Question:
Can some christians help me out here?
New York Mama
2006-08-01 16:51:08 UTC
I was raised catholic and went to catholic school my whole life. It never made sense to me regarding the sacraments and going to confession and I stopped going to church. Then I went to a born-again christian church for a couple of years and went to bible study and prayer meetings and I was happy and fulfilled. Then I started to feel inadequate and like I did not measure up to the other people and they started getting on my nerves. I took in a friend of my teenage son who was homeless after his mom was murdered and the pastor called me and said I had to kick him out as it gave the appearance of evil as I was single and this teenager was living with me even though my son lived with me too. After that I never went back to church. Now I am remarried but not to a believer and we have a 10 month old baby. I'm depressed a lot and thinking about getting back to a good church. How do i get and stay with the program?
46 answers:
game buddee
2006-08-01 17:04:49 UTC
Wow. I'm with you 100% on this one.



I also believe there is no hell. It's simply a way to get people to fear something to believe in another thing. And like praying for your favorite baseball team.. what the flip? People.. I tell ya.



And the entire Bible.. I believe .. written by a few people in a small area on this entire earth inside this entire universe. It's a book of short stories. The flood? It was a simple river, not the entire earth as most make it to be. And Adam and Eve's sons must have slept with Eve herself, it's okay to kill people as punishment, and oh jeeze.., where does it end? It's all myth. There's absolutely no proof or fact behind any of it at all.. whatsoever!



MOST Churches are nothing but evil cults building their faith upon fears - at least that's what I've seen.



How do you get and stick with what program? It sounds like you're confused just like me. There's no reason to go back to what you once had unless you believe in it. It's that freaking fear and guilt they beat into you. But it sounds like you're asking for help from Christians only.. so I guess I'd better be on my way. Sorry to hear that you want to close out other options by only listening to one source.



But if i were a Christian, I'd personally suggest that you go to one of those non-denominational churches and see where that leads you. It's sounds like that would be what would make you happiest in life.



Wish you the best :)



P.S. If people tell you to pray to God. Question them. How do they know His name? It was never spoken, it's an unheard of name. The word God itself is incorrect - at least according to the scriptures.
anonymous
2006-08-01 16:59:47 UTC
Well, in the Catholic Church, you would not be allowed to take the sacraments because you were not married in the church. You would probably have to get an annulment through the diocese where you live.



Fortunately, we live in grace and what the Catholic Church fails to tell you is, Jesus Christ is more powerful than the Vatican, the Pope, the Bishops and the Priests. Jesus Christ is your savior, not the men of the Catholic Church.



I would suggest that you and your husband go as a unit, just as you are joined, and talk to the pastor near you. I have to agree with the pastor who told you that the two teenagers living with you without the supervisioin of another male. He was only trying to protect you in case the teenager made allegations or someone else who didn't know the situation made allegations.



Please visit a church. If you were saved in that Bible church, then once you are saved, there is nothing that will pluck you from His hand. You are still a child of God, although you are in a sinful state. We've all gone through those times!!! You're not alone!!!!!



I have faith that your spirit is grieving--the Holy Spirit grieves when the one who is saved is separated from God by their own choice. I pray you can find joy and peace with you family in a home church family.
steve
2006-08-01 16:59:33 UTC
O.K., let's do a baseline.



You say that you went to a "born-again christian church for a couple of years and went to bible study and prayer meetings and I was happy and fulfilled". What you did not say is whether or not you entered into a relationship with Jesus, got "saved". Yes? No? There is nothing more important than this.



I can't comment on the teenage boy business; you left out, I think, a big chunk of the story.



If your desire is to "get right with God", go here: http://www.standontherock.org/grace.html



Read it, think about it, do the right thing. Going to a "church" is a good start but it's only a lead in to the real deal, Jesus.



Mat 11:28 "Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Mat 11:29 All of you, take up My yoke and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for yourselves.

Mat 11:30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."
strangeduck82
2006-08-01 17:05:00 UTC
Your pastor was being a jerk if he said such things. Care less about pleasing people and more about pleasing God. It isn't his, nor anyone else's right to judge you. You know what you do, God knows what you do, please those two before you worry about pleasing others.



As far as sylvia brown goes, she's cooky. You've got an inclination and firm belief and knowledge that there is a spiritual aspect of reality, and she's delivering it to you, just in the wrong way. Kinda like the first temptation of Christ, he was told that if he was really the son of God, he should turn that rock into bread... He was tempted to meet an actual need, but in the wrong way. Don't fall for sylvia's crap, it's a trap!



To try to stay with the program, always remember that the church isn't the building, it's the people. Some of the most passionate and positive Christians I met have abandoned the church because of the hypocrisy that lies within. It's hard to find a good church. For my advice on sticking with it, I'd say read your bible on your own frequently, pray and ask for the ability to stick with it, and if you want to find a good church, I'd say check out your non-denominational Bible churches.



Definitly saying a prayer for you hon
~Whatshername~
2006-08-01 17:03:15 UTC
I'm not christian, i'm wiccan, so you can stop readin this here if you want.



All i can tell you is to believe in what YOU believe. If you believe in the 'supernatural' stuff the you shouldn't just go back to church and say you don't. But don't let that pastor's...rudeness change your beliefs either. If you believe in the christian ways and ideas (ignoring what that pastor did) then continue on believing. Maybe you should explore some religions and see what fits for you. There is such a thing as a Christian-Wiccan. Don't ask me how, but there is.



Basically it's all up to you to decide. though there'll be people telling you to go back to christianity because it is the 'only true religion' and people saying that you shouldn't believe in any higher power, and even me telling you to explore other religions, it's ONLY about what you want. If YOU want to go back to church, then do it. if YOU want to try something else then go for it.





Thats the best advice i can give--though it's probably not what you're looking for. Hope it helped





~WhatsHerName~
iahp_mom
2006-08-01 16:59:24 UTC
So, you gave up your faith because of what other sinners in the church said to you? That doesn't seem right to me. You have to understand that we are all sinners; we all make mistakes and sometimes they are huge mistakes.

We don't go to church because of what we get out of it. We are called to worship because it glorifies God. It is the reason we are here.

Check out the book "The purpose filled Life" I think it will help you alot - even if you don't find a church right away.

The other thing, you really should stay away from the paranormal stuff. Some of that stuff is legit. But it may be legitimately messing with Satan's minions. Not something you want to do.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:07:19 UTC
why not try and get plugged into a nondenominational church or a bible church. i personally prefer these two denominations, but any of the others such as Methodist, baptist and so forth are also great. before you join find out their doctrine and standards. what do they believe, are you challenged to become a stronger person in Christ, and do you feel the holy spirit's presence? I suggest that you get rid of everything in your life that has to do with the paranormal. the bible specifically states that it is all from Satan!! you can not serve both witch craft (which is anything paranormal such as fortune tellers and mediums) and Christ. also, their will be a rapture, weather you believe it or not, but that is not the determining factor of where you spend your eternity. there is a heaven and there is a hell. i'll be praying for you and your family. also i suggest that you read The Unexpected Journey by Thom S. Rainer and also pick up a bible and read it!!! John is a great place to start. because of your interests i also suggest that you read Revelation and Leviticus.

God bless!!!
PREACHER'S WIFE
2006-08-01 17:13:43 UTC
First of all find you a Bible believing Church were the Word of God is Preached ask Jesus into your heart and Life. Read Romans 10:9-13 KJV. Then forget about Silvia Brown and all these others that are out there making money off of people like you. (No punt intended) Silvia Brown does not have any power but that which satan gives her. And yes satan can gave you power to do his work. Thank God for someone that will take a young boy off the street and care for him, as for the pastor that told you different, tell him he needs to search his heart and see why it is so cold. Next get your family in church with you and tell your wife about Jesus and how He died for her. Dedicate that baby to the Lord and watch your life turn around for the good. Last hold on tight because after you do all this satan will be mad, but God will bless you like you have never been blessed before God Bless you and I and my husband will be praying for you
keri gee
2006-08-01 17:00:04 UTC
There are options in the middle of these two denominations. While I respect the Catholic Church, I disagree with much of its theology and practice. And the other church you were involved with sounds pretty legalistic and narrow. I would suggest you look for something like the Christian Church Disciples of Christ, United Church of Christ, or other mainstream, more liberal denominations.

