Question:
how to allow deceased to rest in peace?
misscruz
2011-10-03 13:47:13 UTC
My mom passed way on Aug 17, 2011. She suffered a massive stroke duirng her year & half battle with cancer. She was a very active person, lived alone, very indepenent until the day of her stroke, July 29. She was not able to talk, communicate, the right side of her body was paralyzed. On Aug. 17, 2011 @ 2:20PM, she left this earthbond life. How do I allow her to rest in peace now? I'm going to bereavement counseling but what else can i do. Thank you.
Five answers:
dmbarry777
2011-10-07 02:43:40 UTC
First, please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of your mom. It must be very hard on you right now but please know its very normal to grieve. Reallize that there are stages of grief, some denial, some anger and some depression and some guilt to name a few. It will take time to sort out all your emotions but thats ok. Take all the time you need.



You will never really get over the loss of your mother but you have to try to remember the good times you had together as like a memorial to her. Holidays, birthdays and special occasions will be hard for you but if you plan a special time in observance of her life and her many accomplishments, it will help give you comfort and peace.



Do something creative like writing or journaling, about your times together to express the intense feelings. You could make a tribute page on the internet to your mother. Maybe put together a scrap book with photos of you all together adding artwork or designs in her favorite colors.



The fact that you are reaching out and asking for advice is a good sign that you are coping the best you can and you will get stronger and be a blessing to others later in their time of grief. Know that she is at peace but its you that needs that peace of all understanding.



I take it that you believe in God so my suggestion is to go to Him as well. Why? Because He understands grief, and sorrow, and pain and loss. He will have compassion. Just talk to him in prayer. Cry out, yell, do whatever you have to but let those emotions out. I promise after its all done you will feel better in your spirit and He will comfort you through His Holy Spirit.



Just remember:

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4 (NIV)

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." – Revelation 21:4 (NIV)
harpertara
2011-10-03 21:20:23 UTC
Remember her. Talk to her as if she was still here. Erect a small remembrance shrine or altar for her. Something that the Celts believe (and I don't know your religion, so please don't freak on this) is that the dead Do Not Leave! The spirit that makes US unique individuals Stays Here and their 'job' is to look after the living, especially their family. Getting over the death of a parent is never easy, I've been there and done that, twice. Take flowers to her grave, talk to her, as I said. Tell her of your life and let her know that all is or will be well with you. Tell her that you will always remember her and for her to not worry about you, that she left nothing undone. I think these conversations will be of benefit to both of you and you might even 'sense' her presence on occasion. Do not let that alarm you. She is trying to let you know she hears you and understands. Best of life to you. It will get easier, I promise.
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2011-10-03 20:49:35 UTC
Sorry to hear that.



Take comfort in the fact that she's at peace now no matter what you do. If it makes YOU feel better, take flowers to her grave regularly (Remembering her will help you move on, it's more for you than her)
Rallie Florencio C
2011-10-03 20:52:45 UTC
Go on with your life and do the things that are right and just that you think may make her happy. Be happy with your thoughts about her that she is in a better place.
robert C
2011-10-03 23:24:54 UTC
sorry to hear that, she is at peace and she would definitely want you to be a, i don't know if you have a spiritual life , if you have, why not sit in a church for a while, the peace there can be be very healing.


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