To all the christians out there, what is wrong with my sister?

Question

This is for the christians to answer, but if any other religious group wants to give their opinion then go a head.My sister is 36 years old and she was my guardian, she always say harsh things to me. Like when I try to help her out around the house she would cuss me out if it is not the way she wants it, and when I do it the way she wants it, she cusses me out because she does not like how it is done. She always try to find something wrong with me, and if she can not find it she would make it up. When I feel sad she would force me to tell her, and after a few weeks when she gets mad with me for any reason I don't know about, she would use it against. She try everything just to hurt me, emotionally. She try to get the rest of my family to believe I am a bad kid or I am incapable of taking care of myself when get grown. I got so sick of it, the worst thing about it is her kids treat me like dirt because she treats me like dirt and she does nothing about it. That was the last straw, when I finally turned 18 I moved out and stayed with my step mom, when she visits, she acts like I don't exist, I tried saying Hi to her but she ignores me, she claims she Loves God, but the facts seem to speak a little differently, how is she going to say she Loves God, but she treats me like trash, what's wrong with her?

Answer 1

She's judgmental and appears to resent (from her perspective) having had to take care of you.



If I were you I would just be civil to her when she is around you in a family situation, but don't go out of your way to socialize with her. She doesn't like you for some reason and it probably has more to do with her baggage than with yours. You can't make somebody like you. I tell my kids to be polite in a social setting but beyond that, don't worry about it. Nobody likes "not being liked" but she is the one who has to decide to change that, not you.



BTW, judgment and scorn isn't anything Christians have cornered the market on, so please don't let her attitudes stand in the way of YOUR faith, okay?

Answer 2

When we claim to love God we have to love His children also, even though some of His children might be our enemies. Your sister is not showing the love of God and, quite probably, isn't really a Christian. From what you say I feel that she is jealous of you or feels threatened by you. If this is not so then her actions make no sense at all. The only other reason that I can think of is that she is on a power trip because she is so much older than you are. I am wondering if you are prettier than she is or have a nice figure whilst, perhaps, she does not or perhaps you were better (academically) at school that she was. There has to be something which makes her wish to either bully, intimidate or ignore you.



If you feel confident enough to do so I would suggest that you approach her, preferably when there is just the two of you, but if you would not feel secure have your step-mom present, and ask her, VERY BLUNTLY, what her problem is with you. If necessary be specific and ask "Have I hurt or offended you in some way?" "Did you resent being left in charge of me?" "Have I cramped your style somehow" or anything else that you can think of.



Perhaps you could discuss it with you step-mom first. She might be aware of something (connected to the history of why your sister became your guardian) and might be able to suggest some other questions that you could ask. Whatever the reasons and whatever the outcome of your questions, you have a right to know why she resents you so much. Be prepared to be hurt by what she might say but, if she will not answer at all, it might be best to go your own way as if she were not your sister. She is not behaving like one. Always keep her in your heart though and, if you can, pray for her to be released from whatever demons possess her. She is a very unhappy person.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Your sister was being focused only on how the experience affected her and not on how it affected you. A common failing, but not an excuse. A child deserves better than that. She probably did, as well.



You and your sister ought to get together and decide to blame it all on your parents.



I'm adding, after reading some of the other answers. It is kind of outside the norm for a sibling to rear a sibling. I don't think you will heal yourself by hanging onto resentments, though. I think you have to let them go and also, you'll be better off if you can even find a bit of empathy for her. As much as you hated the way she treated you, imagine being her with all that inside you to deal with.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your sister may have a form of depression. There is little you can do unless she decides to get help herself. You should try to avoid the "poisonous" situation she represents if she cannot be civil with you. There is no reason you need to suffer. If you must be with her, try to be civil, and not to take her jabs personally. Odds are, she's taking her inner pain out on you. Family counseling is a good option, if you can get her to go.

Answer 6

Maybe she's just a mean person?

Believing in god has nothing to do with a person's morality. It's highly plausible she can rationalize being a dick to you while retaining some sense of self-righteousness.