I hope you can find a church that emphasizes the love and grace of God. Feel free to email me or contact me if you have more questions.
H
2006-08-01 17:08:11 UTC
Go back to your roots, the Catholic Church, but this time learn what it means to be a Catholic. Find a bookstore that carries books from Tan Publishers in Rockford, IL. and learn your Catholic Faith. Talk to someone with the RCI (Rite of Christian Initiation) program at your local Catholic Church.



It will be hard because your spouse is a non-believer and you are probably not married 'by the Church.' But this advise is the only Truth I can offer you. My own 'Faith search' took 5 years, but I never left the Catholic Church.



Whatever you decide to do, Baptize your baby as soon as possible. Stay away from 'feel good, religions of convenience,' they make you feel good at first but in the end leave you cold.



Finally, refrain from studying the paranormal until you are well grounded in your Christian Faith. Please.



Best of luck,



H
clair
2006-08-01 18:21:36 UTC
i like this answer





IN Atlanta



Well for starters, quit listening to those people, even the Pastor who said that about the other boy living in your house.

Go around to different Churches, read your Bible and ask Jesus to help you, He will.

Mainly, open up the dialog with Jesus and God, and tell them how you feel and what you need and then wait- they will open doors for you.



also. . .







iahp_mom



So, you gave up your faith because of what other sinners in the church said to you? That doesn't seem right to me. You have to understand that we are all sinners; we all make mistakes and sometimes they are huge mistakes.

We don't go to church because of what we get out of it. We are called to worship because it glorifies God. It is the reason we are here.

Check out the book "The purpose filled Life" I think it will help you alot - even if you don't find a church right away.

The other thing, you really should stay away from the paranormal stuff. Some of that stuff is legit. But it may be legitimately messing with Satan's minions. Not something you want to do.



OR



The best thing to do right now is pray. Pray to God, ask him to show you the direction he intends for your life. Ask him to direct you to a fellowship of believers that are going to support your walk with him. I believe you did the right thing taking in your son's friend and giving him a home, I can't believe anyone would even suggest that it looks bad. For crying out loud! What was your pastor's problem? He needs to get his head out of the gutter.



Pray about which church to attend. Pray with your husband and with your family. Until you find the right place, have bible study, prayer and sacrament at home. Visit some churches a couple times each. Get a feeling for where they stand. If I may suggest, try to find a church that studies the bible verse by verse and doesn't leave anything out or add anything in. Ultimately you will not find God at church, you will find him in your heart. Church is just a fellowship that is intended to support you in your walk with Christ, not one that would put you down.



God bless you.





you have many answers here, I havent even read them all. these ones seem good to me....

God Bless
anonymous
2016-03-16 15:43:27 UTC
A messianic Jew is a Jew that believes that Jesus is the Messiah. Christians and Messianic Jews believe that Jesus is the Messiah. They are Jews. The point of view of the anti Messianice Jews is best summed up by Mark JPAS when he said "it is acceptable to blend some degree of foreign spiritual elements with Judaism. The one exception is Christianity, which is perceived to be incompatible with any form of Jewishness. This is the double standard that is applied to Christianity even though Jesus is considered the Jewish Messiah in Christianity. Messianic Jews are looked at with even greater disdain. Why? its a cover for there own deviations from Judaism. Some Jews need to maintain a connection to Jewish family because they have deviated so much from traditional Judaism that many Orthodox question their Jewishness. They need find some way to distract attention because of there deviation from the Torah. This is done by pointing their finger at others to direct attention away from their own actions. You can't give yourself a title and expect that it makes you something. This is the argument that has been used against Jews that decide that Jesus is the Messiah. We are told that the mere belief of a different nature of God immediately invalidated a Jews Jewishness. At the same time Jews that become atheists, pantheists or stop practicing any element of their religion we are told are still Jews. They say that you can believe in anything but Jesus. Jews call conversion "joining the tribe". Things that would never fly in Orthodox or for that matter Messianic Judaism can be found in the Reform and Reconstructionist movements. A good example of this is a previous question asked here. The person asking worshiped the God Ferris but did not believe in him or the Jewish God. The focus of the question was" ...would you PERSONALLY feel comfortable welcoming me not just as a fellow congregant at your Synagogue, but as a member of the Tribe?" (so he was clearly asking about converting to Judaism). The response was "Reform Judaism covers a wide swath of beliefs and practices and I am sure you will be wholly accepted. ... I personally would accept you whole heartily as a fellow Jew." So some Jews will accept all kinds of deviations from the Torah but not belief in "Jesus". Let's not forget the Reform movement wanted to change the sabbath to Sunday to be more like Christianity. Most Messianic Jews are Torah observant yet you can become an atheist, stop practicing their faith, become a Buddhist, join a Unitarian Church and still be a Jew in the eyes of Reform/Reconstructionist Jews. Most Orthodox when asked about other Jews will say they don't know what non Orthodox Jews are. The same applies to the other sects. Speaking of sects Jews will tell you there are no sects but its not true. Rabbinical Jews follow an understanding of their faith that was established 1,900 years ago. They have their own canon of Scripture. There are also non Rabbinical Jews such as the Ethiopian Jews that follows the pattern of the Christian Old Testament and they have many additional books that they consider to be scripture. A group called the Karaites is the opposite of the Ethiopian and only believe in the 5 Books of Moses. Rabbinical Jews call Karaites "a sect of Judaism". You can goggle it and see for yourself. Don't let anyone tell you that there are no sects in Judaism. They say the the teachings of Jesus are very different from Judaism. They also claim that Jesus taught nothing new from the rabbis before him. Then they we tell you that there were no rabbis until a hundred years after the time of Jesus. Its all about winning the argument to them not about what's true. The problem is not differences but similarities. You should know ALL the writers of the Christian Bible were Jews but one. Much of our Scriptures are shared. The vast majority of early believers in Jesus were Jews. So when you hear the exact opposite you need to keep that in mind. A Jew can believe in Jesus and still be a Jew. Edit: those that make personal accusations should include links or shut up.
anonymous
2006-08-01 16:59:42 UTC
I really don't see how taking in that poor orphaned homeless teen gives the appearance of evil. You were actually doing something good there. And don't worry about measuring up to other people's standards. The only standards that matter are God's. Try a non-demonitional church, they're usually more relaxed.
smartactkat
2006-08-01 17:08:51 UTC
Oh dear friend. You practically told my story. I did the same exact thing you did. I was raised catholic and then I went to read the Bible for myself and became very mentally ill. I was living with my first husband and he didn't know what to do with me. In any case I have recovered and have been in and out of churches all my life and would be committed to that church for a time, then leave, and come back, then leave, etc..etc... As you grow to hear what the bible is really saying to you , you may do the same thing I did. Everyday though I visit this place on the web. If you're interested let me know. Thanks. God Bless you on your close journey with Christ. He is the only one that can fulfill you.
mike g
2006-08-01 17:01:21 UTC
May I reccomend some options. First is the Unitarian Universalist Church. They are not Christian but accept all belief systems that promote spiritual connection ot the divine creator (theists as pposed to trinitarian) Nest would be a United Church of Christ (UCC) or a Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) Both are Christian churches that recognize that there are many spiritual paths. They both practice the sacrements that you did not understand as a child. Either can explain them well. Both are wholy accepting of people and their life circumstances.



I believe that your spiritual seeking is God calling out to you. I pray you find a place that you and God can meet once again.
Samuel J
2006-08-01 17:01:56 UTC
First and foremost stop listening and reading anything that Silvia Brown says/writes.



It is not good for you.



As far as you and the Church goes. Go to church again, just find another better one.



This is what the Bible says about Silvia



Psa 58:3 The wicked are estranged from the womb; they go astray from birth, speaking lies.

Psa 58:4 They have venom like the venom of a serpent, like the deaf adder that stops its ear,

Psa 58:5 so that it does not hear the voice of charmers or of the cunning enchanter.

Psa 58:6 O God, break the teeth in their mouths; tear out the fangs of the young lions, O LORD!



God is supposed to be the one who gives you the answers my good friend not some enchanter! God is all knowing and all good these people are human, do not know everything and can fail you.



Please stop going to them.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:00:13 UTC
Although it is important to have fellowship with other Christians, and find a good church, the most important is your relationship with God. I once went away from the Lord for 5 years, and looking back it was the most miserable 5 years of my life. I felt empty inside, and knew that it is only in the Lord Jesus can we have that abundant life.



