Why is my son racist to people with Down Syndrome?

Question

I'm a 43 year old single father of 2 boys. My eldest is age 14. He suffers from asperger's and has been hard work since he was very young. However, he's always been a decent kid morally. I've tried to teach him right and wrong. Although we don't exactly connect too well, I know he does listen to me and take on board a lot of what I teach him.

Despite this, lately -- I'd say roughly in the last 6 months -- he's been developing a bitter hatred for people with Down Syndrome. I first noticed it when I found some of his artwork. He basically depicted people with DS being shot, stabbed, gassed, mutilated etc. I quizzed him about it, and he just laughed, made a humming noise and walked away muttering to himself.

AIn the weeks after, I began to get complaint after complaint about from his teachers about this same artwoork appearing in his books, as grafitti on his desk, on other school property. He was eventually expelled after he assaulted a Chinese boy, saying that he hates people with Down Syndrome. He attempted to stuff one of his hateful drawings into the Asian's mouth and then attempted to urinate on the boy's face.

I grounded him indefinitely. However, being a single parent, I didn't want to leave him home alone (when his other brother was at school, out with friends -- and besides, his brother is one year his junior). Anyway, this whole debacle culminated when I took him out in my car to go shopping. We passed a young man with Down Syndrome and stopped close to him at the traffic lights. My son said he wanted to go out and "sort that guy out". He was literally foaming at the mouth with rage. I said no, knowing the child-lock was on. My son faked a heart attack, begging to be let out so he could breathe. I released the child lock, and he shot out, brutally attacking the Down Syndrome man, telling him to "go back to China" among other racial insults. Anyway, character limit ahoy. He's been arrested and is pending trial. I need advice.

Answer 1

They are very literal (people with Aspergers and Autism) and maybe he sees in people with Down's Syndrome (because it is a learning disability that you can see physically).What he imagines others see in him. I don't know, maybe something along those lines. If what you say is true I feel true compassion for you, your son and your situation. Doesn't seem right to send him to trial.

Answer 2

1) That's not racism, that's discrimination. 2) It honestly sounds like your son has Downs syndrome, he sounds moronic. Down's Syndrome works with an inferior intelligence to others, well what kid with any decent common sense or superior intelligence would take the actions your son's taking. Your son sounds like a F U C K I N G retard that has an even more serious case of Mental Instability than the others do.

Answer 3

Are you a troll?

Let’s take a look at the facts:

- Assuming that disliking DS people is a race-related problem even though it’s obviously not.

- Making a story that is very difficult to believe.

- Asking Y!A for advice on a serious issue that a rational person would be talking to lawyers and counselors about.

- Posting said story in a section that has nothing to do with the story.

- Said section is very frequently visited by trolls who post strange stories.



Yeah, I’m going to go ahead and say you’re a troll. Go away please.

Answer 4

People with Downs Syndrome don't constitute a race, so technically your son isn't racist. I think the technical term for your son would be 'bigoted asshole'.

Answer 5

Downs Syndrome isn't a race, hon.

Answer 6

That is strange i say it is bad parenting.....

Either you can straighten him up or you can hope

he grows out of his negative disposition.

Answer 7

He needs psychiatric help, not spiritual help.

Answer 8

you can't be "racist" to people with Down Syndrome. you must spank sense into your son, it is still legal.