Question:
Why is "God" so cruel?
janedoe
2009-09-07 00:14:25 UTC
I am in my early twenties and struggling with my existence. When I was a child I was beaten unconscious on the daily to the point where I have obvious emotional scars as well as physical scars. Even though I was raised buddhist, I would pray to God while my father beat me to a bloody pulp. I would pray that my situation would change or that someone would save me. I was sent away for a time when I was young, but the person I was sent to molested me for many years. I grew up with feelings of deep shame and fear. When I was sent back to my family, the abuse continued, I figured by now this is what life was. It couldn't get any worse. I was wrong, when I was 16 I was brutally gang raped. My rapist have never been caught and my family blamed me instead and disowned me. I live in a state of anxiety, fear and loneliness. I barely leave my home. When I was a little girl calling out to "god" to save me, I want to know now, why he never came? When I was being held down and raped over and over again screaming for help, why did god not come to my rescue then? Why is "he" so cruel ? I feel like dying, maybe a reasonable answer to this question might bring me some peace....????
34 answers:
2009-09-07 00:32:53 UTC
because my friend you were asking a wrong person ... maybe i dont believe in god but i think even people who do should not just ask god and wait for something to happen ... you must fight for your life and be strong ... anyway im sorry to hear that about you but you must not give up hope not in god but in yourself... i hope you find your peace soon
Out to make good friends
2009-09-07 02:52:34 UTC
In a cruel world like this, how do u manage to survive this? U must find a way out of this. The people who just blamed at u instead of protecting u, u dont call them a family, friend. U cant sit there waiting for god all the time. Run away from that place if the society is that bad, not even a single person wants to hear ur voice. Ur problem is a major issue and we call this as a girl child discrimination. U have to raise ur voice let everyone know, what has been done to you. The world must know whats been done to u. Run away friend! I know this looks like a weird option and a daring option. U dont know what will happen to ur future. But living in that society, u will face even worse dangers. U cant let them to insult a women's status or their body. Gather courage friend, fight against this and run away!!

Am having tears in my eyes reading ur real life. Please go save urself.
CurlySue
2009-09-07 00:27:58 UTC
There is no answer that anyone can give that can give you peace. I'm being honest.



You survived the brutality you experienced in your life. You never hear of people that were truly abandoned, because they didn't survive the abuse they went through - they died.



God can't control the actions of others, if you need to find an explanation of why that happened to you - blame the people that WERE there inflicting the pain. Why were THEY so cruel to you? What ever could posses a person to hurt another human being - even a child?



Is this still going on in your life - are you still being abused?



If you feel depressed, lonely, anxious, and like dying - there are people out there that can help you. There are doctors that can listen to you, they can give you medications to deal with the emotional pain as you mentally break through the memories and to help you pass through them and not to replay them constantly in your mind.



These are people that God has put on earth with the interest to help others and these are people with the intellect to understand how the mind works.



Help yourself to the services that are in place to help you if you notice that spiritually you're not doing any better just on your own while praying. Sometimes you need a little extra help from the people around you. That may just be what you need to help you to trust people and to not be afraid. God doesn't want you to be lonely - and maybe his "cruelty," is his way of getting you to get out of your home, and out of your mind and to change what experiences you had inflicted on you - to experiences that you can make for yourself by making your own choices now.



I wish you find peace and happiness. You deserve that.



I do feel it's a matter of perspective to call God cruel. I don't think he is, but it's human nature to try to find blame when we don't understand what compels people to hurt us and why someone or something doesn't appear to stop it.
gar69azusa
2009-09-07 00:31:02 UTC
The best thing you can do is forget about any emotional god. There are none. You might get some peace in believeing you got delt a very bad hand to play in the game of life. I also got delt a nasty hand, but I have survived and have had a very nice life. I went to war as a young man and got many of my body parts shot off. All my manhood and part of my scalp bone. Pain every day since. I was 17 then and now I am 75. I have loved this adventure called life and looking forward to my next adventure when I leave this body for a new one. I do widh you well and happtness on your adventure.
Ivy
2009-09-07 00:29:53 UTC
I love people like you. I know that sounds weird but its true. I had much suffering in my life too,and im only 19. i've been raped,molested,beaten,burned,cut,disowned by my bio-dad,and diagnosed with an incurable cellular disease. And i feel so unbelievably blessed.I don't believe in coincidence,i believe in God. These things are meant to happen to people like us because we are meant for more. People like us are meant to accomplish great things and so we can not be weak! We are tested and beaten down so that when we pass and stand up again we stand taller and stronger then those around us! It takes a great person to accomplish great things and i dont believe a great person can simply be born,they must be made. You are a much stronger person for what you have been through,its your choice what will come of it,you can buckle and it will all go to waste or you can see this as an honor and become the incredible person you were destined to be. This in itself is proof that not only is he not cruel,he loves you and thinks your something special,he just needs you to see it. Your not a beaten man/woman, you are a warrior!!!
2009-09-07 00:47:49 UTC
here is a video you should watch



