Why doesn't God ever help me in anything?Mature Answers Only?

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I'm 16 I'm in 11th Grade and I am an active Baptist Christan and all I ever hear in my church is when you have a problem put it in God's hands but for me he never helps me. When I asked for anything he never helps me recently I tried out for the Varsity Baseball Team and I been playing Baseball since I was 6 I asked him for help he didn't help me I didn't make the team. Then I liked this girl a lot a real lot and I asked God to help me but she never liked me. Then my parents have been divorced since I was 8 I'm the only kid in church with out his parents being together the ONLY one. Well I'm Trying Out for baseball again in January 19 but do you think God is going to help? I don't think so. I have song in the choirs, done plays for God in my church and even helped the church with money and to fix it up BUT still he never helps me. Why doesn't he help me?

If anybody make fun of this question I will report you. Thank you to who answers.

Answer 1

Well, as a christian, I too have been there. But first,He promised that He would never leave or forsake you. So, that said, you have to remind yourself that God can do NO wrong...nothing. Yes, He does love you but when things arent going "our" way, we have to ask ourselves...where did WE miss it...not God. He doesnt miss anything. Dont demand Him to do things. If you didnt make a team, wait for another opportunity and try again. Its amazing to me how many people like to blame God for the bad things that happen, but never remember to thank Him for the GOOD things that happen. You need to tell yourself and God that even if everything in your life fell apart right now, that you will never leave Him...no matter what happens. Stop putting your hand out and expecting things from Him when you dont give to Him. do you spend time each day, reading your bible? praying quietly? seeking what He would like you to do instead of what You want from Him. No parent wants to see their kids always saying "gimmie, gimmie" but they sure do love it when the kids say, "what can I do for you today mom/dad?" My parents after 36 years of marriage divorced. My dad was a pastor. cheated on mom most of their married life. Mom had enough and that was it. Am I to blame God for that? NO. It was the failure of human beings...never God. We must thank God for what He has done in our lives, for what He will do in the future and for the things that He will never do...for that expresses His perfect love. I will pray for you. Grow In Christ.

God bless

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Why doesn't God ever help me in anything?Mature Answers Only?

I'm 16 I'm in 11th Grade and I am an active Baptist Christan and all I ever hear in my church is when you have a problem put it in God's hands but for me he never helps me. When I asked for anything he never helps me recently I tried out for the Varsity Baseball Team and I been playing Baseball...

Answer 3

Maybe you weren't meant to be on the basketball team. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and God will help you with the things that are supposed to happen. A good quote also is "God helps those who help themselves". You can't expect God to do all the work for you. As you get older i believe you will find your faith. Don't let anyone tell you God doesn't exist or whatever. Everyone goes through hard times with their faith.

If you are really concerned, try talking to your parents, a trusted adult, a friend, or a church member about your problems. I'm sure in time things will fix themselves.

You also can't expect that just because you give out money God HAS to do things for you. Try developing a more intimate relationship with Him.

I hope things work out for you!

Answer 4

I was an agnostic. But when we were told that my wife was going to die from untreatable cancer (which we couldn't really accept), and she, being a christian, asked me to pray for her. Which I did, more and more frequently as she got worse. Not only did I pray, I BEGGED, on my knees, in the hospital toilet, for hours and hours over the period, sobbing my heart out, PLEADING to god, or whoever, to spare my lovely, pure minded and innocent wife, of only 15 months. Did he answer? Did he help in any way, during this absolutely traumatic and horrific living nightmare? DID HE BOLLOCKS! I am still reeling from from the shock and pain of losing her, even though it's now 3 months ago. I'm ex Special Forces and used to death. But I still can't help the tears of utter sadness, as I re-live and I relate this now even, nor ease the acute, anguishing pain of missing her. If there is a god, he's an insensitive, cruel, monsterous bastard! 'Did god say anything?', you ask. He didn't even bloody-well say, "Sorry"! Theists. Do I believe that there is a god? What the fukc do you think? !!!!!!!!!!!!! Edit As for taking responsibility for our own life. We tried EVERTHING, before I resorted to 'begging' for help. From spending around £50,000 of our re-location savings, to pay for air-ambulance flights, back and forwards, between Cyprus and the UK (we couldn't get insurance because of the cancer), to getting assistance from our Member of Parliament in UK, to cut the hospital and health service delays in her operations and even buying the Surgeons presents (my wife's wishes), to 'bribe' them into performing miracles. So, if god(?) had said those words to me, I would have replied, "But I've done everything, as just a man, that I possibly can!".