You are welcom to join a Christian group online

here is the link: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/jesus_in_our_midst



where you can be helped and encouraged.

just click on the link above if you wish!



God Bless you! and congratulations on the new baby.
Sara B
2006-08-01 17:03:01 UTC
The best thing to do right now is pray. Pray to God, ask him to show you the direction he intends for your life. Ask him to direct you to a fellowship of believers that are going to support your walk with him. I believe you did the right thing taking in your son's friend and giving him a home, I can't believe anyone would even suggest that it looks bad. For crying out loud! What was your pastor's problem? He needs to get his head out of the gutter.



Pray about which church to attend. Pray with your husband and with your family. Until you find the right place, have bible study, prayer and sacrament at home. Visit some churches a couple times each. Get a feeling for where they stand. If I may suggest, try to find a church that studies the bible verse by verse and doesn't leave anything out or add anything in. Ultimately you will not find God at church, you will find him in your heart. Church is just a fellowship that is intended to support you in your walk with Christ, not one that would put you down.



God bless you.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:05:38 UTC
It sounds like you never really got that much out of any of your past churches. Theres a handful of churches out there that are not good....usually the pastor takes advantage of all the power he has been given. But there are more churches that are good and that can help you know Jesus. Like you, i was raised in a catholic church and never understood it, or took anything out of it..about 2 years ago, my mom took me to a different church and i can honestly say it has changed my life. I am only a teenager, but I have learned SO much about myself and how important it is to have a good relationship with Jesus christ. When you find the right church, it will change your life...go to this website...you can download sermons from the pastor...there are sermons on just about every topic. You should watch these with your husband....help him to love jesus!

http://marshillchurch.org/

(click on the download link)



Good luck...i hope you can go back to having a relationship with jesus. Meanwhile, praying is very important!
Chosen 1
2006-08-01 17:05:34 UTC
You were not wrong for taking that person into your home. It's good that you're thinking about getting back into a good church. That's exactly what you should do...because if you don't, you'll backslide to that person you once were b4 you met Jesus. When other people make you feel lesser of a person, don't pay attention to them. They may see that you aren't being, the "right" Christian, however, Jesus looks at you heart and that you desire to do right on the inside. Man looks at the outward appearance.

But you have to be committed. Committed to God. Even though things may look bad on the outside, you can't give up on God, because He didn't give up on us. He loves you and He wants you to be happy and fulfilled, but you have to get your life in line with his will.

Your life may be hard, but it is not over. And you have to continue to get that spiritual food from God, and you get that by going to church...A real bible-believing, bible-teaching church. And when you get back in church, get involved. Join ministries, and committees, and that way you'll develop meaningful relationships with people who are on the same path as you. If they look down on you, you keep you head held high, and you press on. Only you and God have to know what's going on in your life, and that should be all you need to be fulfilled in life.

God Bless.
Brittany
2006-08-01 16:57:31 UTC
My personal opinion...if you want to become a born again christian. Don't worry about church at this point. And that whole think that the preacher said about kicking that kid out was wack. I think you should open up a New King James version bible and read it. It might help you. G/L with your salvation and your new baby♥
????
2006-08-01 17:17:18 UTC
Hi. I hope I can help you out a bit! When we receive Christ we establish a relationship with the Father. He is our Father we are his children. But the fellowship we have with God can sometimes be like a roller coaster, sometimes we can feel so close to God, feel happy and like we are bound for Heaven. Other times it's harder to feel his presence, maybe it's due to sin, maybe its due to just being busy, who knows? It's different for everyone. As a new Christian it is very easy to look at older Christians and feel inadequate, but here's a little secret: most of those Christians who walk around like they have no cares in the world are just "frontin'" they have a lot of the same problems as you do, they just know how to hide it because they've been doing it for so long. So, my first piece of advice is to try and not focus on the other Christians around you, you should never try to measure yourself against them... you should only measure yourself against the word of God to ensure your actions are Christian like. As for your former pastor, I do not believe he was correct in telling you to kick out the boy. In fact, you were being very Christ-like. The Bible said that Jesus hung around with all the "bad" people- the tax collectors, the poor, the harlots.... the pastor should have realized you could be a Christian influence on the young man. Always remember that pastors are human too and they sometimes "get in the flesh." he probably meant well, but in my mind he totally screwed this one up. :) The Holy Spirit is probably trying to tell you you need to get back to church. Church helps keep us encouraged when the road gets hard and it sets aside a time to worship God especially when life is so hectic, and I'm sure yours is with a baby. The best way for you to get back in and stick with it is to first find a church and a denomination you are comfortable with. Ask around, go visit some churches. If you go to a church and don't like it, feel free to leave, you aren't stuck there. Try and find a few Christian friends, even if it's over the computer ,that way you have a person you can ask for advice or ask for prayer. Next, stay away from Sylvia Brown. Now, don't get me wrong, I too find her interesting, but her kind can lead people astray, especially young believers. If what she says doesn't line up with the Bible, then she is not of God. (at least not our God) Jesus actually talked about Hell more than Heaven, so she is very wrong on that issue. Make sure you spend time in prayer and read your Bible. A great way to start is by reading Bible stories to your baby... it will start and good habit. Your question really touched me and I'm praying for you. If you get in church maybe you can be a good influence on your husband. Good Luck! :)
IN Atlanta
2006-08-01 16:55:51 UTC
Well for starters, quit listening to those people, even the Pastor who said that about the other boy living in your house.

Go around to different Churches, read your Bible and ask Jesus to help you, He will.

Mainly, open up the dialog with Jesus and God, and tell them how you feel and what you need and then wait- they will open doors for you.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:05:58 UTC
well you ask a long, involved question. At least you have a Protestant upbringing, from that foundation, you are best situated to judge other points of view.

The gospel of Matthew says (Matt 7:7-14)

"7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; those who seek find; and to those who knock, the door will be opened.



THE REAL KEY IS VERSE 7 (MATTHEW 7:7, or "7-7-7")

Jesus does not say, "Ask and maybe God will give you an answer, or We'll get back to you."

Instead, His words are succinct and conclusive. Ask (in prayer, expecting an answer) and it WILL BE given. Seek, and ye WILL FIND. not, some half way answer..... A-S-K IN SINCEREITY, AND IT SHALL BE GIVEN TO YOU. JESUS' WORDS, NOT MINE. Read ON:

A-----sk

S----eek

K-----nock

even the INITIALS, tell you to ask God, through prayer, and because HE loves you so much, He will tell you the Truth.



good question, and very good answer.



9 "Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! 12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

13 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.



Only a few find the narrow gate, most everyone goes through the wider one, and that's wrong!!!

Jesus knew ahead of time that interpretors would change most of the Bible. that is the reason for all His parables.

DEAR ONE, read the words of Jesus in the KJV or any anglo version of the Bible. and listen to them. Jesus ultimately asks each person to inwardly seek the Kingdom of God, and to treat everyone, even our enemies, as ourselves.
eefen
2006-08-01 17:11:30 UTC
I don't know what church you went to, but assuming the kid was younger then 18 or so, the pastor had no reason to ask you to tell the kid to leave, unless he had relatives that he could stay with. Your son was in the house, and you were just temporarily taking care of the kid. I would suggest getting OUT of the paranormal junk, and INTO a good Bible-teaching church. Take your husband with you. God bless!
shepherd
2006-08-01 17:07:19 UTC
My husband grew up Catholic, but was not able to make sense of some of it too. We started going to a Bible Church and he accepted Christ there. Eventually he took me to a Baptist Church (my childhood denomination). He is now there more than I am, it has changed his life and he found peace with His Lord. He is now a deacon. We raised our kids in the church and we have two very wonderful young men now! No Christian is perfect, only saved by grace. Try to find a church where you fit in. The purpose of church is to worship and grow in the Lord, not to be entertained. Keep in mind you go to glorify God! I pray you find a place you can grow and your husband becomes saved, your marriage will reap the benefits!
andi
2006-08-01 17:13:37 UTC
If you felt fulfilled before, maybe you just fell away. This often happens to christians. Recommit your life to the Lord. Ask him for forgiveness, and He will take you back. Have you ever heard of the story of the prodigal son? look it up...i believe it is found in John.



The things Silvia does is unbiblical, so you will have to surrender that to the lord, and he will help you give it up, but first you need to return to him. Try to get plugged in to a church in your area. I recommend a Calvary Chapel if there is one near you...please contact me if there is anything else...doulos_4_christ@yahoo.com
nancy jo
2006-08-01 16:58:14 UTC
Please get back into a good Bible study. There might be some on line for you to start with. I can sure understand your feelings about leaving that church with the preacher who judged you.



