anonymous
2012-08-26 09:05:13 UTC
I do not nesseary believe caring, forgiving and loving is a choice, what I mean by this is we all got different feelings, different emotions, some act on there emotions and feelings differently to others, and some have different emotions and feelings to others.
Example, I can not kill an animal, lets call this animal a dear, I can not take a gun, or a knife and go into the forest searching for a dear to hunt and kill, even if it is for food, I will feel wrong, I will feel like I am being cruel. Where as, my friend who goes hunting for meat to eat and sell, can go into the forest with a gun, blow the guts out of the animal put it on Facebook and feel like they have done nothing wrong, I know this may sound cruel, but we all need food to eat, such as meat, so animals do need to be killed so we can have food, now I can't kill an animal because of my feelings and emotions, while some one else can, as they do not feel guilty, like I will! Therefore, I care so much for animals that I can't bare to see a death or an animal physically, where some others can!
Another example, someone kills my wife, I will hate that person for forever , I will never be able to forgive that person for what he or she has taken away from me, for taking another ones life, more importantly the love of my life, life. It will be easy for me to say,"I forgive you.", but in my heart I will not be able to forgive that person. While some one else, after a couple of years or months, may be able to let it go and truly forgive what that person has done, while others in there hearts can't. It is so simple to say,"just let go." or "just forgive.", but for me to apply that in reality, will be impossible for me, because of my feelings and emotions, my thoughts, etc.
Another example, I can not love a person who walks around the malls, taking drugs, calling others names, swearing at random people, acting like they think they are so cool, I will instantly have bitter in my heart for that person, I won't absolutly hate that person, but I will dis-like him or/and her, and I won't be able to hang out with them, as my emotions and feelings (heart) will get hurt, while others would not hang out with them, but they would not give to damns, what they do or don't do, and while others, really love that type of life style, and will hang out with them.
So, we have established that everyone is different, with different feelings and emotions, and I think we all know that our feelings and emotions is not a choice, I did not choose to cry and cause to be hurt, when I saw a cat get ran over by a car now did I? I naturally, just cried, and wish I never saw it and I was really hurt, while my friend, did not cry, and did not feel hurt, he just felt "poor cut." he got home and carried on doing whatever, he normally does, without feeling anything about this cat that has just been ran over, where as me, I got home and I would not be able to carry on doing whatever, without feeling absolutely sorry and sad for the rest of the evening while my friend did not feel sad. So now we know that our feelings and emotions is not a choice, if it was, I would of chose to not feel heart broken when I saw that cat being ran over, because why would I choose to feel hurt and full of grief and sorrow?
Now my point is, how can God say "forgive everyone." when it is impossible for some people to forgive in there hearts, and I know some can, but others can't because of there feelings and emotions, and I proved that by all the examples I gave. How can God say,"love everyone." when I bitterly hate people, who mock, bully, take drugs, etc, how can I NOT build a resistance against them in my heart, when that comes naturally for me?
So is love, forgiveness, caring, (basically emotions and feelings) really a choice? I mean, pure choice, where you can let it go even in your heart, and not just by words.
I believe your feelings and emotions is not a choice, love, caring, forgiving, is all feelings and emotions, so prove me wrong, prove that it is a choice?