Answer 5

I know the feeling because i've prayed to God for the past 3 years to send me a nice girlfriend and never anything became of it. I ask myself why is this such a big deal for God to do, since he's always professing about love. I've been a good man all my life and i'm always there to help someone in need, so whats wrong? I once was a religious man and now it's seems I not only lost faith in God, but also in people. I wish i knew the answers like so many others.

Answer 6

When you didn't make the team--did you ask the coach WHY? Perhaps there was something that you could improve that will let you make the team next time. How do you know she never liked you-did you speak to her? Mom and Dad being divorce is not a reflection on you. That situation is between them. What's important is that both your parents LOVE you. Just because parents stay together in a marriage does not mean they are happy in the relationship.



Remember, Patience is a Virtue. When you least suspect it, you will have your answers. Keep the faith. It's worth the effort.

Answer 7

Instead of asking God to help you, you should be asking God what you can do for Him.



Put God first and everything else will fall into place.

Answer 8

This is a very good question. Here goes!

You think that God will help you in the way YOU would help someone. We can only recognise the world to the extent we can perceive it. Who of us is on the same level as God? Enough to recognise how he does stuff?

You can not know how and in how many ways you are being helped. Or what the time frame is in the granting of wishes.

You can help yourself a great deal by reducing the negative noise in your head. Learn to see how you bring yourself down. And thereby attract setbacks.Become appreciative and good things will flow to you more. Really. This is well known. It's not just about 'having good thoughts' and only doing 'good' things. It's about FEELING good. Give yourself permission to enjoy your life. What you have now. Remember you have so much to be thankful for.

Have fun.

Answer 9

It sounds like you want God to give you the perfect life. You should ask God to help you stop being so selfish and thank Him for everything He has given you for example life and redemption from sin through Christ Jesus.

Answer 10

So, maybe basketball isn't your thing. Your parents divorce was not in your control, as well as many other things. Why not think of the times when God perhaps did help you? you know, He may have saved your life and you don't even know it. I used to deliver newspapers (a driving route of about 500 papers). Then out of nowhere I got fired (pursuing a sexual harrassment case). I was totally upset "God, why?" Then my daughter told me that she had a dream that I was killed in a car accident while deliver papers and that she was glad I got fired- SO WAS I!! Count your blessings- peace

Answer 11

You might be asking him for the wrong kind of help. Not making a baseball team isn't the end of the world. There's bigger things out there to worry about.

Answer 12

Is this a serious question? I mean, with all the people that pray God to heal them from terrible diseases, or to save their loved ones' lives, or to help them get a job so that they can have money for food.. You come here complaining about the football team, the girl etc... Grow up kid!

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Answer 14

God will not hand everything to you.

You must work through it on your own. He will help to guide you.

He may not be helping you in a Materialistic way but He is helping you in other ways. You need to be able to do things on your own with out everyone helping you. God will not hand everything to you just because you ask for it. He is here to help guide us. There is a big difference.



Keep having faith. God works in mysterious ways. One day you will understand those ways. Everything in life happens to us for a reason and God does not hand us anything that we cannot handle.

Answer 15

Your answer can be found in Jeremiah 29:11-13 ...



"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."



Look at your own heart. Do you love God? Do you put Him before yourself? If not, then you are a stranger to Him. Why should He answer a stranger?

Answer 16

No offense, lad, but trusting in God will get you nowhere. I am serious.



You need to go out for yourself (and others). Prayer does not alleviate hunger, sickness or danger. It's just no good.



And no, he never left you... he simply never was there. I think we can safely say that now. God just does not exist.