God will enlighten him, if He hasn't already.



God really does have the Words of life, but Satan will do whatever he can to discourage you, so be aware. I will pray for you.
tina
2006-08-01 17:09:17 UTC
Well I would like to...help..I recently answered a few question like returning to God and prayer, for example Prayer is a good place to start, the Lord;'s prayer, He will know if you are sincere...you could just look up my answers if you want to, the girls appreciated them.



It is sad to be judged wrongly for helping someone. Here you are the good Samaritan, and people want to discourage you.



I would pray for guidance in this area. Ask and you will receive. As the Bible says, 'Return to me and I will return to you,' Malachi 3:7, and at;



Zephaniah 2:2 Before the statute gives birth to anything, before the day has passed by just like chaff, before there comes upon you people the burning anger of YHWH, before there comes upon you the day of YHWH's anger, seek YHWH, all you meek ones of the earth, who have practiced His own judicial decision. Seek righteousness, seek meekness. Probably you may be concealed in the day of YHWH's anger.



It's basically my opinion, after Bible study, the demons can pretend to be people who have died, so that people will not believe the Bible's promise of a resurrection of the dead. And anything having to do with demons, God says not to be involved in, it is being unfaithful to Him; Deuteronomy 18:10. Rev.22:15..outside are practicers of spiritism.
chyi
2006-08-01 17:13:19 UTC
Hi, There is a hell as written in the bible. Deuteronomy 32:22 - For a fire is kindled in mine anger, and shall burn unto the lowest hell, and shall consume the earth with her increase, and set on fire the foundations of the mountains.Job 11:8 - It is as high as heaven; what canst thou do? deeper than hell; what canst thou know? etc.. whatever is in the bible is e truth and the truth shall set u free. In the end times, there will be all sorts of false saying of Christ, of church so being grounded in the word n being in a strong local church will be able to help. Good thing that you have left that church as it has wrong teaching! Find a strong church! Which location r u? I might be able to find one for you. There are some real good ones around. Dr. A. R. Bernard www.cccinfo.org/ccc_about.asp?id=34, Ps Phil Pringle http://ccc.org.au/ rev Kong Hee http://www.chc.org.sg God bless...
happymom
2006-08-01 20:29:59 UTC
I certainly don't have all the answers, but I can tell you what has helped me. I like being in a church with real, normal people who have a solid belief in the God of the Bible. Hopefully, people in this environment will be more focused on their own sins, than on each others'. It can be hard to find the right fit. Many churches have a statement of faith on their website, or you can find someone you respect and ask them about their church.

Get involved in a good small group Bible study. (Bible Study Fellowship, BSF, is a national one with a good reputation-and you may find a dynamic church with great small groups) There, you can build relationships crucial to keeping you close in your walk with God. These will be the people you can open up to about struggles and they can hold you accountable about those as well as about your daily prayer and Bible study. I find that I am most content when I am in daily prayer and study as I seem to be more in concert with what God would have me choose, and therefore with what is actually happening in my life.

Once you are in a good church, get involved! Teach Sunday school, volunteer as a greeter, sign up for other work that gets you excited or that lets you feel you are a part of things. The down side to this is that you will see more of the problems in the church as you get more involved. Although God is perfect, none of us humans are and churches are made up of many imperfect people. It can be hard to not be disappointed when we see other christians' flaws. Being involved further cements your relationships with other believers, lets God work through you, and makes it harder to skip church if you have a commitment there.

Most important is PRAY. Pray for discernment as you look into churches. I have found prayer for my spouse and, more importantly, prayer for my attitude and my role in my husband's faith to be vital when we have been in different places in our walk. I have often wanted to push him when he was not ready. When I decided (with a lot of prayer) to let him lead our family in faith was when he stepped up and lead-but I still have to wake us up for church or it doesn't work.

I am so glad God has put the desire to know Him on your heart. I will pray for your family and your search for a good church home.
Acts 2 38
2006-08-01 17:05:00 UTC
You definitely need to lose the psychic junk! It's not of God.

Try a different church.

Being born again is scriptural, it was unfortunate what happened to you.

Remember to not get your eyes on people, they are still just humans and subject to the flesh.

Wherever there are people, things can get on your nerves!

Check out this prophetic site:

http://wwww.endtime.com
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:01:33 UTC
You don't have to be in church to have a relationship with Jesus. Just talk to Him. He does love you no matter what yourself or anyone else is telling you. Sometimes people in the church can do stupid things to new Christians to hurt them. It sounds like that's what happened to you. I would find a seeker-sensitive church (alot of mega-churches are seeker-sensitive) and get in it. Most importantly I would pray. Don't let anyone cause you to let go of your relationship with God.
aaupthemeggs
2006-08-01 16:55:49 UTC
You've tried church and that didn't work. Quite a few people replace drugs or alcohol with religion. Perhaps the converse works just as well.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:00:40 UTC
A good church will NEVER tell you what to do in your home. If the church is concerned, it is for their own appearance, not for yours.

If you still believe in the Christian religion, try a non-denominational church. If you have doubts, do some soul searching.

P.S. Sylvia Brown is very enlightened and spiritual, but what she tries to teach is simple common sense. Do what feels right to you, not what a church feels is right for you.
anonymous
2006-08-01 16:57:36 UTC
I don't really know how to answer this question except in saying that maybe you should try different types of Christianity (Lutheran, Methodist, etc.) And maybe talk to a doctor or therapist about your depression. And all I have to say is it was not evil of you to take in that teenager. You are of great worth in God's eyes, and in mine.
anonymous
2006-08-01 17:02:18 UTC
Clearly you are seeking help to find the truth.

But, will you stick with it?

Many look down on us for our strict beliefs, but they are founded in God, and the teachings of Jesus.

We are the only religion that carries God's name.

You will be asked to study the bible and get a good understanding of it. You will also be expected to work with us to help find others who also seek God.
ironica7
2006-08-01 17:02:00 UTC
You dont have to go to church.. read the bible and pray.. If you still dont feel like thats enough for you, check out a non denominational full gospel church. And dont be afraid to speak out and tell someone that they are wrong, no matter what position they are in.
?
2006-08-01 17:14:39 UTC
Heavenly Father loves you and He's calling you back to Him. If you have never accepted Jesus as your personal saviour, pray this prayer:



"Heavenly Father, I know I am a sinner. I pray You would forgive me for my sin. Today, I turn from it. I accept Jesus' sacrifice as payment for my sin. Jesus, come into my life as my Lord and Saviour. I want to follow You now. Father, I pray this in Jesus' name, amen."



Read the Book of John (the one after Luke) in the Bible (NIV is okay as well as the King James). Find a good Bible-believing church and attend often.



I was saved in 1976 but didn't go to church right away. I fell away and lived a worldly life. I had a common-law relationship and had a daughter born to me. My spouse left me a year later. Five years later, in 1998, I was on my way to pick up my daughter for the weekend and suddenly the words "they're moving," and "it's a long way" went through my mind. When I got to my ex's place, she said "Come in and sit down, I have something to talk to you about." I knew exactly what it was. They were moving 1200 miles away to the east coast.



Even if you ignore Jesus for 22 years, He still comes to your assistance when you really need Him.



Later, I prayed in 2001 to Heavenly Father in Jesus' name for someone to fall in love with and be with for the rest of my life. I told NO ONE about my prayer. A week later, woman who I had worked with recently called me and said, "You're not going to believe this, but God inspired me to ask you out on a date." Six months later, we got married. We'll celebrate our fifth anniversary this fall.



The rapture is real and will happen soon. The parable of the fig tree in Matthew refers to Israel (the fig tree is a symbol for Israel). Jesus said that when you see the fig tree in full bloom you will know that the time is at hand. He said that "This generation will not pass away before all things will be fulfilled." Israel became a formal country in 1948; that means this generation will see His return!



That stuff you mentioned about communicating with the dead is referred to in scripture as sorcery and is sin. Avoid it like the plague, it's not good stuff!



Always pray in Jesus' name.



God Bless!
Wayne A
2006-08-02 09:20:57 UTC
I'm sorry that you've had so much trouble. I would have to say that the pastor maybe wasn't completely correct in the way he handled your situation.