Answer 7

Sounds like some underlying issues have a strong influence here? Emotional abuse, like physical abuse, can be passed on. (So be aware of your own reactions, since you spent some of your life under it.)



The best you can do is to develop yourself spiritually AND in emotional maturity, so that if it becomes possible to address her issues, your own emotional platform will be sturdy enough to deal with it.

Answer 8

Meh

If she can't appreciate you then don't bother with her.

All she is doing is adding more drama to your life that you don't need.

If she wants to talk to you about it, she will. If she wants to be a huffy whiney baby about it, so be it. You can ignore her just as well. It's just as much her loss as it is yours.

Answer 9

Well, this is only one side of the story. I'd like to hear her side before making any judgement or suggestion..

Answer 10

I recommend praying the rosary for her daily. The rosary is God's preferred means for obtaining conversions. The Virgin Mary has recommended that we pray it daily for the conversion of sinners. See the following promises.



The rosary is explained here:

http://www.ewtn.com/Devotionals/prayers/rosary/how_to.htm



The fifteen promises of Mary to Christians who recite the rosary:

1. Whoever shall faithfully serve me by the recitation of the Rosary shall receive signal graces.

2. I promise my special protection and the greatest graces to all those who shall recite the Rosary.

3. The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against Hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.

4. It will cause virtue and good works to flourish; it will obtain for souls the abundant mercy of God; it will withdraw the hearts of men from the love of the world and its vanities and will lift them to the desire of eternal things. Oh, that souls would sanctify themselves by this means.

5. The soul which recommends itself to me by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish.

6. Whoever shall recite the Rosary devoutly, applying himself to the consideration of its sacred mysteries, shall never be conquered by misfortune. God will not chastise him in His justice, he shall not perish by an unprovided death; if he be just, he shall remain in the grace of God and become worthy of eternal life.

7. Whoever shall have a true devotion for the Rosary shall not die without the Sacraments of the Church.

8. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall have during their life and at their death the light of God and the plenitude of His graces; at the moment of death, they shall participate in the merits of the saints in Paradise.

9. I shall deliver from Purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary.

10. The faithful children of the Rosary shall merit a high degree of glory in Heaven.

11. You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the Rosary.

12. All those who propagate the Holy Rosary shall be aided by me in their necessities.

13. I have obtained from my Divine Son that all the advocates of the Rosary shall have for intercessors the entire Celestial Court during their life and at the hour of death.

14. All who recite the Rosary are my sons, and brothers of my only Son, Jesus Christ.

15. Devotion to my Rosary is a great sign of predestination.



God bless!

Dave

Answer 11

Shes nuts.

Take her to a counselor ASAP!

Answer 12

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i am a Superior

when my mom out my father used to ***** me my mother used to suck me

i became a gay. why god you created me as a gay and you will put me in hell



muhammad married to a child

muhammad married to a child

muhammad married to a child



i am superior

i believe in Jack$s on a stick

the Jack$s is my god no it is the jack who is my god no it is the a$s

none sense

my holly book is the bible

but which one there are many bibles

none sense



islam is none sense

islam is none sense

islam is none sense





i am superior

my home is the disco the bar and the church for checks

i have 10 kids each kid from a different woman



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muslim marry 4 muslim marry 4

muslim marry 4 muslim marry 4



i am superior

don't you think that you are white fair hair and blue eyes you are white no

you should belong to one of our countries our color is tan yours is black





islam is a raciest

islam is a raciest

islam is a raciest



i am superior

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arabs steal our cuontry

indians steal our country

african steal our country

chinees steal our counry



i am superior

i cuased the death of so many ppl in many countries iraq afganistan vitnam and others.

hitler is my god he killed 50millions



muslims killing inocent ppl

muslims killing inocent ppl

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i am superior

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guess who am i

Answer 13

zapped with the holy ghost power. does she ever say, "hoo jah boo lah lah woo hoo lah"? i see televangelists do it sometimes... that might be a symtom.. dunno