Sikh girl marrying a Brahmin boy, need help!!!!?

Question

I am a sikh girl who is in love with a brahmin boy. I was brought up in US so i have absolutely no knowledge about hindu religion esp about brahmins. i wanna marry him one day, and i wanna be ready for after marriage life. i wanna kn more about brahmins. i mean who do they pray and follow, what kind of culture n life do they live. do they have routine? etc he eats meat but not beef. he also drinks. I am so confuse, please help me....

Answer 1

These Brahmana-Kshatriya etc. classifications should not be considered on the `birth`.



Only behaviours and occupations are creating classes.



"Chaturvarnyam maya srushtam gunakarma vibhaaghashah "



"On the behaviours and occupations the four classes has been created " (Bhagavdgeetha)



So, nothing to worry.

Your friend is not a Brhaman.

Do not care about his `birth`.

No one is bigger than other.

Answer 2

I would like to inject a dose of reality to your situation by asking a few questions/comments. I have friends & relatives that are Hindus and Sikhs. Have your met the parents of the guy to understand their religious views? It is one matter for having friends of the other religion but I have seen that it is a much bigger issue when your son/daughter is marrying a person of the other religion; the Brahmins seem a bit more picky as they consider themselves the "pure" and are placed at the top of the Hindu Caste hierarchy. Does religion have any meaning to you and if so, are you willing to give up being a Sikh? If you want to learn about Brahmins, read your Sikh history I am sure you will find plenty of references. The culture of Brahmins is dependant on which part of India they are from; south indian brahmins are much different than punjabi brahmins. The other long term issue to think about long term is; what religion will you kids follow:? This is another sensitive issue that may arise down the road with your inlaws and probably your parents as well. Some literature suggests erroneously that Sikhs are just another hindu sect..well..according to basic definition: Sikhs are monotheistic and Hindus are polytheisitic, thus a major fundamental difference. When two people are in love, religion should not be an issue but unfortunately it is. Should you decide to marry this Brahmin boy; be fair to yourself and to him and to your families and set yourself some realistic expectations that there will be some bumps along the road.



Good luck!

Answer 3

Brahmin Sikh

Answer 4

Since u love this boy, u will not have any difficulty in living with him. These days Brahmins r only in name. They do not ve any particular ritual. Even if they have they do not impose on others. Once u start life with this brahmin boy u will get to know his likes and dislikes. Of course u can retain ur individuality but live in harmony. Hindus r loving and simple people so all the peace and love to u both.

Answer 5

Hi Dear,



Appreciate about your love and really very happy to hear, so at the same time I ask you a Question : First you loved and then came to know about the religion or you were knowwing and then dare to Love ? you also ask your heart you will get the answer dear .....



You loved him and ofcourse the boy also right so its both side love then there is now question of the religions coming into picture.



LOVE has its own definition and true love comes from heart and its a wave relates between two hearts mind and a sole and it won't see what he eats what he wears ...so what religion he is.



If truely speaking if you think like that then you must ask first all these thinks and then Love, and you know this never happens dear.



When you love each other is the understanding between you two what you like and what you won't and your syncronisation will only lead to this relation for a long run in the Life, if you cannot compromise or won't have a good understanding which you two have to built then definetly the Love cracks with no reasons behind which commonly happens.



So What I can advice is better understand each other what thy like and then only can move smoothly.



Also it is there from the society and the gurdians if you cannot make them understand and if in any case they are not in a postion to understand then also its you both who have to make it up and withstand on your strong Will.



All the best and be with Love and blessings to you both hope to hear positive response from you and we are only who make the relogion and the society and we are only responsible for everything.



"with Love"



SLH

Answer 6

Hindus are highly adoptive and accomodative .Brahmins are tupposed to be the highest and preistly class aming the Hindus.the are not meat eaters by tradition; but a few people now-a-days eat meat too.There are people who pray to their favourite Gods among a pantheon of "Gods regularly and many do not do that routinely and regularly.The religions does not take and exception to this .they ae free to worship or not worship any God .This is the only religon that respects the individual's freedom.in many matters of life . There are differneces i th eattitudes and habits of of the Brahmins from the different regions opf India .the Brahmins from the south of India would be more tolerant and more accomodative than the Brahmins from the North of India. Most of the families are highly tolerant and friendly topeople of other faiths .In fac theyconsider the sikhism to be a branch of Hinduism only.But it is not known how the sikhs take to it .now-a-days .Sikhism itself came int existence to oppose the Muslims who were committing atrocities against the Hindus .All the religions in India have been made out of the people who were originally Hindus only .

Answer 7

The concept of religion and caste is diffusing in this era of globalisation. You should not be worried if you have no knowledge about cult practices and customs of Brahmins. Its the love for your beloved which will matter the most after marriage.

Answer 8

Hey chill out just relax...im also a brahmin...and brahmins are also human beings..not different from the rest.

and coming to traditions..most of brahmins are simple..and peace loving..and most of them are vegetarians..and no comments on non vegetarians..it all depends on individual ideology..

have faith in god..they pray like rest of Hindus to Hindu gods..like shri ram, hanuman, sri krishn, kaali ma, laxmi ma, Ganesh ji,shiva etc etc....

at home most of the people are traditionall..i mean they give importance to traditions , customs like giving respect to elders, maintaining hygiene, importance to festivals, etc etc...

u need not have to worry with the behavior coz most of brahmins are highly educated....

they are friendly and peace loving people

i like your attitude..your interest in knowing things is really awesome...

i wish u the very best ..may god bless u with all the success n happiness in life....

Answer 9

Hindus have the least hangups. I am a Hindu and my daughter is going to marry a shikh. We do not insist that our future son in Law come to the temple with us neither do we have any hestation in going to a Gurudwara for Sat sangh or whatever. We are both far more enlightened than Abrahemic fundos.

Answer 10

best of luck.



don't worry. mostly they are non-veg, non-drinking, non-smoking community. some ppl are particular about onions, garlic etc etc.



mostly religious and well educated.



with changing times, even this community is changing. ppl are giving up the traditional priestly ways and taking up contemporary jobs. so is the case with drinking, smoking and non-veg. beef may still be a strict no-no for a vast majority.



keep the love strong and best of luck.

Answer 11

If you guys are confident just be straight forward to them tell them this is your situtation and your are giving them a heads up act asif your asking them what to do then when they talk(before they start screaming) ask your girlfirend to start crying and say that she cant live with out you. you will be married soon all the best

Answer 12

hi i am also Sikh, i think they are not different then us. they follow the routine as we follow. i was nanied by a Brahman lady. they r very clean and u have to fighter out that is all family is non veg or veg, u have to follow their traditions they r not hard. i believe that brahamans r very simple people . u r luck girl.

best of luck!!!

Answer 13

sweetie ,nothing to worry at all



we are same... just we are vegetarians & non-drinker & many are even non-smokers,.. habbit :P



if u are curious about our habbits , just send a mail.lol



best of luck

Answer 14

Visit this site maybe it will help http://www.wsu.edu/~dee/GLOSSARY/BRAHMIN.HTM