!
Jan P
2009-03-05 21:20:24 UTC
(((((EDS)))))))

You are in our thoughts and prayers.



I learned from Pastor Sandy about having integrity...being real but still to have compassion.



I learned new things from the many women I toured with over the years.
Kitty 2
2009-03-05 16:27:17 UTC
Deeply sorry about your mother.A tough woman she was indeed. But i learned from my mother the hard way. She never told me about sex but i decided i would after i got pg both times. I had 2 sons . And i told them the facts of life and to their friends. I guess she was afraid to tell me but i made that a life committment to open up to my son's. Thankfully it helped. Their father wasnt around so I had to be mother and father..I truly am sorry about your mother and I pray for you and your lose.
☼ GƖơώ ✞ Ѡɪηǥs ☼
2009-03-05 16:18:23 UTC
Eds,

God bless you! Now it is God's turn to care for her.

She will always be right there in your heart and, in all the lives and hearts of those she touched. She has quite a legacy, you can be proud of. She raised a son to be proud of too, in you! :D

You gotta know, she is feeling so blessed right now!
KitKat
2009-03-06 07:03:38 UTC
I offer you my condolences, as well. You are very fortunate to have had such a wonderful mother, teacher. All the best to you and your family. ~S
2009-03-05 15:16:33 UTC
You're a pretty good egg, Eds. She did a good job on you. My condolences. I lost my father last year, myself.



As for women, they've all taught me something... basically how to not behave like a barbarian. They are truly the fairer sex. :)
?
2009-03-06 07:36:24 UTC
I am so very sorry for your loss.I hope and pray that I will be looked upon by my children as you have looked upon your loving mother.
tithe institute
2009-03-05 18:32:14 UTC
eds, please accept my condolences, what a wonderful,beautiful,precious woman. "mother" - your love guides my way,supports me in all i do,and encourages me to believe,dreams do come true.your loveis always there,when my heart needs a lift,mother,your love is life's greatest gift. through women,i learned how to understand humanity.
Sister Queen
2009-03-05 17:21:30 UTC
My memory of the women in my life is being loved..I lost my mother when I was 6 but my grandmother loved me very much until the LORD took her home to be with him too, when I was at the age of 19...When I turned my life over to the LORD I realize he took there place in my life, which encouraged me to be the best that I can be..For the scriptures teaches us " when we lose our parents, God Almighty takes there place in our lives "



Bless you and thankyou so much for remembering us during this extremely sensitive time of your life... Many of us love you so much..You have been a great blessing to the yahoo community to believers and none believers..You let it be known without a doubt, you love " all " ....Much love, strength and peace, to you and your wife in the name of Jesus, brother ED.. I am so so sorry over the hurt that is in your heart..



We both know deep in our hearts, your precious mom is with the LORD..I believe in my heart she floated out of her body into the arms of her angel, who took her straight to the throne of Grace ..I lost my mom and both of my grandmother years ago..The LORD has encouraged me through his word that we who believes in him will see our loved ones who passes on in him, again in heaven after judgement..We know you are a strong worshipper of God Almighty, his son Jesus and the Holy Spirit..



I praise God Almighty with you for the times that he has given you to be with your mom..

You were her blessing from the LORD and I know she is proud of you for being the mighty, loving man of God that she has witnessed you to be during her life time here on earth..She is resting now in the LORD ..She has no more pain..No more sorrows, and no more tears..We bless God Almighty for your mother in Jesus name...May the LORD strenthen you during your mourning..God Almighty does what is best at all times my brother..God Almighty do not make mistake..She belong to God Almighty first, and he wanted her to come back home to him to rest in him....May the Good LORD and his angels be with you and your entire family this hour, this day, this week, this month, and this year and forever more in Jesus name...You will see her again in heaven my brother..Your sister in Christ Jesus....Sister Queen



((((((EDS)))))
batgirl2good
2009-03-05 16:27:58 UTC
***hugs***

I have learned strength and courage from my mama and from my identical twin. Daddy died when I was a teenager. Mama worked full time AND went back to school to complete a Master's Degree.



My twin taught me to be calm and patient though she was in horrible pain. Her trust in God was inspiring.



I send love and sympathy to you in your loss.
S K
2009-03-05 15:34:02 UTC
Since every woman I've been involved with (except my mother) betrayed me, I've learned that there's something seriously wrong with me.
2014-04-09 21:40:59 UTC
behind every good man is a strong woman
Smoky
2009-03-05 15:18:36 UTC
It depends on my mood....sometimes I think they are the whores of Babylon.....in my saner moments I think they are like my mother, a Superman, just like Zeus.......(Clue.... my mother stood for honesty, hard work and the belt) ouch !! ...And I am a good person because of her efforts and sacrifices ...... yep ...oops!!!....I read more of your query after I posted....I loved my mom hard, even though she was hard....I was lucky in life...just like you ....I hope your mom and mine will meet in that other world.....peace to you, your loving mom, and all sentient wretches....sincerely .....I am a Buddhist
2009-03-05 15:10:31 UTC
My sincerest condolences to you and your family.



My mother was the greatest teacher I ever had in my lifetime. I still miss her.
2009-03-05 15:16:21 UTC
That being wrong in an argument doesn't stop them from winning.
2009-03-05 15:10:30 UTC
My heartfelt condolences on your loss. I grieve with you.



Rev 21:4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
2009-03-05 17:33:11 UTC
sorry for your loss brother, may God bless you
2009-03-05 15:37:38 UTC
My heart felt sympathy to you and your family.



All I can say is where would we be without them. God bless them all.
Mojo Seeker Of Knowlege
2009-03-05 15:10:32 UTC
To keep my mouth shut.Sad about your loss.
MUEZZA
2009-03-05 17:24:18 UTC
i am deeply sorry to hear this. please accept my deepest condolences.



Mother is the greatest woman ever.
2009-03-05 15:10:39 UTC
they lie when they say they like guys who are nice or sweet. liars!



not to mention when they say that nothing is wrong, something is DEFINITELY wrong.


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