How can I overcome sex?

Question

Ever since I was a little girl, I was interested in sex. I'd find nude magazines in the house and look at them. I would flip to the HBO channel and see if I could find porn. At that age, I didn't relieve any pleasure out of it, per say, but it was interesting. Then when I got older, I started watching porn because it made me feel 'tingly' (I was in 6th grade). Then in 9th grade, I got a computer and I started searching "Free Sex Videos". My brother found out and was so disappointing so I stopped looking sex up. Then... Gradually I would take a peek at sex videos online again. I then learned to masturbate in HS and now I need to do it at least 3 times a month. I am so overwhelmed by sex and I feel like it's controlling my life. How can I get these temptations out of my heart? I'm still a virgin, but I feel like if I allow myself to have sex, I'll let it take over me like everything else, and I'll just cheat on my boyfriend and be promiscuous. Someone please help.

Answer 1

You become what you put in your mind. Change your thinking, read the Bible and pray for spiritual help from God, and make right choices. At the moment a sexual thought enters your head, replace it with wholesome thoughts. It's your choice. Don't allow your head to be controlled by demonic forces.



God says, "22. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

23. gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23)

God tells you to exercise self control because the responsibility to keep a clear head is on you. You choose. Read it for yourself.

Answer 2

That massive, urgent sex drive you have is perfectly natural. It's part of being human. Dealing with it in a safe, sane manner is what is important.



There's nothing wrong at all with masturbating and releasing that pent-up energy! Use this time to learn about what excites you and what feels good. This will make you a better, more pleasing lover in the long run.



I think when the time comes for you to have sex, you'll find that it's so much more brilliant with someone you love, that the temptation to run amok will be less than you fear.

Answer 3

This is a struggle for so many people. You're definitely not alone with this, so don't feel discouraged. And of course, remember that sex itself was created by God to be good - it was made to bring the strongest unity between a man and a woman and to give us pleasure!



Any sin has the ability to really take over your life, and sexual sin is one of the strongest. I've struggled with the same stuff and I've been able to have victory over this through a couple means.



First, you have to understand the gospel of Jesus Christ. What Jesus did when he became human and died, was that he took on him the sins of the world. This means that if we come to him in faith, we receive full and complete forgiveness from our sins. If you're in Christ, you don't have to be controlled by the guilt of your sin! Your sins have already been punished by God in the death of Christ, and they can't be punished again. This for me is the biggest thing for overcoming any sin. If I'm not looking to Jesus for forgiveness, I'll just be destroyed by my guilt.



Second, you need people around you who are going to help you. Go to your local church and find some older women who have lived the Christian life for a while and open up to them. There are so many people who have been through this and who won't condemn you for it and who can give you practical ways to grow.



Third, you might want to pick up a book that gives you more details about this. One little book that I've read that is great is "Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is," by Joshua Harris. It's pretty cheap and its super easy to read and it will be a huge help to you. It was to me :)



I hope that helps :)

Answer 4

You shouldn't be ashamed of masturbation or curiosity, you just need to make sure your brother or anyone doesn't catch you lol. But really, masturbation is the healthiest way to deal with what you are feeling, its a way to release sexual tension without cheating on your boyfriend. It sounds like this might be a religious issue with you, the reality is its natural to crave sex and the feeling just won't go away because you want it to. Try not punish yourself and there are plenty of sexual health sites online if you are still curious. But mainly try to relax, the more you worry about sex, the more you are going to think about it.

Answer 5

All this is 1005 normal, everyone goes through these stages. Sex is the biggest incentive to make people do things in this world. Embrace it. Don't be deviant and cheat on your man though. Also don't let your brother or anyone find out as it's a private thing. But sex is not a bad or evil thing. It is what makes the world go round

Answer 6

3 times a MONTH? start to worry when it's 3 times a day.



Some people are highly sexually charged, you're just drawn that way.



Be smart about it. Don't have sex just because you feel the need to get off. Don't let just any person stick his thing inside you. Be choosy.



Find a guy (or girl) who really turns you on and have at it all you want.



Don't forget to take the pill. Nothing ruins a good sex life like unwanted pregnancies.



Have fun, and don't sweat it. It's pretty normal.