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNau_Cdll3w



just to broaden your mind for education..



god may or may not exist. however it is NOT god who does any of this.



humans have free will all living things have a degree of free will.



i may have some resources for you, they may help you "majorly" understand the best material i have discovered on the "world" here is another link watch the lecture.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akgCb85PG-A



watch the whole series..



ive struggled much with MUCH pain as you have but not in the experiences you've had. my condolences for you..



there is no amount of scientific data that can prove the existence of a god at the present. there IS data though that can prove the existence of spiritual phenomena like ghosts and spirits. ( i dont mean to freak you out ) they are not out of the realm of science fiction... there is more evidence to dispute their non existence. as for god that is a HUGE HUGEx99999 question : ) at the moment no data can prove or disprove (or philosophy) god.. another



heres another link.. not much content bUT! if u go to the site i think theres a lot of content there..



also ive had a benign experience seeing my grandmother on the.. well heres a link to my blog..



http://therainman1906.wordpress.com/



scroll all the way down and click older posts then use "find" on the top bar and find 'long personal story' its not about god but you may find it usefull in your beleifs.



you may also want to check out this channel



http://www.youtube.com/user/DattatreyaSivaBaba



also look gooogle vedanta and browse things on google about a man named srry forgot the name :\ ill post later if i remember.



just as a bite.. in ancient times before the plough was invented god was a woman, and wwmon were worshipped much more than today, today things arent balanced, there is too much male energy.



heres another channel, everything on this channel seems legit except fot the 2012 stuff, none of my sources i think are bad, i discriminate very much in validity..



im not a counselor but i hope ive given you some resources to help you GREATLY more understand the workings of the universe.
raaawr
2009-09-07 00:21:55 UTC
I don't know the answer to your question, but you are a strong person apparently from what I have read. And maybe you can speak out for women and tell your story. That way at least you will be able to help others who also feel forgotten and abandoned by god, like your self. you should take a women's history class at a college, it will open your eyes even more. Our society need to change.
?
2009-09-07 00:35:20 UTC
first of all may i say, woah. holy crap.

i'm so sorry that all of this has happened!



the only thing i can think of which may be plausible is that where you live, there might be evil spirits.

i know it may seem a bit weird or far fetched but demonic activity can surround places allowing a lot of bad and creepy things to happen.

that and also, the actions of your family/other people, you know, they have free will to do what they want.

however, not sure why god didn't intervene?

i know he has before, like when my mum was being so close to being stabbed to death.



i would like to say that god loves you anyhow, and if that's no comfort (i can understand if it isn't) then there is definitely plenty of love for you in this world. where there is depression, there is hope



i can't explain why this happened like i can't explain a lot of things

but. my heart hurts for you.
Massimo Sam
2009-09-07 00:25:17 UTC
I could not begin to imagine how you must feel. Frankly, I fear my "answer" will be horribly inadequate.



You need to take life into your own hands. You cannot trust anyone else to do it for you, including "God". Being an atheist, I have to say I do not see that there is any proof for the existence of gods and your story certainly shows the lack of one. Any one who says God wanted this life for you as a test, as a rite of passage should go to hell, where ever they think that is.



"He" is so cuel because you let him. You are strong enough to still be alive, you are strong enough to claim your life back from victimhood.
Radkrish
2009-09-07 05:44:07 UTC
He is only cruel to be kind...



By being so called cruel he is making you to exhaust something...



Which means always remember when u r undergoing pain, GOD removes bad karmas of you. Surrender to the God. Keep the faith alive.



Pray to the God, whatever the sins you have committed earlier, incl your previous birth, you wont do it again. Do it sincerely. View everyone, incl those who are harming, sons/daughters of God. Dont blame the sinner.. Blame the sin..