Answer 17

the short time on earth can be rewarded by an eternity in heaven -you are conscious of your life and seem to be healthy ,so i am sure as you go through life you will find and get many happy and rewarding moments --your only young be patient

Answer 18

Jas 4:1 Where do those fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your selfish desires that are at war in your bodies, don't they?

Jas 4:2 You want something but do not get it, so you commit murder. You covet something but cannot obtain it, so you quarrel and fight. You do not get things because you do not ask for them!

Jas 4:3 You ask for something but do not get it because you ask for it for the wrong reason-for your own pleasure.

Jas 4:4 You adulterers! Don't you know that friendship with the world means hostility with God? So whoever wants to be a friend of this world is an enemy of God.

Answer 19

Let's start with the saying God works in mysterious ways.



God is not there to provide our wants, he provides our needs.

The things you are wanting are earthly things not spiritual.



That is way it is so easy for people to say things like : I guess god didn't want that to happen"



When we pray in earnest, we pray for forgiveness, health, and guidance, etc...



I was taught that when we are good in ourselves( no purposeful sin) that is when god answer's prayer.



If you have more.. you can always ask or email



These are just my opinions and are not a representation of any affiliated church.

Answer 20

I sure hope you are mature enough to handle the truth. There is no god.

Answer 21

God helps you in more ways than you can count. You're looking at the wrong things. The air you breathe, the fact that you have the choice whether or not to believe, and your life. He gave all this to you, and He loves you more than you can imagine.

Answer 22

If your for real, here is my real answer....



People often times say "God doesn't help me" or "God doesn't answer my prayers"- but really its because he didn't answer your prayer the way you wanted him to.



Sometimes the answer is no. Sometimes the answer isn't the way you wanted it to turn out.



Maybe the girl you asked to like you, would have caused you a whole lifetime of hurt.



Maybe if you made the basketball team you would have broken a leg.



God answers EVERYONES prayers, just sometimes not the way they want him to.



Ex- I am moving and I own an older car. I was praying and worrying how I was going to move it 1000 miles away. Do I drive it-and it may break down? Do I pay alot of money to have it shipped there? Anyway, finally weeks later my transmission went... guess what?



God answered my prayer of how I was going to move it... I WASN'T!



Pray that HIS will be done in your life, not yours.

Answer 23

God has given you the ability to think and reason, to look at situations with clarity, to see the truth of what is and to use your logic. It is spiritually immature for someone to expect the Almighty to always show them what to do, which direction to take, what the answer is, etc. You need to experience the journey of life...you even need to make mistakes and go through struggles and difficulties. How else do you think you will develop strength and wisdom? Wisdom comes with age and experience. God isn't going to grant you wishes and give you everything you want and desire, that is a very juvenile outlook.

Answer 24

Many people view an “answered prayer” as God granting a prayer request that is offered to Him. If a prayer request is not granted, it is often understood as an unanswered prayer. However, this an incorrect understanding of prayer. God answers every prayer that is lifted to Him. What we have to remember is that sometimes God answers "no" or "wait." God only promises to grant our prayers when we ask according to His will. 1 John 5:14-15 tells us, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us - whatever we ask - we know that we have what we asked of Him.”



What does it mean to pray according to God’s will? Praying according to God’s will is praying for things that honor and glorify God and/or praying for things the Bible clearly reveals it is God’s will for us to have. If we pray for something that is not honoring to God or not God’s will for our lives, God will not give what we ask for. How can we know what God’s will is? God promises to give us wisdom when we ask for it. James 1:5 proclaims, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” Familiarize yourself with what the Bible says about God’s will for your life. The better we understand God’s Word, the better we will know what to pray for. The better we know what to pray for, the more effective our prayer lives will be.

Answer 25

Well, about the basketball thing and the girl. It happens. I didnt lose faith in God because he didnt answer my prayers. The thing is, dont take God to be someone who serves you everything you ask for. It doesnt work that way. The important thing is to first walk in His path.

Fear God, be aware that He is your maker...make God a priority over things that you want and need. Ask for wisdom to understand what He wants from you... Once you have that, the wordly things wont really matter much to you. Trust a stranger for once, and do this.