He WAS right that possibly (if the kid was old enough) it could look bad (like a sinful situation, esp if your husband wasn't around), and we ARE to avoid the appearance of sin, since it gives the liars who hate God and the Church more ammunition to slander Christ with.



That said, he probably should have not called you, but should have come over to see you and talked it out with you (preferably maybe with his wife), to approach you about it. He also should have, if he was telling you you needed to not have him living there, offered as well for another family in the church to take the child in if there was excessively an appearance of impropriety in your household.



I have known of situations where there was no other option (at least temporarily) than for a situation to exist where there was an appearance of evil, but God means for us to, if we need to be in that situation temporarily, not let it become the norm or a permanent situation. Some times there is no other option, in the short term, but a living situation that doesn't look good, and in those cases God does bless those who are seeking to honor him but don't have that option at the moment. In your situation, obviously God would rather have you take the kid in than for the kid to be homeless.



I would not have let that keep me from going back to church. Sometimes we do need to be confronted in our lives about things we don't like to hear (sometimes because we are at fault, and sometimes because we aren't), and we CAN feel offended, sometimes, to be approached about something (maybe more offended than we should feel - after all, you hadn't done anything wrong by taking in this kid).



Also, perhaps the pastor said it in a cold and/or otherwise insensitive way. I would hope that, if he wanted you to not have that kid living in your house, he at least was willing to find some other living situation for him, and, obviously, not want him homeless.



In any case, you need to be in church in a church that preaches and teaches the Bible and that truly has love.



Btw, we DO need to be in church, it is God's plan for us, in so many ways. There are a lot of things we are commanded to do that we can't do if we aren't in church regularly (we can't take communion, we can't give to the Lord's work in the offering, we can't be there for the preaching of the Word (in the congregation), we can't get and receive the fellowship and support He means for us to have. When you get sick or are in financial straights, He means for you to have that church family to talk to about it, so that they can be there for you and help you out. When someone else is sick, or is having some kind of emergency (health or financial, etc.). . then He means for them to have you and other brothers and sisters there for that person/family to be able to lean on and be supported by.



Additionally, and this is probably the biggest reason we need to be in church, it is His plan and program to morph us into the image of His Son, by the influences and people in the church that He will use to shape us.



Too many people forget this when they advise, "you don't need church". . they forget that God says we need to be in church, and in fact He commands it (Heb 10:25, I believe, don't have my Bible in front of me).



God bless, you are in my prayers.
anonymous
2006-08-01 16:55:51 UTC
Have you tried the United Church of Christ?
anonymous
2006-08-01 16:55:44 UTC
Skip church.



Try going to a counselor instead to help work through your depression and anxiety.
♥Tom♥
2006-08-01 17:01:10 UTC
no matter what church you attend, the people there are not perfect... think of it more like an emergency room to get you through the week than as a perfect meeting place.
Dr. Mom
2006-08-01 17:00:35 UTC
Try reading the bible. You'll find all the answers in there! May God Bless You!
SJK
2006-08-01 16:56:34 UTC
find a diffrent church that isnt corrupt...



a real pastor would never worry about how poor or rich u r....



:/
Shaun T
2006-08-01 16:58:00 UTC
WHETHER or not you are Catholic, you may have questions about the Catholic faith. You may have heard challenges to the Catholic Church’s claim to be the interpreter and safeguard of the teachings of Jesus Christ.



Such challenges come from door-to-door missionaries who ask, "Are you saved?", from peer pressure that urges you to ignore the Church’s teachings, from a secular culture that whispers "There is no God."



You can’t deal with these challenges unless you understand the basics of the Catholic faith. This booklet introduces them to you.



In Catholicism you will find answers to life’s most troubling questions: Why am I here? Who made me? What must I believe? How must I act? All these can be answered to your satisfaction, if only you will open yourself to God’s grace, turn to the Church he established, and follow his plan for you (John 7:17).







AN UNBROKEN HISTORY







Jesus said his Church would be "the light of the world." He then noted that "a city set on a hill cannot be hid" (Matt. 5:14). This means his Church is a visible organization. It must have characteristics that clearly identify it and that distinguish it from other churches. Jesus promised, "I will build my Church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it" (Matt. 16:18). This means that his Church will never be destroyed and will never fall away from him. His Church will survive until his return.



Among the Christian churches, only the Catholic Church has existed since the time of Jesus. Every other Christian church is an offshoot of the Catholic Church. The Eastern Orthodox churches broke away from unity with the pope in 1054. The Protestant churches were established during the Reformation, which began in 1517. (Most of today’s Protestant churches are actually offshoots of the original Protestant offshoots.)



Only the Catholic Church existed in the tenth century, in the fifth century, and in the first century, faithfully teaching the doctrines given by Christ to the apostles, omitting nothing. The line of popes can be traced back, in unbroken succession, to Peter himself. This is unequaled by any institution in history.



Even the oldest government is new compared to the papacy, and the churches that send out door-to-door missionaries are young compared to the Catholic Church. Many of these churches began as recently as the nineteenth or twentieth centuries. Some even began during your own lifetime. None of them can claim to be the Church Jesus established.



The Catholic Church has existed for nearly 2,000 years, despite constant opposition from the world. This is testimony to the Church’s divine origin. It must be more than a merely human organization, especially considering that its human members— even some of its leaders—have been unwise, corrupt, or prone to heresy.



Any merely human organization with such members would have collapsed early on. The Catholic Church is today the most vigorous church in the world (and the largest, with a billion members: one sixth of the human race), and that is testimony not to the cleverness of the Church’s leaders, but to the protection of the Holy Spirit.







FOUR MARKS OF THE TRUE CHURCH







If we wish to locate the Church founded by Jesus, we need to locate the one that has the four chief marks or qualities of his Church. The Church we seek must be one, holy, catholic, and apostolic.



The Church Is One (Rom. 12:5, 1 Cor. 10:17, 12:13, CCC 813–822)

Jesus established only one Church, not a collection of differing churches (Lutheran, Baptist, Anglican, and so on). The Bible says the Church is the bride of Christ (Eph. 5:23–32). Jesus can have but one spouse, and his spouse is the Catholic Church.



His Church also teaches just one set of doctrines, which must be the same as those taught by the apostles (Jude 3). This is the unity of belief to which Scripture calls us (Phil. 1:27, 2:2).



Although some Catholics dissent from officially-taught doctrines, the Church’s official teachers—the pope and the bishops united with him—have never changed any doctrine. Over the centuries, as doctrines are examined more fully, the Church comes to understand them more deeply (John 16:12–13), but it never understands them to mean the opposite of what they once meant.



The Church Is Holy (Eph. 5:25–27, Rev. 19:7–8, CCC 823–829)

By his grace Jesus makes the Church holy, just as he is holy. This doesn’t mean that each member is always holy. Jesus said there would be both good and bad members in the Church (John 6:70), and not all the members would go to heaven (Matt. 7:21–23).



But the Church itself is holy because it is the source of holiness and is the guardian of the special means of grace Jesus established, the sacraments (cf. Eph. 5:26).



The Church Is Catholic (Matt. 28:19–20, Rev. 5:9–10, CCC 830–856)

Jesus’ Church is called catholic ("universal" in Greek) because it is his gift to all people. He told his apostles to go throughout the world and make disciples of "all nations" (Matt. 28:19–20).



For 2,000 years the Catholic Church has carried out this mission, preaching the good news that Christ died for all men and that he wants all of us to be members of his universal family (Gal. 3:28).



Nowadays the Catholic Church is found in every country of the world and is still sending out missionaries to "make disciples of all nations" (Matt. 28:19).



The Church Jesus established was known by its most common title, "the Catholic Church," at least as early as the year 107, when Ignatius of Antioch used that title to describe the one Church Jesus founded. The title apparently was old in Ignatius’s time, which means it probably went all the way back to the time of the apostles.



The Church Is Apostolic (Eph. 2:19–20, CCC 857–865)

The Church Jesus founded is apostolic because he appointed the apostles to be the first leaders of the Church, and their successors were to be its future leaders. The apostles were the first bishops, and, since the first century, there has been an unbroken line of Catholic bishops faithfully handing on what the apostles taught the first Christians in Scripture and oral Tradition (2 Tim. 2:2).



These beliefs include the bodily Resurrection of Jesus, the Real Presence of Jesus in the Eucharist, the sacrificial nature of the Mass, the forgiveness of sins through a priest, baptismal regeneration, the existence of purgatory, Mary’s special role, and much more —even the doctrine of apostolic succession itself.