Your sin will be cured automatically.



Try this you see the change.
2009-09-07 00:29:15 UTC
Thirty years ago I stood in a courtroom with both my abusive mom and stepdad. Listening to both of them lie about the bruises I received. I had told God at the age of 13 years old to go screw himself. My life went downhill from there.

Things got hard. I was put in a group home. At the age of 18 I went back home to my family just to be toss to the streets.

When I turned 30 I had a friend tell me to just talk to God. Not the way they do in church, but go home, lay in your bed and talk to him.

I did and God actually talked to me.

A few days later, God answered my one important prayer.

God why did you allow me to be abuse. He didn't answer my question through himself, but he answered my question through a woman preacher.

God allowed me to go through the abuse, even though he is against it, but he allowed me go through it because he knew that I would over come it. Now I am out helping those who are out here struggling with the same situation that I had struggled through for a long time.

If you are struggling with things, pray and ask God to be your guide.

If I were you, I would go to the police and explain to them what had taken place.

Hopefully they will be able to get you the help you need.
Mychall
2009-09-07 00:29:16 UTC
HE cant control what people do we all know right from wrong.an killing ur self is not the answer at all.my sister killed her self an we have not got over it.what thy did to u was wrong a nasty.but god has nothing to do with it we make r path in life not god.well look at it like this u have a story to tell an in ur story maybe u can help some one out that's been thru the same thang as u.an get some help from them as well. sorry for what u r going thru.
ozarkcabin
2009-09-07 00:36:02 UTC
All I can say is I'm deeply sorry for what has happened to you. My heart and prayers go out for you and the injustice that has been done and the burdens of these injustices be lifted from you. May your fear and loneliness be replaced with peace and happiness. Amen.
odampully
2009-09-07 02:36:34 UTC
Yes, you are right. God is cruel. You can't expect anything more from God. A farmer will reap the harvest. Similarly, God will kill his sons. That is his habit. No use if you pray. So, live according to your abilities and circumstances.
wizard of the East
2009-09-07 00:38:47 UTC
god is not cruel, humans r cruel

humans inflicts pain on other humans, even their own children

god does burden us as much as we can carry

maybe u r tougher from inside, and was able to live through the abuse

there is no point giving up, but try to fight for justice

death is not an answer to our problems

even though u have suffered much, there r other who suffer more

though it may sound ironical, but u can reach out and help the others better than any of us, due to the sufferings u have suffered.
Ha ha ha!
2009-09-07 00:21:15 UTC
If God exists, he does not save people from earthly torments.



If any of what you're telling us is true, you have lived a life full of horror. I encourage you to talk to someone, anyone you trust about your problems so that you can put that past behind you and build a life you enjoy living.
YoungSage
2009-09-07 06:45:58 UTC
First let me say that your story breaks my heart and I'm sorry for all the pain and suffering that you've experienced. That was not God's will.



God loves us and desires for us to do good towards one another. He also wants us to love him freely, this requires free will.



When people are free to choose many will choose to do evil, this is contrary to God's plan and purpose for us. This is why he sent Jesus to teach us a better way and give us the ability to follow it.



Please look for a good group of Christian believers who will help you with your pain and will share the love that God wants to give you.
Cheri
2009-09-07 00:28:16 UTC
God is never cruel ... people is ..hope you enjoy this



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Surettan S
2009-09-07 04:27:05 UTC
My dear sister, I feel so sorry to read your query. But you have to understand that God is not cruel to anyone or favour to anyone. All depend on one's karma philosophy, the reward of the actions of his/her previous birth. For a clear understanding please read the following passage:



There are times when thoughts of distress and tension raise their ugly head. There are situations when a person searches for right answers. Here are some typical examples - Why are we here? Why was I born here and he there? Why is she beautiful and I ugly? Why is so and so crippled for no apparent fault of theirs? Why does the egotistical bully who browbeats his business companions, fiddles his income tax returns and beats his wife, attain outstanding worldly success? Why does the timid, quiet little widow who has never said a harsh word to anyone, live in appalling conditions and die unwanted and uncared for? Why did he have to die? Why did he do that to me? Why is there so much suffering? Why this, why that?