You are only 16, trust me...you are still very young.

Realize that God knew you before you were born...before your own parents saw you. Your only fate is to return to him after this life ends.

The church is an institution. You dont connect to God through pastors or priests. He will listen to you if you submit to His power and ask for His guidance.

Answer 26

Well, I'm afraid he can only help you, if you can do it yourself or if luck's in your side.

Why?

Not because he has left you....

Your not alone with this situation...

Its one of the reasons why we can safely assume, that he doesn't exist. If you check up about the Universe, geology and biology you'll see that it all makes sense without him as well.

Combines the two, and you should come to the conclusion, that he is just as real as unicorns and the easter bunny....



Good luck with the search / research and getting to the right conclusion.

Answer 27

God sometimes give us answers that really were not the ones we hoped for...you see he gives us what we need, not what we what. That sometimes makes it hard to "hear" the answer, because we were hoping so much for the answer we wanted to hear. He does, in fact, sometimes we notice years later that his answer was the best, and we are surprised because we didn't even acknowledge he gave us an answer. Keep your faith-God is listening to you.

Answer 28

Perhaps it is divine intervention, in each case something bad may of happened to you. With the baseball you may of had a bad accident,with the girl she could of lied to you and hurt you. I cant think of an example for your parents but you catch my drift. Maybe he's not helping you for the rights reasons.

Answer 29

He hasn't left you. When you ask Him do you believe without wavering that He will answer? You have to believe with the utmost certainty. Like looking ahead & knowing you'll be celebrating christmas even when it's summer. You know without a doubt that it will come to pass and definitely happen. Sometimes this is tough to do. Pray to Him and wait for His response. He talks to you through your friends, circumstances and your conscious. I would also like to encourage you to talk with your pastor.

Answer 30

Don't expect an outcome and don't look for one.



Expecting an outcome is not a request but a demand.

Answer 31

"Happiness comes from knowledge, from understanding the will of God and obeying. Anything other than this is a slow killing of oneself. It is the destruction of one's own nature."



Meister Eckhart

Answer 32

He has helped you but not in the way you want, he is not your genie. He is making you into a stronger person so when you really need the help he will be there for you.

Answer 33

Hi Jeff:

I'm 49, but I was also 16 too.

Even though I had a dad who was a protestant pastor, he was too busy with his church work to spend much time with me. So I didn't have much respect for his views of Christianity.

I knew there must be some God out there, but he, she, or it wasn't in my dad's church which I was forced to attend every Sunday, and my parents wouldn't allow me to go anywhere else.

So, I was basically LOST in CHURCH.

The thing I did right since then was search.

My self drove myself to search for God wherever he was.

I knew God revealed himself to people in Bible times, but most church people I knew, including my parents, said God hasn't communicated with people directly for the last 2000 years.

So I think my desire to find God was basically like your desire today.

The bottom line is this:

I didn't find God.

He found me.

I didn't know where to look, or who to ask.

But what I think is, if you really have this desire to find God,

it is probably because he wants to find you.

Take it easy and keep your mind open,

and I'm sure you'll find each other.

Don't worry. If you have this desire, you'll be rewarded.

Answer 34

One door shuts and another opens. Perhaps it will be a better opportunity.

Answer 35

I was Baptist and I realized they keep their people from truly knowing God. God will answer your prayers but their is a catch. You must be living a pure and proper life. If you are not in a constant state of repentance He wont answer you. Their is also the issue of what you are asking for. When praying for something it must be according to Gods will and not yours. Baseball probably isnt one of Gods main concerns. Think out what God wants, things such as mans salvation, peace, goodness to humanity. Also you appear to have the mentality that he owes you, but He doesnt owe us anything. We are to be servants of Him not the other way around. You need to spend time repenting of sins (ask God for help in that), seeking out God through prayer and study. Your preacher will lie to you. You think your baptist but anyone going to church on a Sunday is really under Catholic control. Nowhere in the Bible does God ask for anyone to give money to a church building. The preachers twist verses around to make you think that is good but God doesnt like it. Hope this helps. From a man saved at 16 who once getting to really know God walked away from the false religions.