Early Christian writings prove the first Christians were thoroughly Catholic in belief and practice and looked to the successors of the apostles as their leaders. What these first Christians believed is still believed by the Catholic Church. No other Church can make that claim.







Pillar of Fire, Pillar of Truth







Man’s ingenuity cannot account for this. The Church has remained one, holy, catholic, and apostolic—not through man’s effort, but because God preserves the Church he established (Matt. 16:18, 28:20).



He guided the Israelites on their escape from Egypt by giving them a pillar of fire to light their way across the dark wilderness (Exod. 13:21). Today he guides us through his Catholic Church.



The Bible, sacred Tradition, and the writings of the earliest Christians testify that the Church teaches with Jesus’ authority. In this age of countless competing religions, each clamoring for attention, one voice rises above the din: the Catholic Church, which the Bible calls "the pillar and foundation of truth" (1 Tim. 3:15).



Jesus assured the apostles and their successors, the popes and the bishops, "He who listens to you listens to me, and he who rejects you rejects me" (Luke 10:16). Jesus promised to guide his Church into all truth (John 16:12–13). We can have confidence that his Church teaches only the truth.







THE STRUCTURE OF THE CHURCH







Jesus chose the apostles to be the earthly leaders of the Church. He gave them his own authority to teach and to govern—not as dictators, but as loving pastors and fathers. That is why Catholics call their spiritual leaders "father." In doing so we follow Paul’s example: "I became your father in Jesus Christ through the gospel" (1 Cor. 4:15).



The apostles, fulfilling Jesus’ will, ordained bishops, priests, and deacons and thus handed on their apostolic ministry to them—the fullest degree of ordination to the bishops, lesser degrees to the priests and deacons.



The Pope and Bishops (CCC 880–883)





Jesus gave Peter special authority among the apostles (John 21:15–17) and signified this by changing his name from Simon to Peter, which means "rock" (John 1:42). He said Peter was to be the rock on which he would build his Church (Matt. 16:18).



In Aramaic, the language Jesus spoke, Simon’s new name was Kepha (which means a massive rock). Later this name was translated into Greek as Petros (John 1:42) and into English as Peter. Christ gave Peter alone the "keys of the kingdom" (Matt. 16:19) and promised that Peter’s decisions would be binding in heaven. He also gave similar power to the other apostles (Matt. 18:18), but only Peter was given the keys, symbols of his authority to rule the Church on earth in Jesus’ absence.



Christ, the Good Shepherd, called Peter to be the chief shepherd of his Church (John 21:15–17). He gave Peter the task of strengthening the other apostles in their faith, ensuring that they taught only what was true (Luke 22:31–32). Peter led the Church in proclaiming the gospel and making decisions (Acts 2:1– 41, 15:7–12).



Early Christian writings tell us that Peter’s successors, the bishops of Rome (who from the earliest times have been called by the affectionate title of "pope," which means "papa"), continued to exercise Peter’s ministry in the Church.



The pope is the successor to Peter as bishop of Rome. The world’s other bishops are successors to the apostles in general.







HOW GOD SPEAKS TO US







As from the first, God speaks to his Church through the Bible and through sacred Tradition. To make sure we understand him, he guides the Church’s teaching authority—the magisterium—so it always interprets the Bible and Tradition accurately. This is the gift of infallibility.



Like the three legs on a stool, the Bible, Tradition, and the magisterium are all necessary for the stability of the Church and to guarantee sound doctrine.



Sacred Tradition (CCC 75–83)

Sacred Tradition should not be confused with mere traditions of men, which are more commonly called customs or disciplines. Jesus sometimes condemned customs or disciplines, but only if they were contrary to God’s commands (Mark 7:8). He never condemned sacred Tradition, and he didn’t even condemn all human tradition.



Sacred Tradition and the Bible are not different or competing revelations. They are two ways that the Church hands on the gospel. Apostolic teachings such as the Trinity, infant baptism, the inerrancy of the Bible, purgatory, and Mary’s perpetual virginity have been most clearly taught through Tradition, although they are also implicitly present in (and not contrary to) the Bible. The Bible itself tells us to hold fast to Tradition, whether it comes to us in written or oral form (2 Thess. 2:15, 1 Cor. 11:2).



Sacred Tradition should not be confused with customs and disciplines, such as the rosary, priestly celibacy, and not eating meat on Fridays in Lent. These are good and helpful things, but they are not doctrines. Sacred Tradition preserves doctrines first taught by Jesus to the apostles and later passed down to us through the apostles’ successors, the bishops.



Scripture (CCC 101–141)

Scripture, by which we mean the Old and New Testaments, was inspired by God (2 Tim. 3:16). The Holy Spirit guided the biblical authors to write what he wanted them to write. Since God is the principal author of the Bible, and since God is truth itself (John 14:6) and cannot teach anything untrue, the Bible is free from all error in everything it asserts to be true.



Some Christians claim, "The Bible is all I need," but this notion is not taught in the Bible itself. In fact, the Bible teaches the contrary idea (2 Pet. 1:20–21, 3:15–16). The "Bible alone" theory was not believed by anyone in the early Church.



It is new, having arisen only in the 1500s during the Protestant Reformation. The theory is a "tradition of men" that nullifies the Word of God, distorts the true role of the Bible, and undermines the authority of the Church Jesus established (Mark 7:1–8).



Although popular with many "Bible Christian" churches, the "Bible alone" theory simply does not work in practice. Historical experience disproves it. Each year we see additional splintering among "Bible-believing" religions.



Today there are tens of thousands of competing denominations, each insisting its interpretation of the Bible is the correct one. The resulting divisions have caused untold confusion among millions of sincere but misled Christians.



Just open up the Yellow Pages of your telephone book and see how many different denominations are listed, each claiming to go by the "Bible alone," but no two of them agreeing on exactly what the Bible means.



We know this for sure: The Holy Spirit cannot be the author of this confusion (1 Cor. 14:33). God cannot lead people to contradictory beliefs because his truth is one. The conclusion? The "Bible alone" theory must be false.



The Magisterium (CCC 85–87, 888–892)

Together the pope and the bishops form the teaching authority of the Church, which is called the magisterium (from the Latin for "teacher"). The magisterium, guided and protected from error by the Holy Spirit, gives us certainty in matters of doctrine. The Church is the custodian of the Bible and faithfully and accurately proclaims its message, a task which God has empowered it to do.



Keep in mind that the Church came before the New Testament, not the New Testament before the Church. Divinely-inspired members of the Church wrote the books of the New Testament, just as divinely-inspired writers had written the Old Testament, and the Church is guided by the Holy Spirit to guard and interpret the entire Bible, both Old and New Testaments.



Such an official interpreter is absolutely necessary if we are to understand the Bible properly. (We all know what the Constitution says, but we still need a Supreme Court to interpret what it means.)



The magisterium is infallible when it teaches officially because Jesus promised to send the Holy Spirit to guide the apostles and their successors "into all truth" (John 16:12–13).







HOW GOD DISTRIBUTES HIS GIFTS







Jesus promised he would not leave us orphans (John 14:18) but would send the Holy Spirit to guide and protect us (John 15:26). He gave the sacraments to heal, feed, and strengthen us. The seven sacraments —baptism, the Eucharist, penance (also called reconciliation or confession), confirmation, holy orders, matrimony, and the anointing of the sick—are not just symbols. They are signs that actually convey God’s grace and love.



The sacraments were foreshadowed in the Old Testament by things that did not actually convey grace but merely symbolized it (circumcision, for example, prefigured baptism, and the Passover meal prefigured the Eucharist. When Christ came, he did not do away with symbols of God’s grace. He supernaturalized them, energizing them with grace. He made them more than symbols.



God constantly uses material things to show his love and power. After all, matter is not evil. When he created the physical universe, everything God created was "very good" (Gen. 1:31). He takes such delight in matter that he even dignified it through his own Incarnation (John 1:14).



During his earthly ministry Jesus healed, fed, and strengthened people through humble elements such as mud, water, bread, oil, and wine. He could have performed his miracles directly, but he preferred to use material things to bestow his grace.



In his first public miracle Jesus turned water into wine, at the request of his mother, Mary (John 2:1–11). He healed a blind man by rubbing mud on his eyes (John 9:1–7). He multiplied a few loaves and fish into a meal for thousands (John 6:5–13). He changed bread and wine into his own body and blood (Matt. 26:26– 28). Through the sacraments he continues to heal, feed, and strengthen us.



