I need Christian relationship/life advice.... Please help me.?

Question

You see... Here's how my story goes...
I'm 17 and a devout Christian. And starting on Tuesday, I have had a serious downturn in my faith.... A serious dry spell.
It's gotten to the point where I'm sad. Depressed, severely depressed. I'm afraid of so many things going wrong. I've been getting panic attacks. I feel like I'm losing my mind!

Starting 2 months ago. I started dating a girl who is also a Christian names Katie.
At the beginning of the relationship. I thanked God everyday for having her. I felt like she blessed my life immensely. But now... I feel nothing but sadness. I think about her, see her. And I just get sad... It's like I should be feeling love in my heart, but my Love has been replaced with sadness...
Idk why... I feel like I'm going to lose her because of my lack of faith.
I've been praying and begging God for guidance. And I just feel so lost...

What should I do?... I don't wanna lose her.... I don't wanna lack in faith anymore... I don't wanna be afraid anymore...
What do i do?....
(Before you say "focus on school" and stuff like that. I have straight a's and Im involved in many extracurricular activities)

Thank you all for any advice and God bless you.

Answer 1

The best advice I can give you is that you have your life ahead of you and the way you feel now is not the way you will always feel. Relationships are tough and, particularly at age 17, emotions are tumultuous and sudden. Things won't always be like that.



Pray through the situation. Give God control and trust there will be a good outcome. Hold on because you are worthwhile in His eyes. Just because you feel low, doesn't mean God does not care. Those are the times He cares for us the most; sends people into our lives, opens up opportunities and gives us the space to grow. You need to find yourself and your relationship with God within times of being alone.



Although they can be snarky at times (and a little too focused on scoring points), the atheists here are totally correct about seeing a psychologist. I know it feels like you are giving control to someone else, but see a Christian psychologist if you are concerned they may manipulate you with regard to your faith. If you are genuinely clinically depressed, you may need that further treatment to start recovery. A psychologist will be able to assess how serious things are and set you on the right track. Don't despise the qualified and professional help God has permitted you to access.

Answer 2

This girl has her place and God has his place.



If you are a devout Christians, then you should know that Christians do go through tests, examples such as Daniel in the Lion's Den, Abraham and Isacc with the mountain top test, how we go through test and trials is what makes us strong as Christians.



Our lives must have a correct spiritual diet, and balanced.



If you place faith in God instead of a human flesh, then that is what you will experience.



God says "Thou shalt not have any idols" this relationship is an idol in your life, and you do not realize that if she is for you, God will preserve the relationship, but she cannot replace God in your life--she is an idol or object hence the feelings of doubts and fear, because the devil knows by placing these fears in your heart, is based simply on putting her before God--since God is the giver we should have a balanced approach to anything as a Christian.

Answer 3

If you were Bar Mitzvaed, (Sorry, spell ck didn't help me with this one) you are probably pretty strong with your religion. If girls choose not to go out with you because you are Jewish, I don't think you need them anyway. If when you are older and thinking of marriage, that is a different thing. Then you would have a lot to discuss. Talk it over with your Rabbi.

Answer 4

Remember God first, family second, you third. You are just a kid. Enjoy life while you are still young and seek out how you can serve the Lord first. Katie should just be a friend.

Answer 5

Your problem is being involved in the relationship.



Of course and I believe and know of people that have been in relationships that there is a 95% chance of getting really intimate. You know the sexual stuff.

Now do you not fear that sin before marriage.

Answer 6

one word. Depression. I'm the same age, except an atheist and I feel the same way.

seek help. I did.

Answer 7

Go talk to a Christian psychologist....



Oddly enough, they will give the same advice as an atheist psychologist...



But, of course the Christian will be more correct... *Eye roll*



Depression is a real problem that is not 'religion' dependent... and they say religion does no harm, *facepalm*



IMHO

Answer 8

Seek and you will find my friend. You need to draw closer to God. When in a relationship we often seek to please our spouse or girlfriend. That energy we spent towards God can often be carried away with distractions of life and love.



Satan will often use these times as a time to attack. Peter says in his first epistle,

"Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you."

It's no wonder you are feeling down depressed and defeated! We have an enemy. Make sure your actions are righteous with your woman and keep from sin with her. Draw close to the Lord and I would suggest you fast from whatever distracts you most from your walk with the Lord, even if it is Katie herself. If she is really following Christ she should desire the same. Make sure your relationship is with God first, then with Katie, and you might want to ask God to show you her heart and to show if she is that right person for you.



For instance, when I was younger I prayed for a wife and met a girl, but it was not blessed. I didn't take the time to really pursue God with all my heart and seek the answer. It ended up in a full out war. Now that I'm older and am walking with the Lord, when I asked the lord for a woman in my life he told me to focus on him. When I did I was blown away by how awesome he was. When he was ready he spoke to my heart and told me I was ready to be married. Through prayer I found her by God showing me who she was and what to look for. We have been married for a couple years and the relationship I had in the past is dwarfed to nothingness compared to what I have now. It's amazing yo, so I would encourage you to do that. Not to shuck off Katie, but really if it is what the Lord wants then that's what's best. It's your job to find out what he wants and to not settle till you do. Katie might be that one for you and I hope so, but be encouraged first to draw close to the lord.

Answer 9

Pray to God on your knees regularly and tell Him this story, and ask Him if she is the one for you. Ask also for faith. Church of Jesus Christ and Latter-day Saints