Answer 36

Asking God to help you does not guarantee the outcome of the situation. You never know what could have been... for instance, it could have been helping you to keep you and this girl apart, because maybe he was saving you from sin. I don't know.



We never know God's plans, but be sure that he does listen, and he does answer. You seem to feel like you mist "do" more for God in order for him to answer you, and that's not how it works. Jesus loves us because we are his children, and that's all. Anything we do for him should be out of love, and not to receive things for ourselves in exchange for our obedience.



Your prayers seem to be all focused on yourself. Try praying for the well-being of someone else, or for spiritual matters, like your faith. Perhaps you could pray for opportunities to talk to friends about Jesus. Our desires must be in line with God's will, or else they will never be realized through prayer.

Answer 37

Because he doesnt exist

Answer 38

We make all kinds of plans for ourselves, but God knows whats best for you, and he has your "best interest"(what you would like in the long run) in mind. http://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?quicksearch=respond+to+god%5C%27s+giving&qs_version=65



You said something else: "I sang in his choirs, done plays for him in my church, and even helped the church with money and to fix it up"

Fortunately, that is not what God requires of us to get his love and mercy. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=29&chapter=66&verse=1&version=65&context=verse http://www.biblegateway.com/keyword/?search=all%20who%20believe&version1=31&searchtype=all&limit=none&wholewordsonly=no



He'll never leave you. http://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?quicksearch=never+leave

Answer 39

idk man. i know that God isnt suppose to mess with free will, so thats why the girls wasnt really into u. all i know is that he works in mysterious ways and no on can understand him. maybe you need to give more time in ur life to get to know him.

Answer 40

God gave LIFE, and ur life is special because no one owns it but you



god made u for a reason, think about it.



Only you can help for urself, not God, but he will watch over you ! :]





In jesus's name we pray,

Amen

Answer 41

God helps those who help themself

I am not Christian , but I think that quote speaks volumes

what are YOU doing ?



and dont go threatening to report people please

that is so childish

Answer 42

One of the most powerful and gracious gifts God has given us is the power of free will. With this power we have the ability to do things on our own. We cannot always rely on God to make or help us with our decisions. People should rely on God to help us make good, moral decisions in life and not to make and put into action those decisions for us. People get onto sports teams through talent not god because god cannot influence the coaches to choose you its their decisions. People end up with those they are in love with because it is up to that boy or girl to make the decision to be with you are not. Parents divorcing is a very sad thing but just because you were the only one in your CHURCH that had divorced parents does not mean youre the only one in the world. But God didnt make them divorce and God cant force them back together. Thats up to them. my parents are divorced because my mother developed spchizophrenia. Thats not anyones fault. Just a freak coincidence influenced by NO ONE. It just happened. Doing good things id good but doing good things for selfish reasons is NOT. So dont offer to help out at your church enless you really mean it. God loves all and leaves no one. Just be patient. Practice makes perfect and you should still keep faith that god will help you but dont rely on JUST that. Have faith in yourself as well as God. Hope this helped.



Keep your faith! :P



-Claire

Answer 43

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Answer 44

My advice is to stay in school and get the best education you can. Then ask this same question to yourself in about 3 years. I bet you will be able to answer it all by yourself.

Answer 45

Maybe His way of helping you is telling you no.

Answer 46

because you are just another player in this game.

Answer 47

9 million infants die in Africa every year, each with a mom praying every day, prayer is bullshit. God is dead.

Answer 48

James 1:2-8

2My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

3Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

4But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

5If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

6But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

7For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.

8A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.



Matthew 6:1-13

1Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them: otherwise ye have no reward of your Father which is in heaven.

2Therefore when thou doest thine alms, do not sound a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

3But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth:

4That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret himself shall reward thee openly.

5And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

6But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.

7But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.

8Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.

9After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

10Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

11Give us this day our daily bread.

12And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

13And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for

ever. Amen.



Take the next few verses and consider them well





James 4:3,5,10,13-17

3Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.

5Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?

10Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

13Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain:

14Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.

15For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.

16But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil.

17Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.