Baptism (CCC 1213–1284)

Because of original sin, we are born without grace in our souls, so there is no way for us to have fellowship with God. Jesus became man to bring us into union with his Father. He said no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is first born of "water and the Spirit" (John 3:5)—this refers to baptism.



Through baptism we are born again, but this time on a spiritual level instead of a physical level. We are washed in the bath of rebirth (Titus 3:5). We are baptized into Christ’s death and therefore share in his Resurrection (Rom. 6:3–7).



Baptism cleanses us of sins and brings the Holy Spirit and his grace into our souls (Acts 2:38, 22:16). And the apostle Peter is perhaps the most blunt of all: "Baptism now saves you" (1 Pet. 3:21). Baptism is the gateway into the Church.



Penance (CCC 1422–1498)

Sometimes on our journey toward the heavenly promised land we stumble and fall into sin. God is always ready to lift us up and to restore us to grace-filled fellowship with him. He does this through the sacrament of penance (which is also known as confession or reconciliation).



Jesus gave his apostles power and authority to reconcile us to the Father. They received Jesus’ own power to forgive sins when he breathed on them and said, "Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained" (John 20:22–23).



Paul notes that "all this is from God, who has reconciled us to himself through Christ and given us the ministry of reconciliation. . . . So, we are ambassadors for Christ, as if God were appealing through us" (2 Cor. 5:18–20). Through confession to a priest, God’s minister, we have our sins forgiven, and we receive grace to help us resist future temptations.



The Eucharist (CCC 1322–1419)

Once we become members of Christ’s family, he does not let us go hungry, but feeds us with his own body and blood through the Eucharist. In the Old Testament, as they prepared for their journey in the wilderness, God commanded his people to sacrifice a lamb and sprinkle its blood on their doorposts, so the Angel of Death would pass by their homes. Then they ate the lamb to seal their covenant with God.



This lamb prefigured Jesus. He is the real "Lamb of God," who takes away the sins of the world (John 1:29). Through Jesus we enter into a New Covenant with God (Luke 22:20), who protects us from eternal death. God’s Old Testament people ate the Passover lamb. Now we must eat the Lamb that is the Eucharist. Jesus said, "Unless you eat my flesh and drink my blood you have no life within you" (John 6:53).



At the Last Supper he took bread and wine and said, "Take and eat. This is my body . . . This is my blood which will be shed for you" (Mark 14:22–24). In this way Jesus instituted the sacrament of the Eucharist, the sacrificial meal Catholics consume at each Mass.



The Catholic Church teaches that the sacrifice of Christ on the cross occurred "once for all"; it cannot be repeated (Heb. 9:28). Christ does not "die again" during Mass, but the very same sacrifice that occurred on Calvary is made present on the altar. That’s why the Mass is not "another" sacrifice, but a participation in the same, once-for-all sacrifice of Christ on the cross.



Paul reminds us that the bread and the wine really become, by a miracle of God’s grace, the actual body and blood of Jesus: "Anyone who eats and drinks without recognizing the body of the Lord eats and drinks judgment on himself" (1 Cor. 11:27–29).



After the consecration of the bread and wine, no bread or wine remains on the altar. Only Jesus himself, under the appearance of bread and wine, remains.



Confirmation (CCC 1285–1321)

God strengthens our souls in another way, through the sacrament of confirmation. Even though Jesus’ disciples received grace before his Resurrection, on Pentecost the Holy Spirit came to strengthen them with new graces for the difficult work ahead.



They went out and preached the gospel fearlessly and carried out the mission Christ had given them. Later, they laid hands on others to strengthen them as well (Acts 8:14–17). Through confirmation you too are strengthened to meet the spiritual challenges in your life.



Matrimony (CCC 1601–1666)

Most people are called to the married life. Through the sacrament of matrimony God gives special graces to help married couples with life’s difficulties, especially to help them raise their children as loving followers of Christ.



Marriage involves three parties: the bride, the groom, and God. When two Christians receive the sacrament of matrimony, God is with them, witnessing and blessing their marriage covenant. A sacramental marriage is permanent; only death can break it (Mark 10:1–12, Rom. 7:2–3, 1 Cor. 7:10–11). This holy union is a living symbol of the unbreakable relationship between Christ and his Church (Eph. 5:21–33).



Holy Orders (CCC 1536–1600)

Others are called to share specially in Christ’s priesthood. In the Old Covenant, even though Israel was a kingdom of priests (Exod. 19:6), the Lord called certain men to a special priestly ministry (Exod. 19: 22). In the New Covenant, even though Christians are a kingdom of priests (1 Pet. 2:9), Jesus calls certain men to a special priestly ministry (Rom. 15:15–16).



This sacrament is called holy orders. Through it priests are ordained and thus empowered to serve the Church (2 Tim. 1:6–7) as pastors, teachers, and spiritual fathers who heal, feed, and strengthen God’s people—most importantly through preaching and the administration of the sacraments.



Anointing of the Sick (CCC 1499–1532)

Priests care for us when we are physically ill. They do this through the sacrament known as the anointing of the sick. The Bible instructs us, "Is anyone among you suffering? He should pray. . . . Is any one among you sick? He should summon the presbyters [priests] of the Church, and they should pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord, and the prayer of faith will save the sick person, and the Lord will raise him up. If he has committed any sins, he will be forgiven" (Jas. 5:14–15). Anointing of the sick not only helps us endure illness, but it cleanses our souls and helps us prepare to meet God.







TALKING WITH GOD AND HIS SAINTS







One of the most important activities for a Catholic is prayer. Without it there can be no true spiritual life. Through personal prayer and the communal prayer of the Church, especially the Mass, we worship and praise God, we express sorrow for our sins, and we intercede on behalf of others (1 Tim. 2:1–4). Through prayer we grow in our relationship with Christ and with members of God’s family (CCC 2663–2696).



This family includes all members of the Church, whether on earth, in heaven, or in purgatory. Since Jesus has only one body, and since death has no power to separate us from Christ (Rom. 8:3–8), Christians who are in heaven or who, before entering heaven, are being purified in purgatory by God’s love (1 Cor. 3:12–15) are still part of the Body of Christ (CCC 962).



Jesus said the second greatest commandment is to "love your neighbor as yourself" (Matt. 22:39). Those in heaven love us more intensely than they ever could have loved us while on earth. They pray for us constantly (Rev. 5:8), and their prayers are powerful (Jas. 5:16, CCC 956, 2683, 2692).



Our prayers to the saints in heaven, asking for their prayers for us, and their intercession with the Father do not undermine Christ’s role as sole Mediator (1 Tim. 2:5). In asking saints in heaven to pray for us we follow Paul’s instructions: "I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for everyone," for "this is good and pleasing to God our Savior" (1 Tim. 2:1–4).



All members of the Body of Christ are called to help one another through prayer (CCC 2647). Mary’s prayers are especially effective on our behalf because of her relationship with her Son (John 2:1–11).



God gave Mary a special role (CCC 490–511, 963– 975). He saved her from all sin (Luke 1:28, 47), made her uniquely blessed among all women (Luke 1:42), and made her a model for all Christians (Luke 1:48). At the end of her life he took her, body and soul, into heaven—an image of our own resurrection at the end of the world (Rev. 12:1–2).







WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE?







Old catechisms asked, "Why did God make you?" The answer: "God made me to know him, to love him, and to serve him in this world and to be happy with him forever in the next." Here, in just 26 words, is the whole reason for our existence. Jesus answered the question even more briefly: "I came so that [you] might have life and have it more abundantly" (John 10:10).



God’s plan for you is simple. Your loving Father wants to give you all good things—especially eternal life. Jesus died on the cross to save us all from sin and the eternal separation from God that sin causes (CCC 599–623). When he saves us, he makes us part of his Body, which is the Church (1 Cor. 12:27–30). We thus become united with him and with Christians everywhere (on earth, in heaven, in purgatory).



What You Must Do to Be Saved

Best of all, the promise of eternal life is a gift, freely offered to us by God (CCC 1727). Our initial forgiveness and justification are not things we "earn" (CCC 2010). Jesus is the mediator who bridged the gap of sin that separates us from God (1 Tim. 2:5); he bridged it by dying for us. He has chosen to make us partners in the plan of salvation (1 Cor. 3:9).