The answers lie in one eternal truth - based on the Law of Karma or the Karma Philosophy - that no one can escape the result of his or her karma. Depending on the bad or good karma or action, one will suffer or enjoy, either in this or the next life. No one can escape the result of his or her karma. The law of Karma is inviolable. So everyone must act with a sense of responsibility. Ignorance of the law is no excuse. So we must acquire right knowledge of what is good and what is bad action. The morale of the story - I have to do right karma for my benefit; it is not for showing it to anyone outside.



Every human action has a moral aspect. If a person's certain act is morally good, the person gets ultimately benefited. If, on the other hand, his acts are morally bad, he suffers. It would require a lot of space to express what is morally good and bad. But in one sentence, it may be said that, if a person acts under the influence of hatred, anger, lies, prejudice, greed, ego, partiality, lust and such other acts under the influence of body-consciousness, then his actions ate bad or negative. These create disharmony and conflict and sufferings in the society. On the other hand, if a person has a balanced judgment, stability of mind, peace of the spirit and acts with the feeling of love, justice, sympathy, humility and the such other actions in soul-consciousness, then his acts are good because such acts promote harmony, peace, unity and happy feelings.
2009-09-07 00:48:39 UTC
And everyone in the bible had perfect lives? the jews in egypt, Jesus' death? etc. You got to understand that all this evil in this world shows us that we need a savior. Eveyone blames God for being cruel and evil but where is satan in this picture? When people blame God for the wrongs in this world, thats when you know that satan has them deceived. His plan is to make everyone think that God is allowing such evil in this world and satan hides himself. God is sinless and holy its like blaming a rock for being a rock. I recommend you read Job in the bible.



Jesus is the answer to your problems, as well as mine i had cancer and an abusive childhood. Jesus washed away all those past dark days of my life. He can to for you, do not give up reaching to him. You must want this salvation and submit to God while admitting your sins and letting him know you need Christ because you need a savior. Give God all of you, letting him know your pains and God will stir them up into something good. Read the word of God because it allows him to enter into you.



Isaiah 59: 1



Behold, the Lords hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ears heavy that it cannot hear.



John 6:35 (NIV)



35 Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty.





Romans 5:8 (NIV)



8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.



Revelation 3:20 (New Living Translation)



20 “Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends.





Luke 11:9-10 (New Living Translation)



9 “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.





1 Cor 13:12-13



12 Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.



13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
2009-09-07 00:47:22 UTC
people keep praying to the wrong things



pray to the angels ,ancestors,spirit guides,dead relatives and faries . these people have ears.



the devine mother runs the universe and that is a big job. she dose not have [EMOTIONS] so she lets one animal eat another animal alive because she dos not [feel] pain or agony.you have to be really spiritual to contact this [gigantic being],that sees us as bacteria .



so pray to beings that still remember what it is like to be a human.



i am so sorry for your pain and misery.
Me_Myself_&_I
2009-09-07 00:20:40 UTC
Well personally I am starting to think that there is no god!



That is so horrific what has happened to you!