Answer 7

You define how important things are in your life. I see nothing wrong with a healthy sex life but if it is consuming your life or affecting it in a way you do not like then you have a problem with it.



Try talking to someone about it and see if that helps if not then seek professional help.



A large portion of your subconscious mind is dedicated to reproduction. These thoughts are normal just don't let them control you.

Answer 8

The day you found you parents nude magazines and looked at them was the day the doorway or portal opened from demons to enter you body. They enter through the senses and invite more in until the host is completely taken over.



I suggest this site. http://www.greatbiblestudy.com/deliverance_ministry.php





YAH bless you, and may Messiah YAHUSHA free you.

Answer 9

Pray when you get tempted.

Or get up and take a walk or go somewhere.



My sister got married at 25 as a virgin & I sill respect her for that.

I went for about 5 years without masturbating & as a male that's almost unheard of.



Wait on your marriage.

Answer 10

Having sexual thoughts is part of being human you're no different than anyone else.

Besides masturbating 3 times a month is not that much, you'd have to be masturbating at least 3 times a day for it to be a problem.

Answer 11

Saying ´I need to masturbate at least 3 times a month´ is like saying ´I need to eat a small cream cake three times a month.´ I.e. not such an out-of-control indulgence. Just enjoy. It´s harmless and nice.

Answer 12

I can't believe there is a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend only because she feels a lack of sex in he life. Women do not have such sex drive. I'm telling you, you won't cheat on your boyfriend. Cheating is never just sex, especially with women. It's usually some other complications in relationships.

Answer 13

Don't think about it,

but more than that,

you have never trained yourself to do that,

so begin now.



Mind is like Dirty Water, all the moving thoughts are the dirt particles that stir the water of the mind and make it murky, but when you still the mind, the rest of the dirt drops to the bottom, and the water becomes crystal clear, this is the awareness of mind, with a mind like that you can go further than ever before.



The mind is like a weak muscle in the beginning, it can't lift a lot of weight, but with continued practice, it becomes familiar and easier to do, eventually adding more weight to get stronger at what it is doing. The meditation helps increase the awareness of what you are doing so distraction does not tempt you away.



The Fundamentals of Meditation Practice

http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/chanmed1.pdf



Powers attained thru Concentration

http://www.buddhanet.net/wings_d.htm

Answer 14

Perfectly normal curiosity & physical reactions.



At your age, perhaps you are just not ready yet for sexual relationships. I wasn't when I started & was pretty active...just keep waiting, stay busy & physically active with other things like jogging until you're a little older & more emotionally mature to handle these things.

Answer 15

Gary LOL!!!



Enjoy yourself, so long as you harm no one.



@ Buddhist Prime Exceptional abilities like telepathy and the like cannot be obtained by meditation. I challenge you to find any scientific study that concluded that such abilities had resulted from meditation.

Answer 16

Uh huh. My mama didn't raise no fools, and I can spot a virgin livin' in their parent's basement when I see one. If you'll excuse me, I have some chicken to fry.

Answer 17

3 Times a month?!



Your not getting enough

Answer 18

its your curiosity that is bothering you.



have sex in a controlled EDUCATED AND SAFE manner. you are horny because you haven't had sex and feel ashamed of it likely due to abusive and erroneous teachings of your religious background.

Answer 19

you masturbate 3 times a month and are worried?!? live a little, don't feel guilty and it won't run your life.

Answer 20

once you have sex yo'll probably be disapointed with your first time and see it isnt such a great deal , its like money it isnt important if you have lots of it.

Answer 21

start thinking outside the "box"

Answer 22

One does not overcome sex. One comes over sex.

Answer 23

Therapy? =/

Answer 24

Why would you want to "overcome" one of the most pleasant and wonderful things life has to offer?

"I need to do it at least 3 times a month."

Wow, you're quite the nymphomaniac huh?

Answer 25

do the : FAST fasting in my religion brings closer to God and takes you away from the plaisures, and material things of life, and after breaking your fast,lower you gaze when you see the opposite sex, it is a tourment to the soul, worship, and pray, and engage in charity, later on find a good husband and be faithful, and God will help you.

Answer 26

have it

Answer 27

die

Answer 28

call on JESUS