According to the Catholic Church, why is oral sex considered wrong?

Question

I don't really believe in this teaching. To be honest, I don't believe in a lot of the churches teachings. I go to a catholic school and they have been teaching us this teaching and other ones similar to it recently. What do you guys think of this on yahoo answers? This question is out of Our Moral Life in Christ book.

Answer 1

Because the teachings on sex and sexual activity are beliefs from 2000 years ago when the mechanics of sex and sexual activity weren't properly understood. A lot of the Biblical passages were written by the early church fathers who inserted passages to suit their aesthetic beliefs that pleasure isn't the way to gain a place in Heaven. Also, the Catholic Church, because it is a conservative institution, is somewhat stuck in the past, and can't or won't adapt to the 20th or 21st centuries. Those two factors combine to be the reasons why the Catholic Church still teaches such outdated beliefs. I was always taught to question teachings and believe what I think is right, not necessarily what other people think. I'm glad you're doing that too. Hope this helps:-)

Answer 2

Your book is incorrect.



The Catholic Church does not prohibit bringing sexual pleasure to your spouse, or using your mouth to do so.



What it does prohibit -- and rightly so -- is using another person as a sexual object of personal gratification, and it prohibits perverting the marital act of sex between spouses. What this means, in graphic practicality, is that one should not purposefully stimulate the male to the point of ejaculation outside of marriage, or outside of the natural sexual act.



Don't mean to offend you, but you are (obviously) a child. There is no way you are going to be able to understand all of the Church's teachings or the philosophy behind them. Most people don't even try (you can see from the many other absurd posts on this issue). It is one thing to say "I don't understand this," and another to determine that your understanding is what makes something correct or erroneous.



I have yet to find ANY person who actually understood the Church's teachings and disagreed with them -- maybe couldn't bring himself to follow them, but still admitted that they were (probably) right. However, there is an endless sea of people who disagree with what they mistakenly believe those teachings to be.



Humility is the beginning of wisdom. If you don't have the former, then you won't get the latter.



I find that most people in cases like this choose not to believe something for the simple reason that they don't like feeling as if their lesser impulses, or perhaps even the things they've done or would like to do, are immoral. So they say "that's stupid," "I don't believe that," and really don't even try.



There is also a great difference between what the Catholic Church teaches, and what many teachers and books say the Catholic Church teaches. Many a soul has been scuttled by bad teachers. Don't let yours be among them.

Answer 3

<> The sex act must end with the man ejaculating inside the woman (no, not her mouth). Therefore, oral sex, as a means to an end, is not morally permissable - even within marriage. You and your wife and use oral sex as a means of stimulation all you want - only so long as the sex act ultimately ends with you ejaculating inside your wife's 'you-know-where'.



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Answer 5

I think you're misunderstanding the Church's teaching as it pertains to oral sex.

What you have to understand about sex is that it is a Sacred Act. That is why it must only be shared a man and woman - married to each other.



The sex acts must remain open to the possibility of new life. This means, as far as oral sex is concerned, that the couple is allowed to stimulate and pleasure each other orally - BUT - neither spouse is supposed to cause the other to climix via oral sex, otherwise that would be breaking the rule that sex must remain open to the possibility of human life.



A married couple can start by pleasuring each other orally, but they have to finish via straight sex.

Answer 6

You say you do not agree with a lot of the Churches Teachings then my suggestion is simple leave it. As the old saying goes "you can't have your cake and eat it to".Oral sex as read on EWTN is perfectly ok as long as it is between a married couple and is used as fore play which will lead to copulation. I hope you rethink and try to learn that those things you find objectionable are taught for the wholeness of the person and not for strictly personal satisfaction.

Answer 7

That would be oral sex for its own sake, as a means of pleasure unto itself. If oral sex is just part of the package in a marriage relationship that may produce children, then it's fine.

Answer 8

The Catholic Church believe strongly in Natural Law Theorem: that the purpose of sex is to have babies. Oral sex obviously contradicts this.

Answer 9

Oral sex is perfectly acceptable as long as it is performed by a married man and woman.



Any sex performed outside of marriage degrades the sanctity of marriage, is immoral, and and is theologically unacceptable.

Answer 10

The operative word is "sex", of whatever form. Your Church (I'm not Catholic) correctly teaches that sex is morally wrong outside the marriage of a husband and wife.

Answer 11

Well I was taught that oral sex within a marriage is okay as long as certain stipulations are met, those being. . .



neither spouse finds it degrading.



It does not replace intercourse, and is only used as a prelude to it.



Ejaculation must occur in the vagina, not the mouth, because one can not preclude or separate the possibility of procreation from the act.

Answer 12

I don't totally agree with it, but there's a couple different reasons.



One is that sex has two purposes: To get closer to your spouse, and to have children. In Catholic teaching, it's both or neither. If you have oral sex, you're getting the pleasure but obviously you cannot conceive.



The second reason is that oral sex makes sex about the physical experience of your own climax rather than a mutual climax. Thus, you're turning sex into something earthly and degrading, and your spouse/partner into an object that helps you to reach a climax rather than a human being whom you love and want to share that experience with.

Answer 13

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Answer 14

ANY form of sex outside of marriage is wrong.



Within marriage, oral sex is fine as long as the encounter ends with intercourse.

Answer 15

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Answer 16

not with your SPOUSE it isn't. otherwise, if you're not married - it's an intimate act of a sexual relationship and IS not for "application" prior to marriage. no matter what a former president says, it's a form of SEX hence the name - oral sex.

Answer 17

Any sex out lawful marriage is wrong in the eyes of God

Answer 18

I think it's OK inside of marriage, I'm not Catholic so I'm not a 100% sure, though.

Answer 19

Sex is definitely not the fort of Catholic doctrine. The Catholic hierarchy just think it is or follow policy without question.

Answer 20

According to the Bible oral sex is 'pornia'.

1 Thessalonians 4:3; ' ... for this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality...'

Answer 21

not open to life,ie. reproduction

Answer 22

Abstain from sexual immorality.





The Bible

Answer 23

because they're uptight and teach sexual mores from centuries ago, despite the fact that most of their followers ignore these rules.

Answer 24

is it? good thing i aint a catholic ;)

Answer 25

It's only not a sin if it happens to little boys.

Answer 26

Because they simply allowed it to be done by Nun... ehem.. I mean None.

Answer 27

200 years from now theyll apologize for this one too

Answer 28

Pffft, they just pay lip service to what sexual practices are okay.

Answer 29

nate_040 got it right.

Answer 30

Mouths are made for eating and speaking... not to perform immoral acts.

Answer 31

Its fun! The RC church does not allow fun...

Answer 32

Maybe they don't know how to do it right.

Answer 33

Because oral sex doesn't produce more Christian followers to put money in the collection basket.

Answer 34

tell me what isn't wrong in that religion!

Answer 35

it doesnt make babies and its fun

Answer 36

b/c yer supposed to go to the priest for that ;-P