Another thing is in the bible it says that "god" will not interfere until judgment day. Therefore in a way there is no reason for "god" when he can not help in those situations!!
SRINIVASAN R
2009-09-07 23:36:54 UTC
Forget the past. See the future. Do not repent what happened. Think how to face it. You have to learn to defend yourself. Definitely GOD will show way for you.
?
2009-09-07 00:23:09 UTC
its not only you when i was little my grandma got cancer all her life she prayed and prayed and took me to school because my mom could not and brought me anything i wanted but god never did anything good for her but you are young you have a long way to go who knows what will happen next...
?
2009-09-07 00:48:47 UTC
i cant imagine what you have gone through, the only thing that i can say is that in my life ,i have suffered the suicide of my mother, as well as heartbreaks and lonliness at times. there were times in my life when things seemed so unbearable, having adhd,bipolar,anxiety,depression, as well as being extremely angry at times. and being christian, i was told to pray to GOD to help me. i found that it didnt help much. i started reading the bible and only a couple of things stood out to me.jesus said that all power and authority had been given to him and that the power of prayer was found in his name. in casting out demons,healing the sick,raising the dead,and i have since done two out of three of these things, but it was always in (JESUS)NAME.when i prayed using his name,he healed me from all of the things i mentioned above. and it has been six years since then. i know that this might sound rediculous,but it works.the only thing that i can say that might give you some hope, is that, as you recover from this, you will look to give hope to someone else with similar experiences. my mother in law was married to a serial murderer and rapist, and had been raped and molested as a child. and after he went to prison, she has looked to minister to other women and give them hope. you can find her testimony at the address below
?
2009-09-07 00:31:21 UTC
God isn't cruel, the people who hurt you are cruel & God loves you is going to get revenge on them for you. He does things His way, and He will get revenge for you.
?
2009-09-07 00:21:44 UTC
If God controls the land and disease, and keeps a watchful eye on me, if he's really so damn mighty, well my problem is that I can't see, well who'd wanna be? Who'd wanna be such a control freak? Well who would wanna be? Who would wanna be such a control freak?
hjkhjk
2009-09-07 00:19:59 UTC
God's not cruel that was sin and Satan...God could help but God does thing for the better know matter how bad it seems. Trust me, the best thing to do is to stick it out the end...and you will be rewarded to the highest! =D Oh and im sorry to hear about what happened throughout your life. :/
ShellBell
2009-09-07 00:19:31 UTC
WTHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! call the policeeee. thats awful u shudnt have 2 deal with that. u shudnt b relying on god u shud take matters in2 ur own hands
IamtheHumblestpersonintheworld
2009-09-07 00:18:16 UTC
God has his reasons. Us as humans don't always know them. Everything God does, even if it is bad, is for a greater purpose.
Jose
2009-09-07 00:19:34 UTC
he'll come to rescue one day. be patient. sorry to hear about ur situation.
2009-09-07 00:23:44 UTC
Ummm who ever says god is loving .... either has not read the bible cover to cover or is trying to mislead you.. take these quotes of the god who in fact made the bible.. REMEMBER GOD MADE THIS BOOK



'If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put to death. He has cursed his father or his mother, and his blood will be on his own head.





OH FYI MANY PEOPLE WILL SAY THIS LAW IS NO LONGER VALID.. WHICH BTW IS A LIE.. EVEN IF THAT WAS TRUE THAT WOULD STILL NOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT THIS WAS ONCE DEMANDED BY GOD



10 " 'If a man commits adultery with another man's wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.



11 " 'If a man sleeps with his father's wife, he has dishonored his father. Both the man and the woman must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.



12 " 'If a man sleeps with his daughter-in-law, both of them must be put to death. What they have done is a perversion; their blood will be on their own heads.



13 " 'If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.



14 " 'If a man marries both a woman and her mother, it is wicked. Both he and they must be burned in the fire, so that no wickedness will be among you.



15 " 'If a man has sexual relations with an animal, he must be put to death, and you must kill the animal.



16 " 'If a woman approaches an animal to have sexual relations with it, kill both the woman and the animal. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.



17 " 'If a man marries his sister, the daughter of either his father or his mother, and they have sexual relations, it is a disgrace. They must be cut off before the eyes of their people. He has dishonored his sister and will be held responsible.



18 " 'If a man lies with a woman during her monthly period and has sexual relations with her, he has exposed the source of her flow, and she has also uncovered it. Both of them must be cut off from their people.



19 " 'Do not have sexual relations with the sister of either your mother or your father, for that would dishonor a close relative; both of you would be held responsible.



20 " 'If a man sleeps with his aunt, he has dishonored his uncle. They will be held responsible; they will die childless.



21 " 'If a man marries his brother's wife, it is an act of impurity; he has dishonored his brother. They will be childless.



22 " 'Keep all my decrees and laws and follow them, so that the land where I am bringing you to live may not vomit you out. 23 You must not live according to the customs of the nations I am going to drive out before you. Because they did all these things, I abhorred them. 24 But I said to you, "You will possess their land; I will give it to you as an inheritance, a land flowing with milk and honey." I am the LORD your God, who has set you apart from the nations.



25 " 'You must therefore make a distinction between clean and unclean animals and between unclean and clean birds. Do not defile yourselves by any animal or bird or anything that moves along the ground—those which I have set apart as unclean for you. 26 You are to be holy to me [c] because I, the LORD, am holy, and I have set you apart from the nations to be my own.



27 " 'A man or woman who is a medium or spiritist among you must be put to death. You are to stone them; their blood will be on their own heads.' "'If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put to death. He has cursed his father or his mother, and his blood will be on his own head.
Nowpower
2009-09-07 00:22:05 UTC
((((janedoe))))) May you be free from suffering and never again separated from joy.
2009-09-07 00:17:51 UTC
god wont be so cruel if you really believe in god and make something in life.


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