The Catholic Church teaches what the apostles taught and what the Bible teaches: We are saved by grace alone, but not by faith alone (which is what "Bible Christians" teach; see Jas. 2:24).



When we come to God and are justified (that is, enter a right relationship with God), nothing preceding justification, whether faith or good works, earns grace. But then God plants his love in our hearts, and we should live out our faith by doing acts of love (Gal. 6:2).



Even though only God’s grace enables us to love others, these acts of love please him, and he promises to reward them with eternal life (Rom. 2:6–7, Gal. 6:6–10). Thus good works are meritorious. When we first come to God in faith, we have nothing in our hands to offer him. Then he gives us grace to obey his commandments in love, and he rewards us with salvation when we offer these acts of love back to him (Rom. 2:6–11, Gal. 6:6–10, Matt. 25:34–40).



Jesus said it is not enough to have faith in him; we also must obey his commandments. "Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ but do not do the things I command?" (Luke 6:46, Matt. 7:21–23, 19:16–21).



We do not "earn" our salvation through good works (Eph. 2:8–9, Rom. 9:16), but our faith in Christ puts us in a special grace-filled relationship with God so that our obedience and love, combined with our faith, will be rewarded with eternal life (Rom. 2:7, Gal. 6:8–9).



Paul said, "God is the one who, for his good purpose, works in you both to desire and to work" (Phil. 2:13). John explained that "the way we may be sure that we know him is to keep his commandments. Whoever says, ‘I know him,’ but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him" (1 John 2:3–4, 3:19–24, 5:3–4).



Since no gift can be forced on the recipient—gifts always can be rejected—even after we become justified, we can throw away the gift of salvation. We throw it away through grave (mortal) sin (John 15:5–6, Rom. 11:22–23, 1 Cor. 15:1–2; CCC 1854–1863). Paul tells us, "The wages of sin is death" (Rom. 6:23).



Read his letters and see how often Paul warned Christians against sin! He would not have felt compelled to do so if their sins could not exclude them from heaven (see, for example, 1 Cor. 6:9–10, Gal. 5:19–21).



Paul reminded the Christians in Rome that God "will repay everyone according to his works: eternal life for those who seek glory, honor, and immortality through perseverance in good works, but wrath and fury to those who selfishly disobey the truth and obey wickedness" (Rom. 2:6–8).



Sins are nothing but evil works (CCC 1849–1850). We can avoid sins by habitually performing good works. Every saint has known that the best way to keep free from sins is to embrace regular prayer, the sacraments (the Eucharist first of all), and charitable acts.



Are You Guaranteed Heaven?

Some people promote an especially attractive idea: All true Christians, regardless of how they live, have an absolute assurance of salvation, once they accept Jesus into their hearts as "their personal Lord and Savior." The problem is that this belief is contrary to the Bible and constant Christian teaching.



Keep in mind what Paul told the Christians of his day: "If we have died with him [in baptism; see Rom. 6:3–4] we shall also live with him; if we persevere we shall also reign with him" (2 Tim. 2:11–12).



If we do not persevere, we shall not reign with him. In other words, Christians can forfeit heaven (CCC 1861).



The Bible makes it clear that Christians have a moral assurance of salvation (God will be true to his word and will grant salvation to those who have faith in Christ and are obedient to him [1 John 3:19–24]), but the Bible does not teach that Christians have a guarantee of heaven. There can be no absolute assurance of salvation. Writing to Christians, Paul said, "See, then, the kindness and severity of God: severity toward those who fell, but God’s kindness to you, provided you remain in his kindness, otherwise you too will be cut off" (Rom. 11:22–23; Matt. 18:21–35, 1 Cor. 15:1–2, 2 Pet. 2:20–21).



Note that Paul includes an important condition: "provided you remain in his kindness." He is saying that Christians can lose their salvation by throwing it away. He warns, "Whoever thinks he is standing secure should take care not to fall" (1 Cor. 10:11–12).



If you are Catholic and someone asks you if you have been "saved," you should say, "I am redeemed by the blood of Christ, I trust in him alone for my salvation, and, as the Bible teaches, I am ‘working out my salvation in fear and trembling’ (Phil. 2:12), knowing that it is God’s gift of grace that is working in me."







THE WAVE OF THE FUTURE







All the alternatives to Catholicism are showing themselves to be inadequate: the worn-out secularism that is everywhere around us and that no one any longer finds satisfying, the odd cults and movements that offer temporary community but no permanent home, even the other, incomplete brands of Christianity. As our tired world becomes ever more desperate, people are turning to the one alternative they never really had considered: the Catholic Church. They are coming upon truth in the last place they expected to find it.



Always Attractive

How can this be? Why are so many people seriously looking at the Catholic Church for the first time? Something is pulling them toward it. That something is truth.



This much we know: They are not considering the claims of the Church out of a desire to win public favor. Catholicism, at least nowadays, is never popular. You cannot win a popularity contest by being a faithful Catholic. Our fallen world rewards the clever, not the good. If a Catholic is praised, it is for the worldly skills he demonstrates, not for his Christian virtues.



Although people try to avoid the hard doctrinal and moral truths the Catholic Church offers them (because hard truths demand that lives be changed), they nevertheless are attracted to the Church. When they listen to the pope and the bishops in union with him, they hear words with the ring of truth—even if they find that truth hard to live by.



When they contemplate the history of the Catholic Church and the lives of its saints, they realize there must be something special, maybe something supernatural, about an institution that can produce holy people such as St. Augustine, St. Thomas Aquinas, and Mother Teresa.



When they step off a busy street and into the aisles of an apparently empty Catholic church, they sense not a complete emptiness, but a presence. They sense that Someone resides inside, waiting to comfort them.



They realize that the persistent opposition that confronts the Catholic Church—whether from non-believers or "Bible Christians" or even from people who insist on calling themselves Catholics—is a sign of the Church’s divine origin (John 15:18–21). And they come to suspect that the Catholic Church, of all things, is the wave of the future.



Incomplete Christianity Is Not Enough

Over the last few decades many Catholics have left the Church, many dropping out of religion entirely, many joining other churches. But the traffic has not been in only one direction.



The traffic toward Rome has increased rapidly. Today we are seeing more than a hundred and fifty thousand converts enter the Catholic Church each year in the United States, and in some other places, like the continent of Africa, there are more than a million converts to the Catholic faith each year. People of no religion, lapsed or inactive Catholics, and members of other Christian churches are "coming home to Rome."



They are attracted to the Church for a variety of reasons, but the chief reason they convert is the chief reason you should be Catholic: The solid truth of the Catholic faith.



Our separated brethren hold much Christian truth, but not all of it. We might compare their religion to a stained glass window in which some of the original panes were lost and have been replaced by opaque glass: Something that was present at the beginning is now gone, and something that does not fit has been inserted to fill up the empty space. The unity of the original window has been marred.



When, centuries ago, they split away from the Catholic Church, the theological ancestors of these Christians eliminated some authentic beliefs and added new ones of their own making. The forms of Christianity they established are really incomplete Christianity.



Only the Catholic Church was founded by Jesus, and only it has been able to preserve all Christian truth without any error—and great numbers of people are coming to see this.







YOUR TASKS AS A CATHOLIC







Your tasks as a Catholic, no matter what your age, are three:



Know your Catholic faith.

You cannot live your faith if you do not know it, and you cannot share with others what you do not first make your own (CCC 429). Learning your Catholic faith takes some effort, but it is effort well spent because the study is, quite literally, infinitely rewarding.



Live your Catholic faith.

Your Catholic faith is a public thing. It is not meant to be left behind when you leave home (CCC 2472). But be forewarned: Being a public Catholic involves risk and loss. You will find some doors closed to you. You will lose some friends. You will be considered an outsider. But, as a consolation, remember our Lord’s words to the persecuted: "Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven" (Matt. 5:12).



Spread your Catholic faith.

Jesus Christ wants us to bring the whole world into captivity to the truth, and the truth is Jesus himself, who is "the way, and the truth, and the life" (John 14:6). Spreading the faith is a task not only for bishops, priests, and religious—it is a task for all Catholics (CCC 905).



Just before his Ascension, our Lord told his apostles, "Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you" (Matt. 28:19–20).



If we want to observe all that Jesus commanded, if we want to believe all he taught, we must follow him through his Church. This is our great challenge—and our great privilege.


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