What do I do in a strong relationship where my girlfriend is in a different religion than what I am?

Question

Most of you probably will see me as someone really stupid... but im really looking for help. You see, Im deeply in love with my girlfriend, who ive been going out for since the begging of the freshman year; September 26, 2013. I know its only been a little over a month that weve been going out, but I am deeply in love, and she means the world to me. But... she is a 7 Day Adventist, while im Catholic. Our religion hasnt gotten in the way of our relationship, but people have told me that later on, the whole religion situation is really going to bring us trouble. They have told me that we will not be able to settle our differences, and that we are just going to end up hurt. I really really love her though. She has been the only girl that has been able to see my defects in my person, and accept me for it. Not only that, but she has been able to help me work out my addictions, and to get away from them. Please, if any body could be a good soul and help me out, god will repay you in the most unbelievable ways.

Here is a little more information on who I am, just in case these could be any odds in my favor:
Im a 14 year old hispanic, and my girlfriend is a 14 year old Philippine. Shes really short; about 4'11 while im 6'2. She is really religious, and so am I: Each one of us in our different religions. Neither of us are willing to convert to the other religion, but my girlfriend has been thinking about it. I will for sure not convert (this might sound kind of selfish, but im a little touchy when it comes to religion) but my girlfriend on the other hand is still not very sure.

Im not sure what to do... Ive been thinking about letting go of her, just so that later on we dont get hurt as much as if I were to let go of her now. I really need help...

Answer 1

Sheesh.



Both of you renounce your religion, and live happily ever after.



How tough is that?

Answer 2

I suppose in the long run, religion will come into play. What happens if *hypothetically* you end up married and have kids? What's the religion of your children?



If you're not willing to convert, and neither is she, then there's bound to be many fights along the way in your relationship. It's *PROBABLY* best to stop things now, before you get closer. The closer you two are, the more it'll hurt when things fall apart. You're only 14; there's billions of other girls out there, and I'm sure plenty of them are Christians.



However, you are only 14...I will advise you to just enjoy the time you have with her now. Forget about the future; that's not a problem right now. Don't end a relationship because of a probability. Who knows what the future holds for you two? Maybe she'll convert in two years time? Maybe you will? Maybe you will fight over your religion, or maybe you'll live with it? You don't know the answers to these questions, so stick it out until you do.

Answer 3

I honestly don't want to burst your bubble kid but you should focus on school more then the issues of you & your girl later first of all it's just a relationship you are so young & I know you probably hate when people say that but it's true 5 or 8 years from now a lot of things happen & change take things slow enjoy your life a good way remember it's not a religion it's a relationship with God & actually giving your heart to him.

Answer 4

Ahhh puppy love. If only it lasted longer than half a semester...



Chances are, dude, that by the end of the semester or school year you'll have broken up. You know how many times I've heard my friends (and myself) say how in love they were with a girl back in high school? More times than I can count on all of my digits and yours, I'll tell you that.



Infatuation is all part of growing up and it usually goes away or seriously gets weakened as you age.



Besides, basing your life decisions on predicted future outcomes (unless you are in business or an investor) is silly. Live, try, succeed/fail that is the way of life. Limiting yourself to thwart 'potential' future difficulties will result in a "could have been" life full of missed opportunities and regrets of "I should have done ___".

Answer 5

You are both lost, YOU break the 2nd commandment constantly..God said if you break one you break them all, and Jesus said MANY will come in my name and I will say get away from me, I never knew you.



So with that said, you may as well see each other because neither of you will ever find the truth, so you may as well enjoy each other for the short time that you have left.



Stop breaking Gods commandments and BEG him to show you the truth, maybe you have a chance..he's hidden the truth from you all this time because you are a commandment breaker..This is pretty basic stuff.

Answer 6

Pro tip, relationships based in religion don't last, I know of 2 incidents personally where a couple marries on religious grounds and divorces soon after.



Just look for the good in each other, and accept that it is okay for a couple not to agree on every little thing.

Answer 7

Both of you should convert to the one and only true religion called the Eternal Religion i.e. Hinduism. The difference between true and false religions is teachings of true religions hold true regardless of belief or dogma while false religion is one which is true as long a you believe in its nonsense. For example reincarnation is true fact of life for all regardless of beliefs (even for atheists) but believing that earth was created 6000 years ago is only true if you believe in the nonsense. You convert to other religion and your belief will change.

Stop following false religions.

Answer 8

Here is the difference: 7'th day Satanists say that if you go to church on a Sunday you are going to hell. You on the other hand are not so touchy on the day of worship.

Answer 9

way too young to make any difference

all kinds of mixed background couples.

adults ave to compromise as necessary



relax. grow up



however you are "oil and water" something will have to give. two absolute truth believers will not be comfortable with each other. what will you teach children.



( hopefully by that time you both will realize there is NO "true faith")

Answer 10

Is the difference deep ?, considering both are still Christianity and hold the same bible ?